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I'm tired of my wife's drinking...

shoprag

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I quit drinking 14 years ago. I had a problem with it. A few years ago my wife started to have a beer or two. For the past couple of years it is up to four or five 16 oz beers a night after work. Sometimes it is a six pack. She pops one when she comes in after work, and sips on them until it is bed time. I drive a truck. I am out a few nights a week or more, but when I do come home, and we try to spend some time together, she can't stay awake. I have to take the can or bottle out of her hand so that she won't dump it down her leg while she is passed out. We have been married nearly 24 years, and I love my wife. She is my best friend and she is an attractive woman. I guess I am writing this on this forum because I don't have hardly anyone else to talk to around here. I wrote her a letter that she read today. I explained how concerned I am. It is affecting our relationship. One of her brothers is a full blown alcoholic with cirrhosis of the liver. We are under some stress right now. I am self employed, her mother's health is failing, and we are trying to get one of our sons to move out of the house. If I can't get her to quit, I am probably going to drive over the road again and just stay gone. I can't stay here and watch this go on. Anybody else been through this?
 

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See if your wife will attend an AA meeting with you. There are plenty of meetings, and she can get help there. If she is resistant you can also suggest she attend a rehab. There are inpatient and outpatient rehabs, and they can help tremendously.

www.aa.org
 
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You need to get yourself to some Al Anon meetings. You will find people who really understand yiur problems and can offer you good advice.

Thanks for adding Al-Anon. I forgot to give that one in my advice.
 
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Here is an update. I'm not going to post my problems without updates. My wife read my letter. It contained no ultimatums or threats, only concern and love. She has quit drinking, except she did have a margarita last Friday when we ate out. I have been doing more around the house so she can relax when she gets home, and I have even been rubbing her feet. Again, last night she sipped on an ice tea. I think she looks better already, and she has not complained. I think she feels better too. She is alert and normal, and it has been really good. I have continued to pray, and I appreciate the replies that I have received. I know that this is just a computer forum, but we are all part of an eternal family that will be reunited some day, and we will see each other then. Also, my son finally moved out.
 
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Glad to hear things are going better. Keep in mind that most journeys forward involve a few back steps every now and again.

This is all too true sadly.

It's really good that things are going well so far shoprag! Keep your head up and stick with her. It sounds like she really is making and attempt and does love you, wanting to do the best for the both of you.
 
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