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INTJ + INFJ ... thoughts?

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I am an INTJ. INTJ and INFJ are two of the three rarest of the personality types, so it is an unlikely matchup by shear numbers.

I think they would make an awful pairing. You are right, INTJ's are often sarcastic and pragmatic. It takes a similar personality type to not only appreciate this, but to even tolerate it.

For what Myers-Briggs is worth (which isn't much given its reliability stats), data has shown that INTJs typically end up with INTJs. For the most part, opposites don't attract.
 
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chemica said:
data has shown that INTJs typically end up with INTJs. For the most part, opposites don't attract.
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Oh? What data is this? Are you getting this from somewhere or just speculating based upon personal knowledge? (Behold the typical combination of Ni+Te)

I would tend to agree with the INTJ+INTJ pair and know at least one married couple who work quite well.

However, INTJs are fairly autonomous sorts and unless circumstances are just right, I think the pairing will often form an unstable equilibrium where either person will get bored or angered and wander off.

The question in my mind is whether the INTJ+INFJ pair is more "stable". Ideally...When the INTJ gets bored, the INFJ's zeal for life and their particular cause will serve to inspire. When the INFJ gets angered, the INTJs cool-headedness will serve to alleviate the situation.

As an aside, I have come to the conclusion (based on theory and personal experience) that the INTJ+INFP pairing has high probability of failure. Essentially, we're wired to drive each other nuts while still managing somehow to remain superficially attracted to each other.
 
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I've noticed that many INTJ's end up with SJ types. There are lot of SJ types out there... so that may explain it!

Oddly enough, I have two INTJ siblings. Neither of them married other INTJ's.
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I know a couple who the female is INTJ and the male is ISTJ.
 
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radhead said:
I know a couple who the female is INTJ and the male is ISTJ.
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I know a couple that's the other way around... male is INTJ, and female is ISTJ. They seem very happy together.
 
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I am an INFJ and my boyfriend is a INTJ. We are a perfect match. I think that any differences we have are overcome because we have such excellent communication skills. So ya, I don't know about other people but God made us perfect for each other!
 
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chemica said:
I am an INTJ. INTJ and INFJ are two of the three rarest of the personality types, so it is an unlikely matchup by shear numbers.
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Based on my experiences with the test, I find that a lot of people tend to say they are INTJ, INFJ or the other "less than one percent" category, INFP. Do any of you find this seems to be the case as well?
 
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TriptychR said:
Based on my experiences with the test, I find that a lot of people tend to say they are INTJ, INFJ or the other "less than one percent" category, INFP. Do any of you find this seems to be the case as well?
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Nowadays, it seems that "inferential statistics" indicates an higher prevalence for each type, as found in Wikipedia. As I am not familiar with inferential statistics, I'm not sure how reliable that data is. Seems a little sketchy to me. Most, if not all, INTP web sites still say that we're only 1% of the population. Cursory examination of other IN-type sites reveals that they also claim to be 1% of the population. This is not surprising because all of the IN personality types were once said to be approximately 1% of the population. I have found that most of the older MBTI literature supports this.

Personally, I've met many INTJ's, many INFP's, a good number of INFJ's, but no other INTP's. Either I find myself in situations that are more likely to attract those other types, in which case I may actually be one of those other types myself, or there are simply fewer INTP's than any other type. Not that I should rule out the possibility that dumb luck has effected my anecdotal evidence.
 
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TriptychR said:
Based on my experiences with the test, I find that a lot of people tend to say they are INTJ, INFJ or the other "less than one percent" category, INFP. Do any of you find this seems to be the case as well?
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Two reasons for this:

1) Many of these online tests don't do a great job of categorizing people and tend to put people at extremes with few people in the middle categories.

2) Introverts spend much more time online, and are hence much more likely to fill out and online survey.
 
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I'm also in the 1%... IN(T/F... only one point of difference on the last 3 times I've done the test!!)P category.

Basically, western society is geared towards an ESTJ preference... so combinations that have two or more on INFP are naturally going to be in a minority.
 
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Those would sound reasonable, except in my case:

1) I used the test out of the book "Please Understand Me II," written by David Keirsey.

2) I gave that test to a variety of people in my high school several years ago as part of a project.
 
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