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How to deal with this situation

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Okay so bear with me.

This bloke, who is gay, became a Christian probably a little later then I did. He's been thru a lot...basically if you read my testimony and multiply that by about 1000 you get where he came from. Anyway I can't imagine what it's like to be gay, and be told that's a sin.

But before he left Brisbane I had noticed people weren't treating him very nicely because of that. I always thought he was a little "odd" but I found out later the reason for that. In any case I basically spoke to him because there were rumours flying everywhere about him and I just wanted to get to the truth of it and help him out. He told me a bit about himself, I freaked out cause he had been thru a LOT. I went to my other 2 youth leaders and basically said look "he needs help"

So I spoke also to my minister and also another guy at church who works with youth, and my minister said he was already speaking to him and the other guy said he would speak to the bloke.

Anyway after that we put in more support, but basically for whatever reason that guy hates me. He literally would not talk to, ignored me, whatever. He would log on msn and leave random messages. He's been gone for a while but he has a lot of hate for people, and today he's like "haha, so u say u serve Jesus, but do you know who he is."

Now yes I think homosexuality is a sin. But I don't see how that's different from me sinning. It's just hard though when you see someone with so much hate that you can actually feel angst from it.

How can I witness to him and try to resolve the issue? I'm basically in a no win situation because he won't listen to what I have to say, and I haven't said anything about homosexuality once to him. Should I just be a man and take the abuse? But then I feel like I'm just ignoring him and that's not good.

Also if there is an obvious flaw of mine or something point it out.
 

soldiersuz

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Gosh that is a hard place to be in. I can recommend to continue praying for him. God knows what is going on in the guy's life.
And we all know the power of prayer... at least I hope we all do. LOL

If there is anyway you can get to him and tell him you haven't judged him for his lifestyle. It does say in the bible to love the sinner hate the sin. And it's obvious you care for this person.

I can't say much more than that though. Just pray. Never stop praying.

I will be praying for your situation too.
 
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Timyone

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man im impressed with your aproach!
sorry no advice
Keep praying.
(the reacting by him could be because you talked about it all, or could be totally unrelated to any thing youve done, so dont take it personally, and keep trying to be nice to him, hopefully in a few years if he has rejected every thing christian, and your still being nice he will come to you, but yeah.
 
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BoazB

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It's a long road. One has to do the milage.. both for him and for you. We leave Egypt and head off to the Promised Land. And we keep going.

My thought would be...
1. Take it to the Lord in prayer (In the Spirit not the flesh)
2. God doesn't change, so show an unchanged image of God to him.
3. Ask the Lord for peace about it, and then leave it.
There may be other stuff that he is working through (road is long for us all)

A verse to direct you:
Hewbrews 12:14
(My understanding of it is that it is while the ball is in our court. )

Hope this helps
 
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