How Do You Separate Your Feelings?

McScribe said:

So I am accepting that she doesn't want to be my wife, she wants to be wife to another woman. I accept that she was honest in some ways and dishonest in others; I have forgiven both of them. I have also forgiven myself and do not worry (too much)about what I might have done to preven this.

My question is really this--how do you stop thinking about your former spouse, dwelling on them, hoping for responses from them? This has nothing to do with practical things since I have moved out and to another city. This is just about emotional responses.

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McScribe said:

So I am accepting that she doesn't want to be my wife, she wants to be wife to another woman. I accept that she was honest in some ways and dishonest in others; I have forgiven both of them. I have also forgiven myself and do not worry (too much)about what I might have done to preven this.

My question is really this--how do you stop thinking about your former spouse, dwelling on them, hoping for responses from them? This has nothing to do with practical things since I have moved out and to another city. This is just about emotional responses.

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McScribe said:

So this is what I'm doing:
1. Trying to be thankful for what I DO have--even that it has been so far a cordial breakup. But also my family, that I have a chance at a new career, etc...
2. Trying to exercise every day (a good walk, stretching and some weight lifting--I'm going to try to find a pool near me)
3. trying to reconnect with my faith--it's not that I blame God, it's that I doubt ME
4. having a couple of friends I contact rather than contacting her when I'm lonely or unhappy. I don't overtax this.
5. Trying to just keep moving.

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