Just because I think you'll understand...

Well I think you were right to put it out of her reach...you can't expect a two year old to remember "no" more than 5 minutes to begin with...and to put it simply...whether she normally obeys or not...it is not a matter of obediance...it is a matter of safety...heck...how many of them would listen if you put the choclate in front of them and tell them "no". They would probably look at you funny while reaching for it.

Even the bible says not to lead our brothers and sisters into temptation. And that is all you were doing...for her safety...BRAVO...most people would not even think to put it high up there...most people would have done what was suggested at the risk that a two year old would end up in the ER...

I am sorry...but thoughtless is not the word that comes to mind...lazy and selfish is more like it...that person didn't want to bother getting up to get the chocolate...inspite of other peoples needs.


Keep on Keeping on...You love your kids and it show!!!!

((((Oregal)))))

tad

I have been thinking about you alot lately...

I'm sorry you had to go through that with family . I'm so glad you stood up for your daughter even if people can't seem to 'get it'.

I went through sort of the same thing over Christmas...everytime James did something, someone would say "see there's nothing wrong with him".

then I got into a big 'discussion' with my Mum and she made it clear that all of this is in my head and I just need to back off and leave him be. I felt so discouraged. Thankfully my hubby was encouraging and made me realize that we are doing what is best for James..no matter what eveyone else thinks.

As for your daughter's allergy...you have to protect her...its got nothing to do with discipline...discipline is only effective if the child understands the consequences. "If I touch X, I'll get a time out", "If I throw that Y, then it'll get taken away". A two year old does not understand "If I eat that chocolate with a nut in it, I might die".

There have been a couple of cases in Canada in the last couple of months that will shock the socks off you (and probably your family):

1. a guy ate a PB&J sandwich, some time later he kissed his girlfriend, she died. http://www.helenair.com/articles/2005/12/11/top/a01121105_04.txt

2. another girl died after eating a Christmas treat.
http://www.edmontonsun.com/News/Edmonton/2006/01/03/1376952-sun.html

Please don't feel discouraged for protecting your daughter...God trusted you with your babies, HE knows that you will protect them and do what is best for them. I am praying for you...before I forget...is your hubby still going overseas or has he left already or does he still have to go? I've been praying for you and him...

as a parent !!!! as a sister... !!!!

[sign] loads of empathy [/sign]

I belive God gives us our "special" children for a reason, He knows we have the strength and faith to "handle" what ever situation comes along, I also believe that my child is no diff. than anyother and that the real test of my faith is to "deal" with, not my child`s "problems", But the dumb things "well meaning" people say and do! And yes, I think you were absolutely right to move what is a health hazard for your child! I mean it would be the same as putting a harmful chemical on the table and just leaving it there and saying, now don`t touch~yeah right! Maybe you could explain it that way next time~ People put child safety locks on thier kitchen cab. doors to kept harmful things out of childrens hands, thats all I`m doing by removing these nuts~ sorry if some of that sounded angry, I just hate it when an adult does not even TRY and understand!~God bless

That is HORRIBLE. I totally would have lost it on the person that said we weren't disciplining enough. A 2 year old doesn't have the reasoning power to stay away from chocolate like that and don't you think it is a little bit cruel to have chocolate out and say no you can't have any? You did the right thing. I would have gone out to 7-11 and bought my kid a big bag of M&Ms on the way home, just for having to go through that. HEH. People are so stupid sometimes. How insensitive!

Lexi
This would be a good topic on the parenting forums

I'm allergic to jalapenos. They are rather common in this area. Just the smell of them can cause me problems...my throat starts swelling shut. I once had something with some little pieces in it. For most people no big deal. For me, it was a harrowing experience. Throat closing up and such. I was lucky the benadryl was enough. I had to take TWO doses of it though, and almost had to go up to three. My father did not want to take me to the emergency room. I was glad it was so little, otherwise, it could have killed me. (So could a large dose of ligustrum pollen.)