How to eliminate geeks from my dating pool

Miss Spaulding · Sep 1, 2012

I generally have nothing against geeky sort of guys who enjoy gaming a lot, but when it's obvious that gaming is all they ever do in their spare and the only thing they can think about, then yeah...there's a problem. Now, I already don't see myself dating a geeky guy because I'm simply not attracted to 'geeky'...so the problem there would be 'me', not 'them'. But I especially would never date a geeky guy who is overly absorbed...or rather, addicted to gaming. Thanks, but no thanks.

Give me a man, not a man-child.

wannaberocker · Sep 1, 2012

Clearly none of you have seen the show "Geek Love" lol. That is the most awesome show about geek dating iv ever seen. You have to watch it . Its just soooooo funny.

Geek Love season 1 episode 1 - YouTube

Geek Love season 1 episode 2 - YouTube

broken_one · Sep 1, 2012

^^^I'm obviously talking to him about myself, but OK.

Niels · Sep 1, 2012

Obzocky said:
If it's primarily that sort of geek you wish to avoid then avoid cosplays and conventions where individuals who relish getting into costume congregate. In fact avoid going anywhere the stereotypical geeks gather to enjoy their hobbies but be aware there is no way of selecting against were-geeks, you'll only discover them after you've gotten to know them.

So true.

Miss Spaulding said:
I generally have nothing against geeky sort of guys who enjoy gaming a lot, but when it's obvious that gaming is all they ever do in their spare and the only thing they can think about, then yeah...there's a problem. Now, I already don't see myself dating a geeky guy because I'm simply not attracted to 'geeky'...so the problem there would be 'me', not 'them'. But I especially would never date a geeky guy who is overly absorbed...or rather, addicted to gaming. Thanks, but no thanks.

Give me a man, not a man-child.

FWIW, some would say that being into classic movies and artists like Don McLean is geeky. Anachronistic taste is a small step from Renaissance Faire. Just saying...

Nekoda · Sep 1, 2012

Daughter of Ararat said:
How/where should I meed guys who are not geeks? (Playing RPGs or video games occasionally with absolutely to expectation that I will play as well is tolerable. but not most of geek subculture.)

Wear a T-shirt or button pin that says "no Geeks please". You might be surprised at how many less guys express interest. And not just the "geeks".

MehGuy · Sep 1, 2012

Sigh.....

Miss Spaulding · Sep 1, 2012

Miles said:
FWIW, some would say that being into classic movies and artists like Don McLean is geeky. Anachronistic taste is a small step from Renaissance Faire. Just saying...

Haha. Very true! But there are different types of 'geek', it's really more the 'gaming' type of geek that I'm not into.

RebornBen · Sep 1, 2012

Seriously what the...

I don't want to offend you if you're actually serious but isn't there something a bit odd here?

I don't consider myself to be a geek so I don't take it personally but I'm just cringing when I read your posts. You're asking for dating advice on a forum? On how to avoid geeks?
How ironic.

No offense but asking strangers on a forum for dating advice is something I'd consider pretty geeky. Also, your postcount suggests that you aren't out there socializing all day either so maybe just tell guys you consider too geeky that you're not interested instead of trying to eliminate even the slightest chance that a so called geek would waste your precious time.

ImperatorWall · Sep 1, 2012

RebornBen said:
Seriously what the...

I don't want to offend you if you're actually serious but isn't there something a bit odd here?

I don't consider myself to be a geek so I don't take it personally but I'm just cringing when I read your posts. You're asking for dating advice on a forum? On how to avoid geeks?
How ironic.

No offense but asking strangers on a forum for dating advice is something I'd consider pretty geeky. Also, your postcount suggests that you aren't out there socializing all day either so maybe just tell guys you consider too geeky that you're not interested instead of trying to eliminate even the slightest chance that a so called geek would waste your precious time.

Maybe its a trick. Maybe she wants to date geeks and knew the perfect way to get them to respond.

Ariadne_GR · Sep 1, 2012

I like the 'cute geek' thing, but not overly so like the whole 24/7 gaming thing. Now if I could work out how to eliminate mummy's boys from my dating pool, that would be awesome.

Good luck!

dfreeland311 · Sep 1, 2012

Why worry so much about eliminating so many people based on one characteristic. I am about the least stereotypical geek there is. I am a gamer, yes. I am a social gamer, in fact I was at a friend's house this evening playing Call of Duty / Halo for longer than I'd care to admit.

Tomorrow, I'm going to church where I'll play drums for three services (contemporary worship) followed by playing in a wedding. Afterwards, I'll be working on a landscaping project then going to the gym. Never judge a person based on one facet of their life. You may be throwing away a diamond because it came in a cardboard box.

BRISH · Sep 1, 2012

I don't have an answer to the question. I happen to like geeks, or what "I" think are geeks. I'm a geek as well, but not a gamer.

I do want to know when did "geek" go from math and science geniuses to gamers?

wannaberocker said:
Clearly none of you have seen the show "Geek Love" lol. That is the most awesome show about geek dating iv ever seen. You have to watch it . Its just soooooo funny.

Geek Love season 1 episode 1 - YouTube

Geek Love season 1 episode 2 - YouTube

^ I have not laughed that hard in a long while.

Daughter of Ararat · Sep 1, 2012

RebornBen said:
No offense but asking strangers on a forum for dating advice is something I'd consider pretty geeky. Also, your postcount suggests that you aren't out there socializing all day either so maybe just tell guys you consider too geeky that you're not interested instead of trying to eliminate even the slightest chance that a so called geek would waste your precious time.

Average of 1.23 posts per day. Wow. I must love them geek subcultures. Maybe I am unconfident in life and not well placed to have the life I think I want but am trying to change my life slowly (in many ways) to fit what I am coming to realize is what I want.

And maybe I still hate most comics/cartoons/anime/creepy chibi art. And yes, back in the day, I was more of a geek and even in an anime club, but I don't want that.

HotRhymez · Sep 1, 2012

I hate the word "geek" I mean it just sounds like an insult..like anyone who enjoys video games is a weirdo or not smart or something..which is simply not true..there are a lot of intelligent gamers out there..a good example would be *points to self* haha

Christianman79 · Sep 2, 2012

K9_Trainer said:
What "type" of man are you looking for exactly? Might be easier to point you in the direction of the guys you want rather than telling you how to avoid guys you don't want lol. The obvious advice is to avoid video game stores and conventions, comic book stores, and if you are ok with meeting people online, than people on anime forums and the like. But that doesn't really tell you where to meet the kind of guys that you want to meet.

Maybe you could try volunteering? There are animal shelters and rescues that need help, habitat for humanity if you like building, the local homeless shelter, plenty of churches have group volunteer activities, there are many hospitals and facilities that may have you read to children or help the disabled. Really, there are a lot of places to find a relatively "normal" man who should share some values with you. I suggest NOT going to bars or clubs....If you aren't a drinker or dancer, you probably won't find much good company there. Go for places you like, because the people who you meet there will already have that in common with you. I have nothing in common with people who drink and dance and have to party or do karaoke every tuesday night.

Im thinking the homeless shelter isnt the best place to start lol jk jk really! I picked your comment here because I think it is probably the most down to earth and realistic one. Your going to meet someone wherever it is your interests lie. If your really into the internet though it may take some time and trial and error because arent we all just so much better online? I also dont suggest bars or clubs, I think its a bad atmosphere in general.For me it would be a temptation to a old way of life. For you it can just be a doorway for a bad experiences because bars are full of bad experiences.

I cant add alot more to this thread. I think the quoted comment is pretty dead on.

Blessings!

MrMoe · Sep 2, 2012

Whats the difference between a geek, a nerd and a fanboy? Cause I'm pretty sure I'm one of those three.

Brooklyn Knight · Sep 2, 2012

HotRhymez said:
I hate the word "geek" I mean it just sounds like an insult..like anyone who enjoys video games is a weirdo or not smart or something..which is simply not true..there are a lot of intelligent gamers out there..a good example would be *points to self* haha

I never heard geek - or, for that matter, nerd - used in a way to imply someone as not being smart. Quite the contrary.

It's their high intelligence, book smarts and lethargic, frail or overweight appearance that may garner them being labeled a geek.

That, and going into hysterics and hyperventilating when the opposite sex talks with them or is in the same room with them.

Nekoda · Sep 2, 2012

BRISH said:
I don't have an answer to the question. I happen to like geeks, or what "I" think are geeks. I'm a geek as well, but not a gamer.

I do want to know when did "geek" go from math and science geniuses to gamers?

Brish! You're back! Good to see you around again.

Re: Gamers. They sometimes, but not always - go together. It was the geeks who created the computers and designed the software enabling us to play computer games in the first place, right? This isn't a coincidence.

SnowyMacie · Sep 2, 2012

dfreeland311 said:
Why worry so much about eliminating so many people based on one characteristic. I am about the least stereotypical geek there is. I am a gamer, yes. I am a social gamer, in fact I was at a friend's house this evening playing Call of Duty / Halo for longer than I'd care to admit.

Yes, please this. I am a geek by your definition, but I'm also a very non-stereotypical geek. This is what I did yesterday: watched college football, then went and played video games with friends for a while, followed by my school's football game (we won 51-0), after which we went to dinner and I have the need to say that just under half our group were girls. Then, went to their house and watched movies till 2am.

I will say that by just saying that your taking geeks out of your dating pool, will actually end up turning off a lot more guys than you probably think.

Thunder Peel · Sep 2, 2012

Yes, because we all know that anyone who plays a video game is a lifeless scumbag. The generalizations on this board have gotten beyond ridiculous.

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