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Sorry, I didn't mean to take away your hopeDude, you're not giving me much hope. I have to admit that my first ex-bf (after my divorce) was a godly man who probably just needed to heal from past childhood hurts. One treated me like a queen and was truly a Christian, but still viewing porn. The third I know he accepted Christ and made church a priority, but changed his view about pre-marital sex and it almost seemed like he wasn't going to be happy unless he tried me out before marriage. He also was the most critical person I'd ever dated and made racist remarks.
But, I have been spending time with someone who certainly "seems" like a Christian. So I haven't given up all hope. Now, a big question that a lot of the women my age have is, have these guys in their 40's been single too long to share their life with a woman day in and day out in the same house?
What it means depends on the man. I'm pretty sure he likes you, but I wouldn't assume that he has romantic feelings for you.Okay if you are standing in church talking to someone and a man comes up behind you and turns you around to hug you, wouldn't you take that he likes you.
Also, if I was 40 years old and have been single for a long time, I'd more than ANYTHING want to live my life with a women day in and day out. There's no amount of time that would take that desire away. I've been single all my life, and I can't wait for the day a women comes into my life, even if I have to wait till I'm 60.
Of course, I can't say everyone is like me, but I'm sure there are PLENTY of guys in their 40's who have been single a very long time and wish they had someone like you more than anything!
i have to agree with this we read to much into things.
he and i have so much in common i just wish he would see it, lol.
No. It's just a hug. It may or may not mean anything. If you want to know what he meant by the hug or the reason behind it, ask him why he did it. "Were you in a good mood or something and wanted to share it?" "Hey, so you're a good hugger...what's up with that?"Okay if you are standing in church talking to someone and a man comes up behind you and turns you around to hug you, wouldn't you take that he likes you.
I strongly disagree. I'm 100% aware of my body at all times, and I am frequently misinterpreted, and it makes me feel like people are too quick to misread me. It sucks. Do not rely on nonverbal communication, even if all the stupid research says that 70% is nonverbal.I would start paying real close attention to his "body language" AND... do you like him?
It's not just men, EVERYONE is hard to read. Because some people are very friendly or even very affectionate, but NOT in a romantic way, just platonic.
Likewise some people, even when romantic, aren't very friendly or affectionate.
If you have interest in a guy that you think might have interest in you, then let him know somehow and go for it.
It's a lot easier to be blunt and just say you're interested than to mess around with flirting and seeing his reaction, playing some kind of game. People send "clues" and "hints" because they lack the guts to just outflat tell the person. If you do that, you'll get the same amount of response as the response you put in. The heavier the hint, the more likely he'll catch on, but nothing compares to just outflat saying it, without shrowding it in uncertainty.
The worst that can happen is you get completely humiliated and rejected. The best is that he feels the same way. Better to find out early than to wonder and worry about it because you only dropped a few hints that he hasn't got yet.
Heh, guess I can't always 100% agree with Ronny...Absolutely not. The exact same thing applies to men as women and women as men. I only said it in that way because I read SO MANY stories about women being LIED TO by men claiming to be christians, and I've heard little to no stories of women lying to get the men.
My mom was even lied to by my dad and before that her ex-husband. They both claimed to be passionate christians. After they were married, the first one said he was an atheist and the second became "jewish" but doesn't really know what he believes.
I'm pretty sure it's more common that the man lies to get the women than the women lying about christianity to get the man. From my experience, men lie A LOT in relationships, while women don't lie as much about their religion, and the guy falls for her anyway. Heh, even in popular culture like a movie I just watched "School for Scoundrels" one of the "lessons" the men had to learn to get women was "Lie Lie Lie and Lie some more."
Although I don't know if it's the women's fault most of the time, from what I read it really doesn't seem like it is. It always seems like the man's fault for being such a horrible person and being so pathetic in relation to being a REAL man (Godly, emotional, not hiding their emotions to be "manly", etc. etc.)
I don't know much about the average women in our society, but the average american male is incredibly emotionally, mentally, and spiritually unhealthy, and women pretty much are screwed when it comes to relationships.
Luckily there's guys like me out there,but we're few and far between. Even finding a good christian guy is SO HARD because SO MANY guys LIE about being a good christian.
I really really feel sorry for women, because most of them seem so sweet, yet most men are so absolutely evil, mentally/emotionally messed up, and just outflat crappy.
If you want something to read, get a novel.
If you want something to hug, get a man.
Could be due to a drop in testosterone.Perhaps. I see your point, but I'm 40 and single all of my life and I obsess about it far less now than I did when I was in my 20s and 30s.
Hmmm, shopping for men like you shop for clothes... what's the return policy like, or is it like shoes and you just keep 30 pairs standing by just incase you need one of them?Easier said than done or 'Men 'r' Us' would be doing a roarin' trade with queues round the shop.Or maybe that should be 'Good Christian Men 'r' Us'.
Okay if you are standing in church talking to someone and a man comes up behind you and turns you around to hug you, wouldn't you take that he likes you.
Would a girl doing that to you be a sign that she likes you?
Good Point!
I don't know but as for me and my friends.. we are not that opening giving of hugs
Could be due to a drop in testosterone.
Happens with age.
I think he is AWESOME!!!! But he goes through girlfriends wayyyyy to fast.
I'm not going to say a word about that one.
It would appear that by age 45, reality kicks in and the guys say, "Oh my God. I'm still single and have no kids. I better find someone quick!"
I vote for keeping 30 pairs in case you need one of them at some pointHmmm, shopping for men like you shop for clothes... what's the return policy like, or is it like shoes and you just keep 30 pairs standing by just incase you need one of them?
And to the OP... stop trying to read them and maybe just confront them about opening up... if they aren't willing to, then kick them to the curb! Just a thought.
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