Lonesly & Depressed

Read the title. Those two words describe my life right now.

I have no close friends. The fact that I'm lonely and depressed has me stressed, too.

I'm at a point in life where I don't know what to do. All I know is that I truly can't take being this miserable anymore.

I need to know, from anyone who has ever recovered from this (or is going through it right now), what you do or have done to overcome this? I'm literally talking about true loneliness. Outside of my parents and a sister, I have no one to turn to. And depression is all that's inside you, if you ever try to be happy...it's because you're doing a good job faking it.

Historic Christianity, read Charles Spurgeon, his so gentle yet real in his sermons.
Read bible, fast, pray without ceasing. Don't let this time that you have alone go to waste.
Plead from the Lord for grace upon grace, so that you may one day wake up in the morning and exclaim
"Psalm 63:3 ..your steadfast love is better than life"
The aim is to find your joy in Jesus.

I was VERY depressed in high school. I had a lot of my family dying from illnesses or from nothing apparent at all, a lot of the people i had thought were my friends pretty much had no time for anymore, and i had, for all intents and purposes, turned my back on God. I lost a lot there in just a few years; i became a very angry and weak person. I wanted to make it on my own from then on...

Long story short, i had to be humbled pretty deeply for me to finally realize that i needed help. It took nothing short of God himself intervening in my life for me to get out of that pathetic state. Had he not, i may have very well committed suicide; i contemplated it several times in those two or three years. It was that bad (in my mind).

I say all that to say this; is there anything in your life that you are not giving up to God that you know you should? I don't mean to be one of Job's friends here (accuse you of suffering for going through pain), but i believe often times God will use these moments in our lives to humble us and get us closer to Him.

It may not result in you making friends right off the bat, but i believe it will help with the loneliness. Please don't dismiss what i'm saying as "good in theory but not practical." I have been there man, i know whats it like to feel true loneliness. I'm still looking for friends, but i'm a lot more at peace now than i was a few years back. I still have those days where I'm feeling down or angry or hopeless, but at the same time I'm actually fairly optimistic about what tomorrow brings .

If you think i'm simplifying the matter, please discuss what happened to lead to this, if you don't mind. I believe God can handle any matter we give to Him, but sometimes its better to know what all is going on; if nothing else just to get it off your chest.

I'm about to head off to class so i'll be on later if you respond. Hope this helps man, and i hope your day goes much better than usual.

God bless ya.

I've tried giving God everything, but I just end up feeling the same way. Lonely and depressed. Every time I try to reach out to someone, it's like they always have better things to do than deal with me. I always feel that way.

I'm at the point where this is driving me crazy. To answer your question, I don't know what led me to feel this way to be honest. I've felt uncomfortable in my own skin for a long time now, and I've just grown deeper and deeper into isolation. I don't have anyone to turn to. That's what really hurts.

And when I say I don't have anyone, I literally mean I don't have anyone. Okay, I have my family...my parents and a sister, and without them I probably wouldn't live. However, soon they'll be going on vacation soon for a couple of weeks...and I'll be literally all alone in every sense. Going through this now, this is the worst time. Life seems hopeless right now.

I'm just never happy because of this. I've had no luck in life with anything that can really make me happy.

I've gone through similar situations before: depression and feeling that nobody is there for me (except the family). What you have to remember is that God is always, and I mean ALWAYS, there for you. What helps me is to admit to myself and to admit to God that I am not always strong enough to fight off depression or other sins on my own. That is when I ask God to give me strength, His strength, with wisdom and discernment to overcome any sin or feelings of depression. Usually, I can feel the Holy Spirit actively answering my prayer. Sometimes happens in an instant, but sometimes can take a little longer.

If you still hit rock-bottom, then make sure you get out of your house and surround yourself by people. Even go to the movie theater by yourself if you have to. The point is that you'll be surrounded by people. This normally helps me.

Praying for you.

O do I know this feeling all to well.

I am a quite/ kept to self person and only had one close friend that had his own things going on being busy most of the time. After my girlfriend dumped me I was pretty much alone... same as you I have family but they aren't spiritual so I don't feel like I can come to them.

How I have been climbing out of it (more like carried out) is God, God, and God. Just spending as much time with Him as I can... reading the Bible, praying, and finding some good Christian music to sing and get into. I can't tell you how many times I have prayed for joy and for good godly people to come into my life. There is NOTHING even comparable or even words to describe the joy He will fill you with, just ask! He has also been putting some great people in my life, I have learned you just have to drop your walls and trust God. Remember, for us quite people, God made us in image of Him!!! If people can't accept you for you its their loss and for your good, move on to other people.

Just be confident in who you are as a man of God!

Another thing I have learned is depression and the feelings of loneliness is NOT from God, it is a scheme of the enemy! If the enemy can seperate you, you are easier to overcome. Be bold in your faith and pray for people to come into your life. Pastors are great to talk to as well... they are human as well and I am sure they have gone through this as well.

Counseling is a good place to start. Look at craigslist and the local paper to find things to do, especially things you might like to get involved in.

That's how I would and have started.

Metherion

I'm sorry you're going through this. HolyFlame made a great point. Even though you feel alone and like you've no one, you're not alone. HE is always there. I would suggest focusing on activities that make you happy right now, no matter what it is [they are]. The hobbies you find joy in. Volunteering can also have a positive impact on how you feel about yourself. I'm curious about what else is going on in your life that could be making you depressed. Surely, there has to be more to it than not having any friends. Above all, take everything to Him in prayer. You said: "I've tried giving God everything, but I just end up feeling the same way." Perhaps, you did not trust him wholeheartedly.


Psalm 40:1-3
Praise For Deliverance
I waited patiently for the Lord; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry. He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings. And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the Lord.

Listening to music, a hobby, maybe a movie; Things to keep your mind off of loneliness & depression.

Basically just try to keep your mind busy or relaxed. I relax with a movie and some Comedians. Try that. Laughter always brings my spirit up.

Hope this helps man

BigB said:

Read the title. Those two words describe my life right now.

I have no close friends. The fact that I'm lonely and depressed has me stressed, too.

I'm at a point in life where I don't know what to do. All I know is that I truly can't take being this miserable anymore.

I need to know, from anyone who has ever recovered from this (or is going through it right now), what you do or have done to overcome this? I'm literally talking about true loneliness. Outside of my parents and a sister, I have no one to turn to. And depression is all that's inside you, if you ever try to be happy...it's because you're doing a good job faking it.

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Big B,
I just posted a simmilar thread a few weeks ago in the depression forums.
It might help for you to get out and volunteer or something, to meet people, even if they aren't your age.
Please know that you are not alone. I get that anguish and sadness. I believe that it will get better, and praying helps. I feel terrible because I'm kind of going through a lot right now and I've said some not so nice things to God, I hope He understands.
Anyway, keep posting on here and try to put yourself out there. I don't know what your status is on work/college, but like I said voulunteer or maybe take a class. Don't give up, okay?

Brother, I can't totally relate, but I can understand some parts.

My best friends who brought me to church and helped me find out who Jesus, no longer seem to be committed Christians. Everyone at church are either younger than me or if they are my age are quite busy with work and other parts of their lives. My pastor is super busy and I don't want to be a burden to him so that he can serve others at church. At times, though I put lots of effort into serving people , reading God's word, listening to sermons, keeping myself preoccupied with uni studies, I feel like I can't turn to anyone or have anyone there to support me.

But when you feel like you have no one to turn to -- look up and there is our Father in heaven ready and wanting to help you. Never will he forsake us. He will be with us always, til the very end of age.

Just as cloudstife said, I cannot totally relate. However, I do know what it feels like to be lonely and depressed. I will be praying for you.

I just happened to stumble across a social site called meetup.com. It has all kinds of groups by interest, ages, marital status, parental status and all kinds of stuff. It covers a wide range of areas all over (Canada included ). I may join a group in my area. They do all kinds of activities and stuff, it really does look interesting. There is one group in my area that is meeting up to play some sand volleyball this afternoon. Anthor group is getting together for dinner. Just thought that I'd share. Hope it helps.

I'm sorry to hear that OP.

Tell us more about your life. Do you work or go to school? Do you have any hobbies that you might be able to use to find friends? If that's you in the pic you look pretty tan, so I assume you get out a lot, no?

I was in a social rut right out of high school. Long story short I got a job where I worked with a few cool people I could hang out with sometimes, and that little "boost" I got from those interactions motivated me to get in touch with older friends and network with friends of them.

Really though, I dont need a lot of people to keep me from feeling lonely, just a few people to see every now and then. Even now I will go a few weeks here and there without seeing anyone because of scheduling or whatever.

I know what you mean because I've been feeling really down myself these past couple of months.
Good friends are hard to find, especially quality trustworthy ones. It's all about rooting the bad out of your life I suppose, some people just don't deserve to be in it. I guess you could try to get out there more, get out of the comfort zone a bit and try something new. That always gives me a boost, heck life really is too short. Only a few weeks ago there was a 7.1 earthquake where I live, thankfully no one died. But yeah, hope things get better for you