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How do you deal with being single??

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mithmetwen

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There's nothing wrong with being single - and I'd rather be single than with the wrong person.
You're only young, and you don't know how long you will be single for. Who knows - you might look back on this thread in a years time and wonder what you were moaning about because you've met the girl of your dreams and the girl that God has for you.
I think it's a myth that you are happier in a relationship than out of one - or that you aren't fulfilled until you are in a relationship. Happiness does not depend on having another person there. Your identity and the person you are and will become is not dependant on whether you are single or not.
Don't dwell on this stuff. Enjoy being young! Live life and have fun!
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Excellent post!!!

I've just finished reading the book "I've kissed dating goodby" by Joshua Harris, many say it's targeted for teenagers, but hey, I'm still young!!!

But anyway, getting back on track, it's an awesome book for anyone who feels that being single is a burden. It has completely changed my outlook and has even made me analyze my own life and where I'm at.

Now I'm grateful to be single cos I can dive into my "love affair" with Jesus!!!
 
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Grolin

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I cope with singleness by not thinking about it =P

Do community service. Serve at church. Read a book (NOT any romance novels, those suck anyhow). Play an instrument.
What God has made you passionate about, run after it for Him.

The only times when I start to think I need to "cope" with being single is when I bother labeling myself as a "single."
 
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Being in a relationship just because you hate being lonely can be a huuuuuge mistake, as I learnt the hard way. My teenage years were quite lonely and I dated a little, but when I got into a 'propper' relationship I was desperate to hold onto it and we got married. Several years and two kids later she divorced me and is currently living with the guy she left me for - and my two boys.

Take it from me - there are a lot of things worse than being single.

I know it can be hard but there is some great advice on this thread - try to keep busy - trust in God for the right person at the right time - He is in control and He knows what He is doing.

P.S. God has really helped me to put the pieces of my life back together, but its taken a few years and has been really hard - hang in there, dude - God knows what He is doing
 
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Thithy

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I guess I just deal with it. There are times when I am sad that I don't have a special boy to share my life with, and yet other times I am so happy to be single. I don't have to worry about if I'm flirting or now, or what my significant other will think. I can just be me. I can go out with my friends and not feel like I have to put a guy before them. But again, I wish I had a special person. I really haven't been in a long term relationship. The longest one (and I've only had two) was 4 months. We were friends before, and still are (luckily). It was fun, but I realized that the reason for dating is to find the person I will someday marry. I don't want to get married right now. I don't see it as a possibility until I'm out of college, so I'm not really going to worry about it. I've prayed to God that he bring the right person into my life. I never told him when he should do that, just that in the future I want him to. Maybe I've already met "Mr. Right" and I just don't know it yet, maybe I won't meet him for another 10 years. whatever the case I trust God. he knows what's best for me. For now I hang out with my friends (female and male) and just enjoy their company.
 
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Man, that is one good post, there's no better advice than from someone that's gone through it I believe. It's not just head knowledge, but it's wisdom.

I commend you for sticking by the Lord, and I encourage you to continue to do so!!!
 
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KristiXP

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iklepac13 said:
Well, if God has someone picked out for you, you could use this time to better yourself for her. Me, I focus on lifting weights and investing, so I'll be all buff and rich if/when I meet this chick.
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That was too cute.

I'm enjoying being single after a relationship of 2 1/2 years. Don't get me wrong the relationship was good while it lasted and the guy is a great guy, but I'm enjoying finding myself and who I am. I've been meeting new people, drastically changing my life, patching up old friendships, parting myself from "friends" that are not good influences, fixing my relationship with my parents and family, getting closer to my siblings all since the beginning of June when my long term relationship ended. I couldn't do any of that when I was in my relationship. Granted it wasn't a healthy relationship to begin with.

I'm free to be who I want to be. I'm free to go and do what I'd like to do. I plan on staying single for a while until I get this "I'm free to do whatever I want to do" thing out of my system. Then when I'm ready to settle down, and start a life with someone else, I'll be able to look back and be happy and satisfied at what I've been able to do in my singleness.

Sure, I've made some mistakes and I'm going to keep on making mistakes, but I'm learning from them everyday. I get to learn from my own mistakes, not the mistakes of others. I never thought I'd enjoy being single, but I have. Take the time you have and run with it. Go do something you want to do, go it alone or bring some friends. Enjoy the single years, they really are the most important years of your life. IMO
 
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"I kissed dating goodbye" has inspired me soOoOo very much!!! Anyone who needs encouragment in the ares of 'singleness' should read this book. Or even better read his second book "Boy meets girls" to see what your persistance and patience with God will offer you.I truly believe that every young single should read these two fantastic books.
Check out his website: joshharris.com
 
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I have to agree with Kristixp on this as I too was in a relationship for a while, but when it was broken off, I realized how great singleness can be. God has a purpose for my life and I started to enjoy not being in a deep relationship. I know it is a time for me to grow closer to God, and that's just what I'm doing. Not being focused on a girl for a while, has given me more time to focus on God. Right now I'm trying to prepare myself for the woman that God will put in my life. I know I need the time, and God knows too! Sometimes I do long for someone I can confide in and have a good relationship with, but I know God wants me to be patient and wait for the one he has in store for me. So, when you think being single is the worst, try thinking of it as a time to grow closer to God.


- God Bless
 
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KristiXP

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Cray said:
I JUST GET FUSTRATED. maybe i should rephrase that too 'am'
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Don't let the devil influence you that way. Try to be positive about it and God may be more willing to show you the way to your true love. The more anger you have about it, the longer God may make you wait. Letting you know that you need a little more time to grow in Him before you take on a relationship.
 
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