Moving

I've been living with my boyfriend for a little over two years on and off and the past year its been all of the time. We've been together for a little over 6 years now. Financially we've been unstable so we've been living with his parents who don't mind us living here. However, he feels like its getting to be time to move out soon as he doesn't want to be the 30 year old living with his parents. Now, moving would be a lot easier if he didn't just get me a kitten for Christmas this year that I've grown very attached to.

However, the options are limited in our area and surrounding areas. Its just not feasible to move too far away. We've got a roommate lined up already. The decision came into play when our friend's mom said she had a place shes fixing up and remodeling. However, the kitten can't come there because other tenants will see the cat and go out and get their own. Since she prefers no pet owners, she has to say no to my kitten as a prevention method. So far we've only found one other potential place that allows pets. All of the other places are projects or equally horrible areas. I'm not exactly sure what to do... since we obviously can't stay here forever. The place our friend's mom showed us was really nice besides the fact we can't take our kitten. If we leave him; he'll be left with my boyfriend's parents who fell in love with him when we brought him home. So I'm not exactly worried about how my kitten will be doing but rather I'll just really super-miss him.

iambren said:

Woman-up and leave the kitten. Moving on is the priority. Maybe after some time you can get your own house and have the kitten back. Good luck with the new place.

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The decision to never own a house has been made years go- we'll always rent....

UPDATE:
It looks like I'll probably have to leave the kitten. The location of this place has a bus stop in a good place that will allow me to look for jobs in the city and going to it via bus. Theres also several places to apply to down the street as well. Moving anywhere else will completely cross those potential jobs off my list because I won't be able to get there. I've applied everywhere (which isn't many places) in the area I am currently in. Even just staying where I am now... there's no jobs here for someone who can't/won't drive. Putting that aside even if I did begin to learn how to drive that would take much longer than I'd want to wait for a job.

ImperialPhantom said:

Why won't you drive?

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I hate being in control of moving vehicles- including bikes. I won't even ride a bike. I just panic and shut down...
I used to want to drive as a kid and even had a dream car in my head.... but then my mom said "oh you can't drive, you'll crash" which she really only said so I'd wait a few years (I was 16 and excited like any 16 year old) but it stuck in my head all those years. Learning how to drive won't fix this issue- it would just take too long because I wouldn't get my license at least for another year since it takes time to learn. Also it still wouldn't open up any other places available since we aren't willing to move to the city. Neither my boyfriend nor our friend is willing to move there. There are places several towns over, however my boyfriend doesn't want to move there. The area we currently live in has nothing on rent.com, papers, or on craigslist. The next town over (about 5 minutes away) has openings only in the BAD parts of town. Driving won't magically open up places for us to live.