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how do you decide who to marry?

psychedelicist

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(taken from a mesage on myspace i got)

personally i agree with alan. thoughts? comments?
 

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Great post, lol.

How do you decide who to marry? When you find someone who loves you as truly and deeply as you love them. Someone who has a good head on their shoulders and is respectful, understanding, and loving.
 
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lol that was very cute...

i met my husband on a field trip at about the same age as most of those kids.. i was 8. all i can really remember about how i felt was that i felt very secure and comfortable around him, like we had been together forever... he didn't let go of my hand for the entire field trip and he led me around the museum with so much authority that i just followed him around under the assumption he knew what he was doing (he didn't). he was so careful too... he always looked both ways before we crossed the street together and stared down other boys that looked at me. i kind of felt like some kind of egg he was afraid of breaking. we said nothing to each other the entire time but it felt like we said a lot, then when we got back and he had to take a bus back with his school he said 'goodbye' and i just stared at him.

somehow our parents met up... i don't really remember how that happened... and all of a sudden he was in my life. not really as a friend, just kind of a nebulous love interest until we started going out in 7th grade...

 
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Somehow I have a hard time believing that the age's displayed in that post are accurate, and my sole reason is because it came from myspace XD

If I met someone who strives to understand and who returns what I give, I'd probably marry her on the spot.
 
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LOL!

I must say I sympathize with Freddie, largely because of Anita.

I married my first husband because I thought it was what I was supposed to do as a godly Christian woman. I married my second husband because he was willing to put my happiness above his own.

The first marriage was humiliation. The second is thriving. And that's all I care to say about that right now.
 
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I think this just goes to prove we need to get back to traditional marriages, the way God intended.

Yes, that's right.

Arranged Marriages!

Marrying for love is an invention of just the last few centuries, compared with the thousands of years of arranged marriages.

Yes. I support TRADITIONAL marriage!

 
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Good for you
 
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Well, I'm going to take a leap here and assume most of us think that marrying for love is better than "because your Dad says so". So...care to explain why you favor old-school marriages?

On a side note: I'd just like to express how thankful I am (to no deity in particular) that we don't live in an era where women are considered so much objects and property of men that they can be married away for politics and profit like they have been for the past 2 millenniums.
 
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I really have no idea. I'd like to. Have an idea that is. But I don't. I'm not counting my own misconceptions. I call them misconceptions because it is my human nature that draws me to those conclusions. We really are completely deceived when it comes to marriage. Seriously, look at the state of world relationships. I think the purpose of marriage along with the definition of marriage is very misdefined in society. That's my conclusion as to why most people are so damn miserable in marriage. Or are not growing as people of the Faith in marriage. If your not growing your dying.
 
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ROTFLOL at the OP!

On a serious note, I don't think I would listen to me about how one should decide who to marry. My marriage is, unfortunately, not working out, and not for a lack of placing a high priority on my wife's happiness. Ah, well.


eudaimonia,

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