How to handle Gossipers, and Rumor spreaders at work?

Mediakira · Dec 2, 2011

What should I do with gossipers, and rumor spreaders at work? Even if the rumors are false. How can I deal with them and avoid getting tangled into there web.

Aibrean · Dec 2, 2011

Don't believe them, don't reply to them, and don't talk about anything they might have said.

pappastratos · Dec 2, 2011

You can't. It is a endless battle. My previous church has this issue worse than any office. One particular group within the church was the worst. Brought to pastor's attention, he just looked at me.

Life2Christ · Dec 2, 2011

This is the ongoing story of my life. My co-workers are the biggest gossipers alive. I have to pray everytime I go to work. But I have to work with them for they are my teamates.

Pal Handy · Dec 2, 2011

Mediakira said:
What should I do with gossipers, and rumor spreaders at work? Even if the rumors are false. How can I deal with them and avoid getting tangled into there web.

Walk away when the gossip begins...
If anyone asks you why you walked...tell them that
if that is the way they treat others behind their backs,
you can only image what they say about you when you are
not around.

You have every right to decide how you will participate in any conversation.

Life2Christ · Dec 2, 2011

I actually tell my co-workers they are going to hell if they keep gossiping. They laugh LOL!!

Mediakira · Dec 2, 2011

Yeah, that's true. I'm tired of people who doesn't know how to respect for others. I don't mind co-workers have the habit of talking. But not passing rumors, and gossip about others. I understand if they have an issue with someone and is seeking guidance to help a situation.

But apparently someone at work is passing a rumor about me. I don't know what it is. But it seems like all the guys are not wanting anything to do with me at work. It's bad enough they don't want to sign a name on the overtime list. With my name on it. But the thing is. I rarely know anyone there. I'm still new to the place. I haven't been there in 2years.

Life2Christ · Dec 2, 2011

One time one of my co-workers was gossiping about me to another co-worker using Instant Message. I accidentally got the message instead of the co-worker.

Mediakira · Dec 2, 2011

Life2Christ said:
One time one of my co-workers was gossiping about me to another co-worker using Instant Message. I accidentally got the message instead of the co-worker.

lol Did you give that co-worker a nice juicy reply?

Life2Christ · Dec 2, 2011

Mediakira said:
lol Did you give that co-worker a nice juicy reply?

No. We actually didn't speak to each other after that. She said some pretty salacious stuff about me. But 2 years later we made up LOL.

Pal Handy · Dec 2, 2011

Mediakira said:
Yeah, that's true. I'm tired of people who doesn't know how to respect for others. I don't mind co-workers have the habit of talking. But not passing rumors, and gossip about others. I understand if they have an issue with someone and is seeking guidance to help a situation.

But apparently someone at work is passing a rumor about me. I don't know what it is. But it seems like all the guys are not wanting anything to do with me at work. It's bad enough they don't want to sign a name on the overtime list. With my name on it. But the thing is. I rarely know anyone there. I'm still new to the place. I haven't been there in 2years.

Maybe they are telling the guys that you talk to God and they are afraid
to get on your bad side and find out that God is breathing down their backs...

NewUser777 · Dec 2, 2011

Mediakira said:
What should I do with gossipers, and rumor spreaders at work? Even if the rumors are false. How can I deal with them and avoid getting tangled into there web.

Avoid them like the plague. They are immature attention harlots.

If they talk to you, make your replies brief. They will know you don't wish to continue the conversation. They may even ask you about it, at which point you can tell them they are immature attention harlots.

Won't make you many friends, but you'll feel cleaner inside.

SophiaC · Dec 2, 2011

Pray for them. It's good for you to pray for them, but the punishment for them is that through time their true essence will show and no one's going to believe in them once they are shattered to their true color through the Christ made axiom.

Righteousness is God's throne.
Time is made in the eternity past for us to learn Christ and manifest God's glory in the eternity future. Time is also the best discerner and witness.

Give it, the gossip and rumors to God, and fix our eyes Christ.
Nothing can eventually harm us. God is righteous and will do his work.
Just a matter of TIME.

Mr Sinclair · Dec 2, 2011

What I do is, I just dont care. Just forgive them. Just pretend nothing happend(happens when you really forgive him/here)
If I see this gossiper, gossiping about someon else. I always make jokes that it doesn't make sense doing it and stuff.(dont force it, or be focused doing this, just be on the mentality of not caring, and having really the mindley-mentality of not liking gossip)

And o yea, be subtle. Dont be like: In the bible they say if may not gossip, you maybe go to hell!
But be like: O noo your gossiping again(humoristic way), I dont think that guy/girl is not wierd. I think she/he is okay, why do you think that way?
Ofcourse you need to feel that way about here/he. But a good christian love everybody as there neighbour

But because of this, usually they also stop gossiping about you.
Why? because they know your a good girl/guy, and they will feel bad gossiping about you.

Mediakira · Dec 4, 2011

Pal Handy said:
Maybe they are telling the guys that you talk to God and they are afraid
to get on your bad side and find out that God is breathing down their backs...

I do wonder... lol

Mediakira · Dec 4, 2011

Avoid them like the plague. They are immature attention harlots.

If they talk to you, make your replies brief. They will know you don't wish to continue the conversation. They may even ask you about it, at which point you can tell them they are immature attention harlots.

Won't make you many friends, but you'll feel cleaner inside.

I do agree, in the bible did say to stay away from all evil, and who ever who temps us to do evil.

Pray for them. It's good for you to pray for them, but the punishment for them is that through time their true essence will show and no one's going to believe in them once they are shattered to their true color through the Christ made axiom.

Righteousness is God's throne.
Time is made in the eternity past for us to learn Christ and manifest God's glory in the eternity future. Time is also the best discerner and witness.

Give it, the gossip and rumors to God, and fix our eyes Christ.
Nothing can eventually harm us. God is righteous and will do his work.
Just a matter of TIME.

Yes, praying is a good thing. Jesus would pray for them to stop. I'm sure He wants us to do the same. Doing my best avoid from falling down into to there level.

Ofcourse you need to feel that way about here/he. But a good christian love everybody as there neighbour

Yes, everyone should treat each other with love. Even at work, That is a good idea, even Jesus told us to love your neighbor as much as yourself. Sometimes I wish the non-believers have the same idea. But they keep thinking the idea of way of living is to be mean to others. They mean to play dirty at work. I don't like playing that way. That's just not a work ethic. That's just plain bullying.

jsimms615 · Dec 4, 2011

there are people who gossip in any office I have ever worked in. Usually I ignore them and try to get my work done. Sometimes just avoiding some people and making it clear your not going to engage in their conversation helps. Changing the subject to something about work when they start talking to you will stop them from trying to talk to you.
Usually these people are the ones who are getting the least done at work.

fuji · Dec 5, 2011

Ahahaha, I read this thread and lawled hard because it is sooo true.

You cant stop gossiping and sooo many church members do it. It p***es me off too when they gossip about someone else, but they have their own sinful problems, F***king hypocrites!

MCab · Dec 5, 2011

Keep it positive. Keep it objective.

Don't be judgmental. Show indifference to whatever they say. If you have to say something, say something positive or compassionate about whomever they are gossiping about. Do this enough, and they'll leave you alone. Do they talk about you? SHoot, they're complimenting you if they don't like you. Boss is in on it? Then he's no authority figure; consider working somewhere else.

Emmy · Dec 5, 2011

Dear Mediakira. The best way to treat them, is with love, let love kill them. God knows what is the truth, and what unkind people make out of it, it is not in your hand. Let the world see your love, and you will make the Gossiper a liar. Let love do your fighting, and always remember the big truth: " A Christian`s weapon is Love, pure and selfless. God will see your loving reaction, and God will bless you. And God will see your heart, and God will know that you love Him. How?? By following His Commandments to love. Love will always be the conquerer. I say this with love, Mediakira. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.

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