Just a quick question about marriage.

If a couple is married, they are always married in God's eyes, one partner committing adultery does not end the marriage in God's eyes. Adultery is a justified cause for the ending of a marriage, but as far as I know, it doesn't automatically end a marriage. It temporarily breaks the committment that was made, but that can be restored. I hope that helps to answer your question.

DebbienPaul said:

If a couple is married and one goes outside of the marriage and commits adultery, from what I understand they are no longer married in God's eyes. Does that mean that they are living in sin if they choose to stay together?

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No. Your understanding is wrong. Marriage is marriage and cheating spouses are still married in God's eyes and they are adulterers. Since adultery does not annul marriage, if they stay together, they are not living in sin, they are living in matrimony.

As someone else said, it is one of the few reasons mentioned in the Bible re: reasons for divorce. God would prefer the marriage be restored by seeking healing for this marriage through His divine intervention. The Bible says He hates divorce. However, I think if the adulterous spouse has no intention of stopping the adulterous affair, the faithful spouse would have no choice but to divorce. The important thing is to seek what God's will is for this relationship and to not let anyone else influence your decision. Everyone will give you their opinion, but seek out God's will and do His will. The world would tell you to take him/her for all he/she has. Ask God to help you see the things that He loves about your spouse and try to focus on those things. If this marriage can be saved, it sure would bring glory to God. Satan wants to destroy our families. I think Satan's motto may be divide and conquer(spelling). If the wandering spouse is not a Christian, the most urgent prayer would be to bring him or her to Christ.

I prayed for both spouses. May God restore this marriage and bless you with His presence in a mighty way.

I think one of the most beautiful pictures of marriage in the Bible is the book of Hosea, which is collaborated thoughout the NT through references to the Bride of Christ. I think the biggest difference between God's capacity for love and ours is our limited patience. I'm sure we are all united in our gratefulness, that he has been so patient with us adultresses.

Matthew 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

raphe said:

Matthew 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

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exactly