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I was just wondering how far is to far to go with a girlfriend or something. I mean I've read dont have sexual immorality but what that is defined as is not exactly helping. Where do you draw the line? making-out? masturbation? I know for sure not to go to sex but is there supposed to be a line drawn before that?
 
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My fiance and I work on the basis that anything that involves lust or could lead to [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] has to be wrong outside marriage. So *definitely* no masturbation! As for making out, it depends what you mean - hugs and kisses are fine but I think touching certain parts of the body is unwise...
 
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Here's my advice...
  1. Do not engage in sexual intercoarse.
  2. Do not engage in "other" forms of sex.
  3. Do not touch each other's sexual organs intentionally, even if you're fully clothed.
  4. Do not make out (is that the right term?) so heavilly, that you become sexually stimulated.
  5. Do not touch, as you will become sexually stimulated and thus be motivated to engage in sexual intercoarse.
I think that about covers it.
 
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chocolateloverjen said:
'Sex is not the problem (lust is)' - a book title i read, thats what my boyfriend and i go by in a way.
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As long as you're not implying that sex outside of marriage is not a problem...

I pretty well agree with everyone else's comments so far--not that I'm some sort of expert or anything.
Something a friend has been reminding me lately though (as I've recently been seeing a woman after a few years of being completely single) is that we as believers should NOT be trying to see how close we can get to the "line" without "technically" sinning. I think it's a dangerous but common way of thinking we ALL need to be mindful of. We should know where lines are, but not just for the sake of getting as close to it as we can. We really should know where it is so we can stay far far away from it.
I personally don't equate kissing or holding hands or even a little snuggling (maybe, my accountability friend disagrees) with sex. But it most certainly shouldn't be done in a way that makes wether or not you have sex even an issue.
That's just my two cents. (ka-ching ka-ching)
 
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