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Tenka said:I honestly never though I would see the term 'lusting' used in the context of a relationship with Jesus...
I think lust is a fairly carnal emotion...and should not to be used to describe other kinds of desire.
You know, Adiya is going to give you another lecture on your flagrant sexuality and I will be compelled to defend you, again.
Nym said:Mmm....lusting....
Adiya said:It's not flagrant sexuality. I have no problem with sexuality. Sex is beautiful, and should be enjoyed. Women are sexual beings and should be admired. Men are sexual beings and should be admired. Her posts that emit sexual overtones are not about sex, they are about a need for attention.
I think that's sad. I'm sure she'll get defensive and make fun of the fact that I find it sad, but again, that is just a defense mechanism to drive the attention away from the real reason she posts things like this:
My recognition of her neediness is not about admonishing or attacking her. It's because I do care. Say what you will about me, but the attention I give to her now is not full of emptiness. It's about a promise of caring, and a desire to help in a true and meaningful way, as only a friend can do.
Brennin said:I imagine you mean well, but I know her a little better than you do and I think you are off the beaten path here.
Don't worry, all you "I don't want to lust" types. I've got the solution. Frontal labotomy. You'll never lust again! Or do anything else, either. But that's a small prie to pay for sexual purity, no
Adiya said:You confuse lust with desire. There is plenty of desire within this body, and most Christians will tell you that they also have strong desires. Simply because somebody doesn't want to have sex outside of marriage doesn't mean they're a boring. That's a fallacy, and you have fallen for it. Let's hope you mature with age, like a fine wine, instead of an old skunky beer.
Tenka said:I honestly never though I would see the term 'lusting' used in the context of a relationship with Jesus...
I think lust is a fairly carnal emotion...and should not to be used to describe other kinds of desire.
I wasn't implying they were boring. Though some of them are. But then a lot of people who do like to have sex are boring too. I like to think of myself more as scotch than beer or wine. Or maybe vodka. Whichever's funnier.
Adiya said:I would have made the same comment about somebody who had a "religion" and repeatedly posted comments with sexual overtones. It's just a need for attention.No intent to hurt your feelings here, just an honest point of view.
Adiya said:Yeah, it's hilarious to see a 17 year old kid drunk on scotch, looking for sex. Hooo Hah! Somebody stop the laughter. I might pee myself.
Nym said:You may wish to know me better before passing judgement.
Adiya said:Now you're getting defensive, and that was expected. As I said, there is no judgement here. It's just an observation. It's hard not to make some kind of observation when somebody continually posts things like this on a Christian forum:
"Mmm....lusting.... "
"it's yummy" (the topic was referring to sex)
"Every sperm is sacred, every sperm is good. Every sperm is needed in your neighborhood!"
"Some insects have scrubbing brushes on their penis to scrape the other guy's sperm out of the female before he knocks her up."
"Of course he does. He's a, uh, BIG man. Mary got pregnant, didn't she?" (referring to God)
I could go on. There are so many many of them. I'd rather not. I can think of more exciting things to do.... like floss my teeth perhaps.
Nymphalidae said:P.S. I get defensive when busybodies try to psychoanalyze me. Am I needy? If by needy you mean "needing religious zealots to stay the hell out of my personal life," then yes. Christians have a habit of insulting others under the guise of concern, and I'm tired of it. If you've got something to say, say it. Just don't pretend to be a good person while you're doing it.
Brennin said:You know, Adiya is going to give you another lecture on your flagrant sexuality and I will be compelled to defend you, again.
Adiya said:It's not flagrant sexuality. I have no problem with sexuality. Sex is beautiful, and should be enjoyed. Women are sexual beings and should be admired. Men are sexual beings and should be admired. Her posts that emit sexual overtones are not about sex, they are about a need for attention. I think that's sad. I'm sure she'll get defensive and make fun of the fact that I find it sad, but again, that is just a defense mechanism to drive the attention away from the real reason she posts things like this:
Nym said:Mmm....lusting....
My recognition of her neediness is not about admonishing or attacking her. It's because I do care. Say what you will about me, but the attention I give to her now is not full of emptiness. It's about a promise of caring, and a desire to help in a true and meaningful way, as only a friend can do.
Lines such as 'I find it sad' or 'I feel sorry for him/her/them' are, in my opinion, clearly condescending in nature. It puts the author at a higher position of apparent compassion and the target at a lower level of implied depravity. These kinds of statements are used all too often and people must think they are clever when they do this, as if the reader won't pick up on the negative connotationsAdiya said:It's not flagrant sexuality. I have no problem with sexuality. Sex is beautiful, and should be enjoyed. Women are sexual beings and should be admired. Men are sexual beings and should be admired. Her posts that emit sexual overtones are not about sex, they are about a need for attention. I think that's sad. I'm sure she'll get defensive and make fun of the fact that I find it sad, but again, that is just a defense mechanism to drive the attention away from the real reason she posts things like this:
If you don't know her I don't see how you can truly care. It is of course acceptable and important for you to express you disapproval of her postings, but attempting to dissuade her from expressing herself isn't really caring.Adiya said:My recognition of her neediness is not about admonishing or attacking her. It's because I do care. Say what you will about me, but the attention I give to her now is not full of emptiness. It's about a promise of caring, and a desire to help in a true and meaningful way, as only a friend can do.
It is of course acceptable and important for you to express you disapproval of her postings, but attempting to dissuade her from expressing herself isn't really caring.
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