Just simply stuck in life, could use some advice.

I have met very few who are able to deal with this illness without meds. I personally am bp 2 and have only ever found one med that works for me. I still have some ups and downs, but not near like the crippling depression I lived with for over ten years. My manias started being unmanageable only later in life (anger and rages), and can still be trigger by unkind accusations and such.

I also have tried many herbs and natural meds. The only one that has every stuck is fish oil. But my moods no longer seem to change whether I am on it or not. Focus Factor helped tremendously the first couple of times I took it, but it was very ex[pensive and I could not continue it. It no longer seems to impact me. So all I can share i my experiences.

Most unmedicated people I know of or have met with this illness, are self medication with drug or alcohol and their lives and the lives of those around them are in shambles.

As for looking for a life partner, I cannot give you any other advice than look for God's leading. I know in my own life I put having a partner above seeking God and finding love became an idol for me and has caused me great pain of the course of my life. I am not saying you are doing this. But can only share from my mistakes and pray that God will meet your heart's desire and bring you someone who is healthy thinking and can be a blessing to you and your life. Blessings and prayers and good o see you here at cf!

quickmotion said:

Thank you very much for your reply! I definitely will not stay off my meds, I already no the consequences. I am Bipolar II as well and I'm pretty stable now, but I have my ups and downs too.

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Alive again has said it all. And I concur with her, I even married a Christian lady because I was so lonely and was anxious to do so, and I had alot of pain that resulted. She left me and divorced after I was diagnosed which really hurts. So go slow, God will bring someone along when you are ready. I would suggest you concentrate on your studies so a decent job can be had. Living with a limited income adds even more stress to a marriage. God doesn't want you lonely. He will provide.

Although patience is such a hard trait...when it comes to finding a mate it is definately worth it. I wished I had waited longer but at 21 I got anxious and started to feel like no Christian man would want me. I fell for someone who simply worshiped me and couldn't believe that i would date them. I felt so special and loved...but it was really short lived. I could have ended up married to an alcholic and abusive man if God hadn't rescued me out of that relationship. All this to say...stick to your standards and wait for the right person.

On the otherside of your question. Fish oil, Sam-E, herbal remedies...none of that works for me....I really need my meds for stabilty. I never believe that until i was married with children...then i realized i would do anything to be stable for them.