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My confusing relationship problem.

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I'm not going to waste time; this is the reason why I joined this forum. I'm having an issue with my current relationship, and everyone I've asked for help so far has given me the kind of answer that doesn't include my faith at all--and I NEED my faith to be included!

So here's the deal. And I hope I'm posting this in the right place. I've been dating the same guy for the past four years; we got together when I was 17, and now I'm 21. We've been perfectly happy together; he's a great Christian guy, and we both agreed early on to stay pure for each other. (We've even got the matching True Love Waits rings and everything.) We go to college together, and it's been a great relationship. Sure, it's had it's ups and downs, but I've never wanted to be with anyone else, and I'm assuming he hasn't either, since he's still with me!

Now comes the problem. Lately I've found myself with what could only be described as a "crush" on a friend of mine. And to really throw a wrench in the works, so to speak, this friend is female. I've never once thought that I was anything other than heterosexual, and now I suddenly find myself with "funny feelings" for this girl I know. I don't like it, I'm not happy with this, and I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend very much, and I firmly believe we'll get married someday and be happy together. I just know that this new development is NOT right and I don't know what to do about it. I need some help from people who are like-minded in faith, so I thought I'd see if I could find any advice here.

Thanks for reading that long-winded post.
 
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Are you sexually attracted to your boyfriend?

If you're sexually attracted to your boyfriend and/or men in general, then don't worry about it. There are people in life whose personalities are just absolutely amazing, and oftentimes, one can have a "crush" on them not because of their sex but because of their personality. I have friends that are guys who are just seriously awesome people. No sexual attraction exists, but there is an attraction to their personality which could be considered such a "crush".

Talk to your boyfriend about it, pray, and don't worry about it or put too much stock into this kid crush.
 
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Fight it sister. Satan's tryin to pull you away from God. Women were made for men (unfortunately - unless He just made you for Himself like with the apostle Paul and some other great beings, which gives me hope) and men for women. It's Satan who tries to mix them up. Or, rather, let Jesus fight it for you. Just go to him as I did, years ago, when I was trapped in confusion as well. It was only a short while but I know it felt like hell to me. You need to hear Him whisper the truth. The truth will set you free. God made Adam and Eve. Remember it. Eve for Adam. And He matched up all His own noble men and women in the Bible with the opposite gender.
 
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I don't think your bf is the right person to discuss this with. If it's really bothering you I suggest you see a licensed Christian counselor. You may want to do a little search on the internet on this subject that is geared towards Christians.
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If they have ANY hope of possibly being together for more time than they have been thus far, then she should be able to come to him with this problem. If either one of them knows that this is absolutely the end for them, then obviously, they weren't meant to be together. Why waste money and time on putting off the inevitable?
 
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Thanks, everyone, for all these replies--they've all been helpful and inspiring in their own ways.

I haven't yet brought up the subject with my boyfriend, because I was hoping to have a grasp on it myself before bringing him more into the picture than he already is. I do realize that I should talk to him about it eventually, but I don't feel that right now is the best time--plus, it's finals week, so he and I are both already stressed beyond our usual limit.

I'm truly hoping these confusing feelings go away soon. I have been praying VERY much over it, and I do feel like I'm starting to get some footing--starting to find solid ground to stand on again. Thank you all so much for the advice yet again.
 
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