Homosexual brother is angry with me and refuses to understand

Sword of the Lord said:

I'm not going to go to be seen of men, to make people feel better about Christianity, to falsely make them believe that this is okay, to increase the reputation of Christianity amongst the homosexual community. Those are all the wrong reasons to go. Instead, I will be seen by God, standing up for what is true and right, by not going to this "wedding".

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I would think if he wants you to be his "best man", he is asking you to demonstrate approval of it . . . by your action of being the "best man".

Jesus did not stone the adulteress, but He told her to go and sin no more.

And when sinners ate with Jesus, He said He is the Physician of the sick. So, Jesus knew they needed to be healed of their sin sickness, and He is able to change any sin-sick person into a sane and sound person of His love and joy and peace.

And I see they were not fighting Him and expecting Him to accept their wrong things.

Plus, it was Matthew, who invited them to his place so they could discover Jesus. Your brother is not inviting people so they can meet you and discover who Jesus is, is he? I would say you have already answered this.

And have you read and fed on Romans 1:18-32? I notice how the wrong people who God talks about here were "receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due." (in Romans 1:27)

There is built-in punishment that any of us suffer while we are sinning. The pleasure of sinning is so inferior to how we can be in sharing with God and one another; so even the pleasure of sinning can be part of the punishment, since it is so inferior to the kindness and rest and quietness of God in His love!

And any weakness for wrong pleasure is also weakness allowing a person to deeply suffer pain and other trouble. This goes for any of us, actually, if we still are involved in any wrong stuff.

And any wrong preference is in the heart where we have our desires. And any of us can have preference for pleasure more than preference for God and being humble and all-loving and generously forgiving.

But a problem of the heart is spiritual, therefore what Jesus is committed to correcting and healing into His way of love. Physical genes and circumstances can not decide and control what we prefer in our hearts which are spiritual.

So, what is the real problem, then?

Romans 1:18-32 says those wrong people were not "thankful" (Romans 1:21) and they "worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator", we have in Romans 1:25.

So, by not being "thankful", they were able to become ones who gave in to those lusts which made men unable to share in a tenderly affectionate relationship with a lady. Those anti-love lusts were included in their problem.

And they preferred creature pleasures "rather than" God. The problem, then, was preference for pleasure. And gays are not the only ones with this problem, then.

So, don't get tricked into struggling with others about their wrong stuff, while we overlook how we our own selves can be giving in to pleasure seeking that helps keep our attention away from God; and our own weakness for pleasure and control is also weakness for suffering in various sorts of emotional trouble and pain, including so we keep on arguing and struggling with other people, instead of being ruled by our Father in His own peace >

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

"the way of peace they have not known" (in Romans 3:17).

We have peace, by obeying God in His peace, discovering how we become in our character because of how God's almighty power in this peace cures our nature, plus He has us becoming submissive to Him so we are so tenderly and pleasantly sharing with Him and others who obey Him,

"with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)

This needs to be our preference, then, to be so intimate with God and share as His family, versus how we become while being intimate and isolated with our own pleasure feelings and perhaps with people we use to get them.

Ones are desperate to feel some pleasure, in order to not feel boredom and loneliness and depression and unforgiveness and frustration and anger. But pleasure can not cure that. Jesus can.

"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)

your brother was born like that. It is another matter in the scripture when men willingfully sin. So be not so hard with your brother and go to his wedding.

KisKatte said:

your brother was born like that. It is another matter in the scripture when men willingfully sin. So be not so hard with your brother and go to his wedding.

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Remember, as your quote says on your avatar...Yes, Jesus send the Holy Spirit to us to convict us of sin, righteousness, and judgement!

No one is born a homosexual! It is not innate! There is not "gay jean!"

Now, the Bible is super clear, that man is born with a sin nature...that much is true. Man was conceieved in sin, born with sin, live in sin, until the end of their life. Of course, for the Christian believer, goes into Heaven and the unbeliever into hell!

Do NOT be deceived, because a practicing homosexual will NOT inherit the kingdom of God! God is NOT mocked!

Ignore the advice of KisKatte and stand your ground on your convictions NOT to be in the wedding and NOT to go to the wedding! We are NOT to fellowship with those given over to adultery, homosexuality, and any unclean and habitual sinful lifestyle! The call is to "Come out from among them and be separate!"

Sword of the Lord said:

My brother is a homosexual. Not only is he just a homosexual, but he is a proudly practicing homosexual. In all honesty, he's the stereotype. He claims not to be an atheist, but he's also not sure what he believes in. When I try to share Jesus with him, he wants nothing to do with it; he actually often makes a mockery of it. For example, we were having a discussion today, and I said that this life is only temporary; it's only a stepping stone to our eternal destination. His reply was, "Well, I hope I'm high as f*** when I get there!"

That leads me to this issue. Today he asked me if I would be willing to be his best man at his wedding. I told him that I couldn't do that, and he knows why I couldn't. He asked if I would attend at all, and I told him that it would be dishonest of me to attend, and that I would feel too convicted about attending. I told him that I'm sorry, and I asked him to understand where I was coming from. He told me that he will never accept that apology, he will never see things my way, and he began to get really angry. We hung up the phone on awkward terms.

What am I supposed to do? I can't be his best man. I can't attend his wedding. He refuses to understand why, and will never accept my apology. My brother and I are close.

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Hi there

I see this post is being revived 10 years later.
Hope you ok with responding, if you don't want to that's fine.

How are you doing? How is your brother doing? Did you go with your initial convictions? Did they change and did you attend the wedding?