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gallykid08 said:they tend to do that you know. ''oh...your kid has downs...i made you an appointment next thursday at 2:00 across the street to terminate the pregnancy''
gallykid08 said:i am not sure how i feel about etoptic pregnancies to be honest.
babies can feel pain, and cry, in the womb. so that is a BIG consideration in abortion. in fact i believe there is a law going through congress or wherever about that. saw it in the newspaper when i was at work
solution...USE birth control. then there wouldnt be the need for abortion of ''unwanted'' babies and pregnancies.
for saving mother and baby...i dont think we have the right to choose one of the other. and i say again...doctors need to focus on finding ways to save BOTH.
and pepper isnt alive. no heartbeat. babies have heartbeats. BIG difference.
gallykid08 said:seeds dont have heartbeat and brainwaves
and i think eggs are non-fertilized chicken eggs. so of course they're not life...
Voodoo Gypsy said:When a fetus can cry and feel pain in the womb is long after the point most abortions are performed. In the first trimester, the fetus can't feel anything, and they certainly don't cry. That's when most abortions are performed.
There are an overwhelming number of situations where the choice isn't saving the mother or saving the fetus. The choice is saving the mother and terminating the pregnancy or not terminating the pregnancy and losing both the mother and the fetus.
Before viability, a fetus doesn't have an independant heartbeat either. A fetus has a heart that beats only because the woman's beats. When the woman's heart stops beating, if the fetus isn't viable, the fetus's heart will stop beating too. In fact, if a woman goes into distress, the fetus will go into distress before the woman does because as a natural function of the woman's body, it will naturally terminate the functions that are compromising the woman's life. Since the fetus isn't supporting itself and any body function it has is because the woman controls it through her body, that's a function that will cease to save the life of the mother.
And that's nature's choice.
Voodoo Gypsy said:Give me a break. No doctor on earth worth his salt would schedule an abortion for a patient without checking with her first, unless the abortion was an emergency and the woman was incapasitated. Any doctor who did that would be waving a bon voyage to his license pretty darn fast.
Regardless, if we're speaking of an alternate universe where doctors did that with any sort of regularity, the woman doesn't have to go get the abortion. If the doctor schedules one for her, she doesn't have to go. If she does, then it's because she decided not to continue the pregnancy, not because the doctor forced her to end it.
Phred said:All these arguments are irrelevant. It doesn't matter if a fetus/blastocyst/embryo can feel pain. It doesn't matter because if the thing isn't viable it has no rights. Now, viability can be debated. We can certainly discuss when this might be and what technology means to the issue. What is not open for debate is our right to the sanctity of our own bodies.
A woman has a right to decide whether or not she'll carry a pregnancy to term. You can't force another person to donate an organ even if the person who needs it will die. You can't force a person to donate blood, sperm, eggs or anything else if they don't want to. No matter what the consequences are, we have the right to do what we wish with our own bodies.
PHRED said:Yet you'd force a woman to donate her own body's resources and risk her life. How do you reconcile this? Are you punishing a woman for having sex? Have you chosen between a woman and her unborn child? [sarcasm]You know these women, they're dirty, they've already sinned.[/sarcasm] An unborn child on the other hand... totally innocent. Pristine. So you choose which one you'll care about. Is that it?
Only thing is, it's not your choice. What we do with our own bodies is up to us. Not you, not some deity, not politicians or priests. Yes, the decisions we make do affect others. If I refuse to donate a kidney someone may die. If a woman chooses an abortion that child will never be a child.
Whatever her decision, it's her decision. Maybe someday a woman will simply hand over her fetus to a doctor who will have some technology to take it to term. Then you can argue about who pays for it.
Phred said:All these arguments are irrelevant. It doesn't matter if a fetus/blastocyst/embryo can feel pain. It doesn't matter because if the thing isn't viable it has no rights. Now, viability can be debated. We can certainly discuss when this might be and what technology means to the issue. What is not open for debate is our right to the sanctity of our own bodies.
A woman has a right to decide whether or not she'll carry a pregnancy to term. You can't force another person to donate an organ even if the person who needs it will die. You can't force a person to donate blood, sperm, eggs or anything else if they don't want to. No matter what the consequences are, we have the right to do what we wish with our own bodies.
Would you force a man to donate his kidney to another? How about his heart? Blood? Of course not. Yet you'd force a woman to donate her own body's resources and risk her life. How do you reconcile this? Are you punishing a woman for having sex? Have you chosen between a woman and her unborn child? [sarcasm]You know these women, they're dirty, they've already sinned.[/sarcasm] An unborn child on the other hand... totally innocent. Pristine. So you choose which one you'll care about. Is that it?
Only thing is, it's not your choice. What we do with our own bodies is up to us. Not you, not some deity, not politicians or priests. Yes, the decisions we make do affect others. If I refuse to donate a kidney someone may die. If a woman chooses an abortion that child will never be a child.
Whatever her decision, it's her decision. Maybe someday a woman will simply hand over her fetus to a doctor who will have some technology to take it to term. Then you can argue about who pays for it.
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You're right about this...Phred said:All these arguments are irrelevant. It doesn't matter if a fetus/blastocyst/embryo can feel pain.
I don't agree with this. Please show why a human that cannot live outside the uterus has no rights.It doesn't matter because if the thing isn't viable it has no rights.
Of course this is open for debate. When we do something to our bodies that either harms society or harms someone else, we don't always have the right to do it. Especially if this act is done out of selfishness.Now, viability can be debated. We can certainly discuss when this might be and what technology means to the issue. What is not open for debate is our right to the sanctity of our own bodies.
It's true that you cannot force someone to go out of their way to help another, but when they go out of their way to harm someone, they should be stopped.A woman has a right to decide whether or not she'll carry a pregnancy to term. You can't force another person to donate an organ even if the person who needs it will die. You can't force a person to donate blood, sperm, eggs or anything else if they don't want to. No matter what the consequences are, we have the right to do what we wish with our own bodies.
How can you say that the very slight risk of harm to the woman outweighs certain death to the fetus? Logically, the murder of a woman and the abortion of a fetus are equally as wrong. When a woman is killed she is deprived of a future of good. When a fetus is killed, she is deprived of a future of good. When the death of a woman and the death of a fetus are on the same level, how can you say that killing the fetus should come before taking a very slight chance of damaging a woman's health?Would you force a man to donate his kidney to another? How about his heart? Blood? Of course not. Yet you'd force a woman to donate her own body's resources and risk her life.
The woman is not being punished, she is taking responsibility for her actions. It is unfortunate when someone that does not want to gets pregnant, but that is no reason to end a life.How do you reconcile this? Are you punishing a woman for having sex?
No.Have you chosen between a woman and her unborn child? [sarcasm]You know these women, they're dirty, they've already sinned.[/sarcasm] An unborn child on the other hand... totally innocent. Pristine. So you choose which one you'll care about. Is that it?
The decision is up to us. The role of politicians though, is to form laws that punish people whose decisions harm others. Obviously, abortions harm others.Only thing is, it's not your choice. What we do with our own bodies is up to us. Not you, not some deity, not politicians or priests. Yes, the decisions we make do affect others. If I refuse to donate a kidney someone may die.
This is exactly what's so wrong about it.If a woman chooses an abortion that child will never be a child.
This would be ideal.Whatever her decision, it's her decision. Maybe someday a woman will simply hand over her fetus to a doctor who will have some technology to take it to term. Then you can argue about who pays for it.
Irrelevant. A cyst is life. A virus is life. A bug is life. You're arguing things that don't matter, appealing to emotion. We have a right to decide what happens to our bodies. When you recognize that we will be able to talk.gallykid08 said:pain matters. viability matters. why? because if its viable..its life. if it has a heartbeat, its life, if it has brain waves...its life. and if you take that life away, what is it? dead.
Wow... I put [sarcasm] tags on it too. But, by the definition of some here, your cousins are loose and easy. Must we accept definitions because others offer them? I think not. The same way I don't accept your definition of life.im sorry you seem to think that i think those woman are dirty. i dont think that way at all. i have cousins who have become pregnant before getting married. so what?
Perhaps they did and it failed. Still, irrelevant to the discussion.Them having sex is a choice. all they have to do to prevent pregnancy is use a little birth control. do i agree with it? no. am i going to force my morals on them? no.
Because you say so? I think not.abortion is MUCH different then donating organs or giving blood.
Sure... but it's not your decision.there are other options besides killing the baby.
Then don't have an abortion. Otherwise, it's not your decision. The fetus isn't a being with rights. It's not viable and as such the decision is about the woman's body, not the fetus.i did NOT come to the pro life decision because i happen to be a christian and believe in God. it was a decision i made after doing research.
I don't believe I used the word "christian" even once. Please read what I post. Thank you.please dont put christians in a box, thank you.
Phred said:Wow... I put [sarcasm] tags on it too. But, by the definition of some here, your cousins are *****. Must we accept definitions because others offer them? I think not. The same way I don't accept your definition of life.
Wow. He said 'SOME'. Not all.ASLER86 said:Not all think that young girls who make mistakes and get pregnant are the "B" word.....including me.
I don't they made a mistake, and now they sadly are living up the circumstances. I have a friend who became pregnant, her child is now four years old. We never condemned her or anything. She recently got married, and she is doing fine. I also have a cousin who became pregnant, we didn't condemn her, she got married two years ago and her first child is now eight.
It doesn't work to condemn...we need to be accepting of them (did you read my other earlier post)
I believe it is right.ASLER86 said:Your right, we can't force a person to do something to their body...and according to the law a person has the right to an abortion. Just because the law says so doesn't make it right.
Then what is your objection to a woman separating it? If it's separate from the mother she should be able to, at any time she wishes, remove it from her body. When she does, you wish to make that action illegal. So which is it? Separate or dependent? (And please, don't bother with the "all children are dependent" debate. A fetus can't take it's care from just anyone as a child can.)A woman can have an abortion, but it doesn't mean that we can't fight to educate the biological/scientific aspects of what the fetus is capable of in the womb and how it is our responsibility to help protect our children. The thing is, the fetus in seperate from the mother concerning DNA, and it has its own heartbeat. It has its own organs and brain....it is seperate from the mother.
You don't wish to educate a woman, you wish to indoctrinate her. Education isn't really your point. If it were, you'd be open to those who were educated going forward with an abortion. No, this is a smokescreen. And... it's irrelevant to our right to do with our bodies as we wish.I care about the unborn fetus, but I care about the mother too. Our society does not completely educate a young girl or woman who goes in to have an abortion, which may lead to regret or consequences later.
I don't know... nor do I really care. I'm not trying to be harsh, just honest. I believe every woman has a right to decide whether or not to carry a child to term. I also believe every woman has the right to make a mistake... I don't have to like abortion to argue women have a right to it. Safely and privately.You really shouldn't be arguing about sinners either, how do you know that I didn't have an abortion and that is why I am so pro-life now??
Well, thanks.Just something for you to think about.
Our society does not recognize the unborn. You can't insure a fetus, you can't get a social security number and claim them on your taxes. Until a fetus is born it is not a child. If it can't survive by itself outside the uterus it is not an independent being with a claim to a life.Marek said:I don't agree with this. Please show why a human that cannot live outside the uterus has no rights.
Some "one"... that's my point. A fetus that cannot live outside the uterus is not "one." You see it differently. I understand.It's true that you cannot force someone to go out of their way to help another, but when they go out of their way to harm someone, they should be stopped.
I"m sorry, this is rhetoric without substance. The future is irrelevant. The kid could be a saint or a sociopath. You don't know and we can't base decisions upon "maybe." A woman's body is hers, no one elses, no matter what the reason. What you're saying is that once conception occurs a woman's body is no longer her own. I disagree.How can you say that the very slight risk of harm to the woman outweighs certain death to the fetus? Logically, the murder of a woman and the abortion of a fetus are equally as wrong. When a woman is killed she is deprived of a future of good. When a fetus is killed, she is deprived of a future of good. When the death of a woman and the death of a fetus are on the same level, how can you say that killing the fetus should come before taking a very slight chance of damaging a woman's health?
Again, I don't agree it's a life. The "life" begins at birth. But these semantics we keep dragging ourselves into are irrelevant. A woman has the right to choose what happens to her own body.The woman is not being punished, she is taking responsibility for her actions. It is unfortunate when someone that does not want to gets pregnant, but that is no reason to end a life.
Not obviously. I disagree.The decision is up to us. The role of politicians though, is to form laws that punish people whose decisions harm others. Obviously, abortions harm others.
Phred said:Then don't have an abortion. Otherwise, it's not your decision. The fetus isn't a being with rights. It's not viable and as such the decision is about the woman's body, not the fetus..
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Mmmmm... didn't use the "B" word. I'm sorry, I didn't realize it had been censored. I shall edit.ASLER86 said:Not all think that young girls who make mistakes and get pregnant are the "B" word.....including me.
Whether the pregnancy is a mistake or not is irrelevant. I actually agree that rape isn't a valid excuse for an abortion. If you're going to be anti-abortion you have to realize whatever happens is not the child's fault. You can't abort it for that reason. Either you agree with me that a woman has a right to do with her body as she wishes or you choose to say that a woman must be a container for a child... even against her wishes.I don't they made a mistake, and now they sadly are living up the circumstances. I have a friend who became pregnant, her child is now four years old. We never condemned her or anything. She recently got married, and she is doing fine. I also have a cousin who became pregnant, we didn't condemn her, she got married two years ago and her first child is now eight.
We do. But I don't often see acceptance. It's 2005 and we still have pregnant high school girls being asked to drop out because they're pregnant. This issue is much larger than just abortion. And society doesn't easily change.It doesn't work to condemn...we need to be accepting of them (did you read my other earlier post)
A potential human being.gallykid08 said:by your definition...what is a ''fetus'' aka an unborn child? is it not human then?
But "human life" is not a "human being." This is where we diverge. By that definition should I have a cyst removed, it is "human life" even though it is not a "human being." Are they different, certainly. But neither can survive without another human being directly attached to them. As we've already noted... I don't have to give a transfusion if I don't want to. If that means another person will die... that's my decision.yes some things have life...bugs, plants, etc. but if its its human life we're talking about...thats different.
You're telling a woman that she must, once impregnated, carry the child to term even if she doesn't want to. But you'll also defend a man's right not to give blood to another if he doesn't want to. Why does a fetus deserve more rights than an already born man? A woman must donate her own body as a vessal for the fetus to grow. She must allow the fetus access to her cirulatory system. What's the difference between a needle for a transfusion and a placenta?how is abortion different from giving blood or donating organs? i dont see you proving that to me at all.
Np... I understand. You know, not all pro-lifers are Christian either... and vice-versa.also...your right abt me saying not to put christians in a box. sorry about that. i shld have said pro-lifers instead.
That doesn't mean their arguments aren't valid, just that you don't find them convincing. At some point you decided the potential life of a child outweighed the right of a woman to make decisions about her own body. I disagree.since i believe the unborn child is human, has life, and has rights...i believe abortion is wrong. i dont see how it can be justified. i've talked with pro-choicers before and they cant seem to give me a convincing arguement.
We're funny we humans. Yes, I'd try to stop it. But you know what? Many of us also sit by and watch as others are killed. We sit here in America and watch as bombs go off in the Middle East killing hundreds if not thousands. But we justify it. We justify watching an execution by telling ourselve the person "had it coming." They deserve the punishment we dole out. But a fetus... now what could it ever do to deserve not getting a chance to live?would you stand by and watch someone get murdered? or try to stop it? that is what abortion is like for me. i cant stand by and watch.
Phred said:Mmmmm... didn't use the "B" word. I'm sorry, I didn't realize it had been censored. I shall edit.
Whether the pregnancy is a mistake or not is irrelevant. I actually agree that rape isn't a valid excuse for an abortion. If you're going to be anti-abortion you have to realize whatever happens is not the child's fault. You can't abort it for that reason. Either you agree with me that a woman has a right to do with her body as she wishes or you choose to say that a woman must be a container for a child... even against her wishes.
We do. But I don't often see acceptance. It's 2005 and we still have pregnant high school girls being asked to drop out because they're pregnant. This issue is much larger than just abortion. And society doesn't easily change.
One of my justifications, yesWhat happens when YOU or your wife is that "hardly"?This is your justification for abortion?This is the best you can do?
I disagree to my dying breath with you on this, having actually gone with a close friend to a clinic where she had an abortion for a rape-baby. Plus I think it would be MORE punishment to the child to let it be born. The mother cant look at that child the way other mothers can look at thier children, that child is a reminder of a hellish event. Eventually it would get to the point where she couldnt go near the child and she would neglect it or put it up for adoption. How would you like that news one day "Hey, your father was a rapist and your mother was too scared of you to take care of you." FORCING a woman to have a rape-baby would be cruel and unusual punishment in my opinion. Rape is THE most horrifying event that you can live through, nothing else compares. Death is a weekend in Palm Beach compared to rape. Now your forcing a souviner of that tour through hell on the woman?Whether the pregnancy is a mistake or not is irrelevant. I actually agree that rape isn't a valid excuse for an abortion. If you're going to be anti-abortion you have to realize whatever happens is not the child's fault. You can't abort it for that reason. Either you agree with me that a woman has a right to do with her body as she wishes or you choose to say that a woman must be a container for a child... even against her wishes.
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