I need advice, prayers, and encouragements

I met my bf online and it might seem not serious but if was very serious. I am from Indonesia and he is in the UK and we are both christians. He needed to finish uni which was supposed to be early May and graduation in July. Then, the plan was for me to go over there on a visitor's visa for 6 months so we can just be together and not have to deal with our long distance relationship, while he works for 6 months, so afterwards we can get married and take care of the spouse visa and its requirements. Over the course of 10 months of dating, I came to see him twice, for a month and three. It's always very hard when we are apart cause we really need one another. Then, suddenly last week he broke up with me saying we depend on each other too much and it isn't healthy. Then yesterday i talked to him some more and he explained how he thinks we cause each other to sin and I'm the right eye on Matthew and I must be gauged out of his life. And, he also just found out that he failed and needs to resit and graduate in november. I know everything happens for a reason and God must have a reason for it. But I'm just still holding on to him. I mean, why would God introduce two people who really love each other and expect them to separate? Idk if he's punishing us but I hope after everything blows over we can be together again. But now he really wishes to limit his communication with me and I'm afraid that I will lose him. I cant seem to move on. Idk what to do.

GoodGRACEshus said:

Hi Yoan,

Welcome to the forum. Have read your post several times.....hoping really the Lord would guide a reply....and I really have nothing but questions without answers.

You ask why God would introduce you just to have you break up.....you say you love this one but describe a co-dependent kind of relationship so I am thinking that if God did bring you together....no man should put you asunder. But wait....that's for marriage, not outside of marriage relationships. Are you looking to have God bless this?

Yoan, if God wants you two to be together He will find a way. Your friend has walked away
and seems to have had enough for now.....he wants to concentrate on study. Why not put all of this in God's hands and walk away too?

God bless

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Thank you for your kind reply. Yes, I am trying my hardest to move on. Leave it to God but honestly my mind just won't stop thinking about this issue. I'm scared of being alone cause it would drive me to tears. I cant sleep in my room without the lights off or sometimes without tv on just so that I won't overthink before sleeping. I cant seem to function. Which proves his point even more.

I miss him a lot. I wish I could be there for him especially now. At least give a hug. And i still love him, idk how to get rid of it.

I begged God not to take him away from me and if He is going to, for him to take my love for him away.

I just need the courage and strength to know what to do now and can only hope that we would be reunited after everything blows over. It sounds naive and foolish but I do believe we belong together. And I don't wannt lose him. I'm afraid I will.

I have all kinds of feelings now. Sadness, anger, disappointment, and all sorts of stress. I'm just hoping that I can get through this and eventually can understand why this happens and as silly as it sounds, hopefully at least see him again. Even as a friend. Idk.

GoodGRACEshus said:

Your heart is heavy, I can hear that. All of that stress can be given into his hands.....ask yourself how important Jesus is in your life, deal with that relationship first because it is the one you can rely on. Is there anything you have allowed to take your eyes off Him?
Put that right so He can help.

Will keep you in my prayers Yoan.

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Thank you very much for your kind reply and keeping me in prayers. Im not sure how this forum works but thank you so much (insert name)! I don't have close friends here. I have 3 uni friends that I kinda talk to. Which is probably why I rely a lot on my bf once I found him. And I know it's no excuse. But I hope God would forgive me. Help us get through all this and eventually lead us back together.

Thanks again!!! I need to understand this forum better and talk to more brothers and sisters I think. Thanks again and God bless!