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SeekingGloryOnThisJourney

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My friend* had/has a crush on me. Actually it wasn’t a crush, it was obsession. When I hinted I didn’t feel the same way he just flirted more. I didn’t have the heart to reject him, so I let this go on for waaay to long. Finally I told him i was an idol to him and I stopped talking to him for a bit. He told my friend that he was finally becoming saved, and loving God and I was so happy and overjoyed to hear this! I was going to try to talk to him again.
Until my other friend reported that because I wasn’t talking to him he got to “misbehave.”
Cursing and crude jokes-
I wasn’t surprised, for when he and I were talking he did this.
I was sad- the only reason he tried to be a Christian was for me.
It’s a lose/lose either way. When I’m with him; he’s not praising God; he’s praising me. I’ve made him sin!
When I’m not with him; he is cursing, and doing sinful things.
What to do?! ):
 

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You have not made him sin. You are not an idol. You cannot control how other people feel. Separate yourself from the situation. Do not ask or talk about him. Just pray for him
 
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This is his problem.

I don't know whether or not you led him on at first, intentionally or unintentionally. If you did, that will encourage interest, but it will not encourage idolatry. The idolatry is 100% his fault. The lack of integrity he has is also 100% his fault.

You should continue to not associate with him.

Now, for the next time a guy you're not interested in comes onto you like that, you should be more clear early on that you are not interested in him, and that you are not going to be interested in him. That should have happened as soon as you saw that he wasn't taking your hint.

And I say this as someone who has very likely felt the way he is feeling. His feelings do not validate his poor decisions. He is making his poor decisions in part because his feelings went out of control.
 
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He doesn't sound saved to begin with, if he was Jesus would be His first love or at least he would be committing the matter to the Lord.
Cursing? Only shows the old nature in him coming out.
 
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True, we got to be on the look out and avoid missionary dating
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