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I agree with this statement. If you only are thinking of your spouse while doing so, then it is not adultery.
The act of masturbation and lust are two different things. Lust is sinful. Masturbation is not. There is no scripture to support your opinion.
A colleague of mine just handled a termination of parental rights case involving a paralyzed woman and her husband losing their rights to their 15 minor children (who were severely abused by their father). Apparently, she allowed her husband to have his way with her so that he would continue to support her. I can't help thinking that this family would have been better off if the guy could have just learned to touch more often.
Or better yet the family might have been better off had he followed the biblical model for being a husband, Eph 5:25, that seems a better solution to me
Lillen said:Not every culture have men masturbating. Masturbation is a western behaviour linked to how authorities or society organs (such as school) raise their teenagers. In my expierence lustful fixation of the penis ends in adulthood. Simply saying, adult men do not touch because they are over puberty. I find freudian psychology be quite silly, because the behaviors can be possessed.
I know God is all for sex in marriage. But what about taking care of business yourself?
Your apparent definition of "lasciviousness" is way off and I would like to see a link to the source for it.1. [Lasciviousness = without natural affection: Bestiality, necrophilia, incest, rape, homosexuality, sex-change, group sex, masturbation, sexual gratification with non-living objects, adultery, fornication, provocative attire, prostitution, pornography, etc.,]
But not all the laws have been voided.
6. None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover [their] nakedness: I [am] the LORD.
Also we can still read the old laws to inspire us to deal with issues.
Lusting after you wife is "permissible", especially after reading Song of Solomon & 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 but the end result of masturbating is still an unclean process. If the wife is involved it’s still unclean but the sin is voided.
Genesis Chapter 38
9. And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
10. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.
Question
Can anyone fully explain why Onan was killed?
Adultery has a very narrow and technical definition - the bible also speaks of fornication - an act might not be adulterous but it can be fornication so is it perhaps fornication?
Genesis Chapter 38
9. And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
10. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.
Question
Can anyone fully explain why Onan was killed?
This passage has nothing to do with teaching that sex or sexual gratification can only be had in marriage. If it taught that, it would contradict the Law, which Paul did not do. The sexual laws of the NT church were established by scripture, the OT.1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1Co 7:2 NKJ)
Now notice carefully what Paul is saying. He begins by explaining that the way to avoid fornication is to be married - so by implication any sort of sexual gratification outside of the union is fornication. hence masturbation is fornication and fornication is sin - the type of sin we read the church was to avoid (Acts 15:29).
This is just silly. First of all, I'm always good for round two and the wife will be glad that I won't be a minute man, but seriously, we're not discussing denying one's spouse by masturbation; we're asking if there are times that it is acceptable in or out of marriage, and you have failed to prove your point. Even this passage teaches that we have a right to sexual satisfaction even to the point of having dominion over another person's body. However, a little common sense here goes a long way. It's necessary to understand figures of speech when reading any text, and we would not think to suggest that a spouse has total rights over his/her mate's body or mind, for that matter. It's a joint "ownership". Each person enters the sexual relationship for THEIR OWN SEXUAL ("self-centered") satisfaction AS WELL as to give pleasure to their mate. This idea of marital sex not being at all selfish is nonsense, to put it politely.In v5 we see the final nail in the coffin - especially for males. This verse forbids one partner refusing the other satisfaction. Sex is not about selfish self fullfillment - it is about giving the other person what they need. Now how can we do that if we haqve just satisfied ourselves!
If by "lust" you mean, sexual arousal, of course, masturbation is a means of expressing or enjoying sexual arousal. But that's not the meaning of "lust", which is a desire for an evil or forbidden thing, such as lusting to have sex with another man's wife. Masturbation is usually just a desire for [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], not for a sinful sexual act. The fantasy, if there is one, should not be perverted. Sex and [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] are regarded as needs for males, and [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] is a need for all post-adolescents in terms of hormonal balance. We don't know about the sex life of Jesus, so that is irrelevant.And here you assume that one can seperate lust from the act? My friend, if there is no lust why is the act needed in the first place?
To Revrobor
If a non-believer wants proof in the bible that states incest is a sin would you point them to the Old Testament?
If, "yes", would tell him that law is active today or that has been voided by the new testament?
The act of masturbation and lust are two different things. Lust is sinful. Masturbation is not. There is no scripture to support your opinion.
Matthew Chapter 22
29. Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.
30. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.
Will those who live in New Jerusalem be having sex based on the above scripture?
If not, then why not?
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