How Important is Politics in your Relationship?

My boyfriend is very involved in politics. I'm not as involved as he is, but I keep informed about things as well as I can and sign petitions and have strong opinions about issues and candidates.

We enjoy the fact that we are politically compatible. But we are in a long distance relationship, and that means we live in different color states. Red vs Blue. To me that is not such a big deal. The way I see if is that if you live in a state that is not politically dominated the way you want, then you can work to change that and attempt to influence others. He says that he could never live in a state of the opposite color because he does not want his money or taxes supporting that.

So in order for us to live together after marriage, it will mean that I will have to move to a different state. Which I don't mind for myself because I don't feel loyal to any state or region. I'm fairly easy to be content, and I can find something about any place to be happy about. The trouble with that is I have sons. My oldest has developed a life where we are. They also want to remain reasonably close to where their father is so visits are easier and less expensive for travel. If it weren't for the issue of my sons, I'd move anywhere without question. This is the main thing that is holding us up in our relationship. I won't make my boys move right now.

So, all of this brings questions to my mind about if others allow politics to affect their relationships.

Would you have a relationship with someone who is politically incompatible?

Would you try to change someone's political view points or affiliation if you loved them, but not their political persuasion?

If you were politically compatible but the person you are in a relationship changed their mind and supported candidates or causes that you did not agree with, would that be grounds for ending the relationship for you?

If the person you were in a relationship with wanted you to move to a state that was "the other color" would you want to break up over that?

Cutie Cookie, I think you misunderstood. We aren't complete opposites. We are very compatible politically. It is not an issue for us. The only thing we differ on politically is that he doesn't want to live in a state that is "the other color," and I'd live anywhere. We are currently waiting for the sake of my sons. We aren't having trouble, and I don't feel that I need advice. I didn't mean to come off that way.

I was just curious about how important others place politics in their relationship. That's all.

My views are a mix. I don't fit solidly into one party or another. Neither does my boyfriend, but the "other party" is more against our views than the one we side with.