Limbo

I am new to this area of the forum. My husband and I have had a horrible last few months and may be looking at divorce. He's taken off the ring and stopped trying back in October. Sometimes I see things as getting better or having hope, but the fact that he is barely trying, if at all, and chooses to go out with friends sometimes instead of spending time with me makes me wonder if I am putting hope in nothing. I'm going to counseling alone, and I am waiting on things on my husband's side to get better before I take any action.

I am considering a local Divorce Care program, and see if that can actually help me. I was very depressed and angry, now I am just kinda going through motions myself. I really tried hard back in October when my husband first said "I am not sure I see our marriage as working out," but now I am just waiting on him, or a sign to go one way or the other. He left to go out with a party with his friends on New Year (also his birthday), and I wasn't allowed to go along. It hurt, but I stayed home, read, reflected, and trying to keep calm about it.

So, I am in limbo - sort of separated but living in the same house. He was pulling very manipulative mind games for months, being emotional abusive at times, but the moment I stopped reacting he hasn't been as bad. I almost wonder if the New Years thing was a manipulation tactic.

Anyone else living in limbo like this???

If you move toward him he will move away. If you move away from him he will probably move toward you. That is how dancing seems to work.

Get help and join that group.