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The definition of adultery is to have sex with somebody while you belong to somebody else.Wrong. Nowhere does the Bible talk about a man belonging to someone else as a definition for adultery.
Patriarchs did not have Jesus' words, so His rules do not apply to them.
The definition of adultery is to have sex with somebody while you belong to somebody else.
"So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress."
R 7:3
The intent purpose of a polygamous culture in the day was different than our idea of it today.
While the Law prohibited kings from taking more than one wife (Deuteronomy 17:17),
we yet see David who not only had many wives but was told that had he asked he could have had more (2 Samuel 12:8). Why is that? It had more to do with the interior motive and purpose.
It wasn't wrong to have a foreign wife/husband, the commandment that forbid it (Deuteronomy 7:3) referred to idolatrous relationships. Solomon's problem with foreign women was that they were pagans, and their idolatrous influence were detrimental to his relationship with God, thus breaking the intended purpose of the prohibition. Had he married a godly Egyptian wife, like Joseph did (Genesis 41:45), it would have been permissive.
The main scope of polygamous marriage and concubines was to increase the posterity of the male, which was permissive for a time by God. In ancient times, to increase the family and name of a person was important. It was shameful for a woman to be barren, it was like her purpose within a family setting was denied her. You can read the account of Rachel and Leah's fight, or Hannah, or Elizabeth to give an example.
However, the original, established design of the marriage institution was the union between one male and one female.
Just as divorce was permissive on account of the hardness of Israel's heart, yet it was never designed to be that way at all. Marriage lasts for a lifetime, you cannot break what God has joined together.
Since the old intent purpose of polygamy is culturally and permissively obsolete, not to mention that men don't desire it for that reason anymore, it is biblically and culturally wrong.
Yes.
But just think about how many birthdays, anniversaries, first date anecdotes and other trivia you don't have to memorize now.
See? A bright side to everything.
Jesus made no room for polygamy with his strict definition of adultery in Matthew 19:9. If divorcing your wife and marrying another woman is adultery against your first wife, then not divorcing her wouldn't make taking on a second wife not adultery.Hello guys, I've been wondering if it's a sin for a Christian man to marry more than one wife. Will a person ho to hell if he legally marries more women? Pls advice with scriptural reference. Thank you
Jesus made no room for polygamy with his strict definition of adultery in Matthew 19:9. If divorcing your wife and marrying another woman is adultery against your first wife, then not divorcing her wouldn't make taking on a second wife not adultery.
They were Jews, we are Christians. The standard Christ gave is what concerns us.Well you opened up one big topic with that post Sketcher ....
A full reply would take many pages. Which noone would likely read anyways. So a couple of simple thoughts one scripture based and one cultural.
1. Many great men of the OT are had more than 1 wife. We have David who Nathan confronted about his taking Uria's wife Bathseba. But said nothing about him already having several wives. Indeed in 2 Sam.12 Nathan says that God gave David all of Saul's wives and implied that if David wanted more all he had to do was ask God. Clearly OT saints didn't think it was adultery for a man to have more than one wife.
Jesus was speaking in moral terms, not in legal terms.2. At the time of Jesus Rome had a law that a man could only have one wife. But Israel petitioned Rome to give Israel an exemption to that law and it was granted. So the leaders of Israel, God people, thought it was important enough to continue their marriage style to petition Rome to change the law.
Mat.19 has so much going on that we have to know the marriage and divorce situation up till Jesus' time to answer that and that it a very big topic.
Yes, an interesting read is Hebrews 11 and think what do I know about the sex life if each person mentioned. ... All these did tings by faith. Like Sarah asking her husband to have sex with another woman.
I don't see people today saying these people were people of faith if we thought about what they had done sexually.
Then total up how many meet what the church says we should do and how many didn't.
Jesus made no room for polygamy with his strict definition of adultery in Matthew 19:9.
If divorcing your wife and marrying another woman is adultery against your first wife, then not divorcing her wouldn't make taking on a second wife not adultery.
Besides, you might not want to have multiple wives anyway.
By making no room for it, he took any previous existence of it away.True. He made no room for it because He never took it away. Jesus gave some men plural wives, so there was nothing to take away.
The verses I quoted, because I do not wish to pervert their meaning.To ensure you're not adding to scripture what isn't there, where does scripture uphold your rationalization?
By making no room for it, he took any previous existence of it away.
Most women are not naturally interested in joining a triad or founding one.
Few women are naturally wired to share their companion. The majority undergo significant mental and emotional challenges and struggle with anger, jealousy, and worthlessness. Adapting is her responsibility. Some men try to smooth the process or establish a hierarchy (alpha) to maintain order. But it isn’t easy by a long shot and often takes years to settle without upset.
But the long-term impact would be damaging unless she’s naturally subservient. That’s a must. She is required to subjugate herself to him and the group for the sake of the union.
There are other realities you did not cover. Appealing to the more base elements of human nature as the inhibitors is not always the reality in all plural marriages.
Again, this is only one course of reality; one vein. There are others that don't fit into this little cookie box of yours. I always view with suspicion tendencies toward demonization of a marital form simply because it does not conform to the commonly accepted cultural norm. Feminism isn't always a powerful force in the minds of ALL women.
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