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I was always afraid this day would. One as he lived a life of excess. He was killed in a terrible car accident and they wouldn't let me see his body.
I need some kind of sIgn that he made it to Heaven. I am so full of grief that sometimes I can't breathe. We have had such a hard life. I wIsh I could have changed the outcome. Had an intervention. Lord knows I did alot for him but there could have been more.
Thanks for listening friends.
 
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Thank you.
Mornings seem to be the worst. I have to process everything all over again.
I am in such agony I feel like I can't take care of my house or play with my son. I take frequent breaks to the bedroom and cry. Wail. Ache for his hug, his jokes; angry that I knew it was coming and I couldn't stop it.
 
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Hi SadSister,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved brother. I am praying for him and you and all concerned. It will get better in time, it's true. I lost my sister and it was hard for quite awhile. Keep posting here to get support. God bless you.
 
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It is so very hard and to be honest, I don't deal with death in a way I should. I tend to push it aside and one day I think it will catch up to me.

All I can say is don't do it that way. Allow yourself to grieve, it is okay but keep leaning on the Lord too.

Paying now

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Cally
 
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SadSister said:
Thank you Ruth. Is there some kind of manual how to get through this? I'm just reading the bible all day and meditating on his word. I have to trust that God is in control and I truly believe that. But it still hurts unbearably.
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You need to go into grief counseling. It will be five years this July 1st since my husband passed away from cancer. I had counseling and it helped a lot. There is still grief, but with time it does get better. Try this website to see if there is a place close to you that you can go to for the support you need. GriefShare: Grief Recovery Support Groups

Praying for you!
 
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Hello Sister, I will be praying for you. Believe me, time will ease some of the grief, though one can never forget such an experience. You know "there is a time to be born and a time to die", as God says, and for each it is different according to the circumstances. God is overall, and as one told me years ago when I lost my father: God never makes a mistake. When we lose a dear one, we can only say: I hope that in the secret of his/her heart they confessed the Lord. Maybe you will see him again above this scene; yet, you have some good memories.

Stay close to the Lord and thank Him for all His care and mercies along our pathway in this wilderness land.
 
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