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Both male and female can be (and usually are) cisgender. It literally means not-transgender.I don't identify as cisgender. I identify as a male - and that's what I expect to be called. /end of it
I don't care. It's meaningless to me and offensive. I won't have a small minority dictate to me how I identify my gender. Nor will I be dictated to on how to refer to the sexes. I identify as old school. A boy is a boy and a girl a girl. / the endBoth male and female can be (and usually are) cisgender. It literally means not-transgender.
Both male and female can be (and usually are) cisgender. It literally means not-transgender.
I don't identify as cisgender. I identify as a male - and that's what I expect to be called. /end of it
I don't care. It's meaningless to me and offensive. I won't have a small minority dictate to me how I identify my gender.
Nor will I be dictated to on how to refer to the sexes. I identify as old school. A boy is a boy and a girl a girl. / the end
This snapshot from an article captures the madness of the transgendered madness
Instead, the court ruled that the school must tell all of its male students that their physical privacy isn’t as valuable as that of a single transgender student, and that they must be okay with a biological female using their restrooms, changing rooms, and locker rooms. They must immediately and without complaint surrender a right to physical privacy that has been assumed for centuries because of the objective differences between male and female bodies. And they don’t even get a “Sorry.”
Read more at: http://www.nationalreview.com/article/434410/transgender-bathroom-madness
The female above refused a private accommodation because it caused her psychological stress.
But the psychological stress on her fellow students is unimportant. They must shut up and just deal with it.
And there are scores of people who can't see this as a problem.
It's also worth noting that a whopping 82% of trans individuals do not feel safe at school:
According to a study conducted by the National Center of Transgender Equality (2011):
- 82% of transgender youth report that they feel unsafe at school
- 44% of them had been abused physically (ex. punched, shoved, etc.)
- 67% of them had been bullied online
- 64% of them had their property stolen or destroyed
My friend Cory identifies as male as well. However, she's not cisgendered. Obviously, "male" is a more immediately useful identifier, but this doesn't mean you aren't also cisgendered, and it doesn't mean that cisgendered is not a useful term for describing you in the context of the relationship between your sex and your gender identity. Perhaps a prospective partner would be interested in knowing if you were born with a male phenotype, or whether you are in fact more like my friend Cory?
We're not. "Male" is a perfectly adequate identification for your gender and I don't think anyone has a problem with you using it. Cisgendered simply describes something else.
For what it's worth, if a friend of mine objected to being labeled "cisgendered" for personal reasons, I'd probably oblige. It's a reasonable thing, much like an African-American friend objecting to being called "black". But if the reason for this is "I don't think gender identity is a thing"... Then we're gonna have a problem. For what it's worth, I have little problem with just saying "not transgendered" if you'd prefer that.
Care to mosey on down to my other thread and help us figure out how to determine which is which?
http://www.christianforums.com/threads/how-do-we-define-man-and-woman.7942859/
So, just so we're clear here, a transgendered youth in the process of transitioning does not want to constantly have attention called to the fact that he is, in fact, transgendered by using a private bathroom. It's worth noting that individuals suffering from Gender Dysphoria attempt suicide at a rate of around 41% and face constant abuse and harassment due to their condition, and that being able to assimilate as a member of the gender one identifies with is an important part of therapy for the condition. It's also worth noting that a whopping 82% of trans individuals do not feel safe at school:
According to a study conducted by the National Center of Transgender Equality (2011):
- 82% of transgender youth report that they feel unsafe at school
- 44% of them had been abused physically (ex. punched, shoved, etc.)
- 67% of them had been bullied online
- 64% of them had their property stolen or destroyed
These numbers show that more than half of these students are being victimized on a regular basis. Although the treatment of LGBTQ children does vary across the country, that was a national study. Bullying is present all across the country, and it is almost guaranteed that no matter where they live, a transgendered child will encounter bullying at their school.
A fair point. But it's also not hard to understand why girls might not want Steve with the penis in their locker room or bathroom. What's lost in this whole discussion is the majority of girls (and guys) that are also affected and put under stress.So at this point, it's really not that hard to understand why a single-stall restroom is not good enough. It's really not that hard to understand why a transgendered individual might not want to be "othered" in yet another way.
So what's the competing interest? That some boys are afraid that a "girl" - who identifies as male, is transitioning, and has every reason to be as unobtrusive and unnoticed as possible - might "violate their privacy"? It's a bathroom.
You go in there to urinate and defecate. It's not like she's demanding videotapes of their sexual activities. There are individual stalls with locking doors if you're worried about someone seeing you at the urinal, and I still have no idea why a transman who may or may not even like men would be a greater violation of privacy than, say, literally any gay or bisexual man (who I guarantee you have always been using the men's bathroom).
The fact is that according to the modern interpretation of the law, and according to the advice of organizations like the AMA, APA, AAP, WPATH, and WHO, Gavin Grimm is just as much a boy as I am. And I have absolutely no problem with that, and I don't understand why anyone else should. The shift here has been that slowly but surely, the law is catching up with the state of medicine and psychology.
I skimmed the article, but I didn't see a comparison with non-transgender students. Those numbers are about what I'd guess for any group of students.
Based on...?There are folks who identify as parrots, cats, a dragon, and who knows what else. What you identify as doesn't make you what you are. If you were born male, you're a male. That's it. Forget the arguments about ambiguous genitalia. Those are exceptions. The kid in Kindergarten Cop had it right.
If you are born male, but say you identify as a female, you are in reality still a male. More accurately, you are a male that claims to be female. You're not a female just because you think you are. You are only if you really are.
Yes but it describes something else that doesn't correspond to reality.
This figure seems to come from this paper. It has a handful of noteworthy methodological problems, not least of which is the sample size of 25 - a little on the small size, if you ask me, particularly for such a counterintuitive result. Like, just for comparison, this article talks about a study with a sample size of 55 where the number was not over 80%, but rather 0%. Weird, huh? Maybe the beta blockers would cause that, but given that they don't cause gender dysphoria in those who aren't transgender, it seems like an iffy proposal.It's also a fact that kids who identify as different from their birth gender revert back to their birth gender by in excess of 80%
Gender Dysphoria is a recognized mental disorder, wherein the misalignment of your gender with your sex causes the more general condition of dysphoria. It's typically resolved by bringing your sex in line with your gender, as we currently know of no way to bring one's gender in alignment with one's sex.You used some interesting words: "suffering" and "the condition." I don't suffer for being a male (I don't identify as male - I am a male) nor has it ever been considered a "condition" to be male. But apparently it's a condition to be transgendered? How is that normal then?
It's not that simple. If it is, then just use a neutral bathroom and be done with it.
http://www.usnews.com/news/blogs/da...down-at-schools-but-more-students-feel-unsafe
...So, no, not really. 7.1% vs. 84% is a pretty big difference. I can't compare "doesn't feel safe at school" with "doesn't feel safe to the degree that they refused to go", but there's still a pretty huge gulf between those numbers. Similar figures can be found here. Your estimates seem extremely pessimistic....
I doubt that a major bullying website would make a point of bringing up LGBT bullying if it wasn't an actual issue.
http://www.usnews.com/news/blogs/da...down-at-schools-but-more-students-feel-unsafe
...So, no, not really. 7.1% vs. 84% is a pretty big difference. I can't compare "doesn't feel safe at school" with "doesn't feel safe to the degree that they refused to go", but there's still a pretty huge gulf between those numbers. Similar figures can be found here. Your estimates seem extremely pessimistic, and somehow I doubt that a major bullying website would make a point of bringing up LGBT bullying if it wasn't an actual issue.
biology....if you're a male biologically, you're a male. If you are a male and identify as a female, the best you can do is be a cosmetic female. Kris Jenner is still a biological male. He identifies as a female. He's basically a biological male that's dressed up as a woman and got a boob job. Nothing will make him fully female unless he actually is that.Based on...?
No, seriously, I fail to see why this is a meaningful way to define "male" or "female". You are aware that there are numerous physiological components to gender identity, right? This isn't even really a matter for debate - transgendered people simply have differences in brain structure, hormone regulation, and more.
It may be a real thing in that the person "identifies" as a gender that differs from their birth gender. But that won't change the fact that biologically they are still their birth gender. And it many not be a PC invention but it is clearly driven by PC activism.Scientifically, there really isn't any doubt that gender identity is a discrete thing. It's not just some PC invention to help the delusional, it's actually there.
And given how prevalent it is in one's self-awareness, given that even very young children recognize on their own whether they are boys or girls based not on what's in their pants but apparently what's in their brains... Well, not only am I pretty sure that strict terms of "male" or "female" become increasingly blurry, even if we were to assume that, defining it entirely by whether you had a penis or a vagina when you were born would be a poor way to go about doing things... Even if it actually worked, because intersex people are a thing.
Meanwhile, do those other identities have any similar evidence base? Is there some structural issue in the brain that causes a man to think he's a parrot or a dragon or a night elf or an Apache Helicopter? Do people who believe they belong to these groups suffer dysphoria when they are unable or forbidden from living in accordance to their "identity"? There may be a cause for more research here, but there are numerous considerable differences here - for starters, there's simply no definition of "dragon" that has anything to do with what a person identifies as, whereas the definitions of "male" and "female" actually have legitimate problems and may need rethinking.
You are simply factually in error. There's no nicer way to put this - what you are saying is factually inaccurate. Gender identity is a very real thing, and pretending it isn't does not diminish that fact.
This figure seems to come from this paper. It has a handful of noteworthy methodological problems, not least of which is the sample size of 25 - a little on the small size, if you ask me, particularly for such a counterintuitive result. Like, just for comparison, this article talks about a study with a sample size of 55 where the number was not over 80%, but rather 0%. Weird, huh? Maybe the beta blockers would cause that, but given that they don't cause gender dysphoria in those who aren't transgender, it seems like an iffy proposal.
Gender Dysphoria is a recognized mental disorder, wherein the misalignment of your gender with your sex causes the more general condition of dysphoria. It's typically resolved by bringing your sex in line with your gender, as we currently know of no way to bring one's gender in alignment with one's sex.
Just to clarify, I have no problem with gender-neutral bathrooms, changing rooms, whatever. What I have a problem with is forcing trans individuals to use those facilities when they are not the norm and not used by other people, thus outing them as trans.
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