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Let me first start by saying that this is a great thing. I hope this is the place that helps me in life. I will post a letter I wrote today that will pretty much explain me and where I am.

"I am not sure if writing you will actually help me, but I feel that I am at wits end. I have believed in God and Jesus since I was about 12 years old. I did not follow him and listen to him for a lot of the time growing up, but I knew he existed. I came to a point in my life where I was doing drugs and wandering aimlessly through life. I met my wife (she became my wife later) and we started dating. I decided that for her and our relationship, that I would quit doing drugs and start really becoming an ‘adult’. That was about 5 years ago. I have for the last 7 to 8 years been suffering from panic attacks related to the fear of death and the ultimate fear of going to hell. I believe that Jesus walked on the earth and that He died on the Cross for sins. What I do not believe is that I am ultimately going to heaven. I struggle with the fear of dying almost every hour of every day. It consumes my mind and my heart. The fear causes the anxiety and panic attacks to set in and snow ball from there. My wife and I attended the Alpha program, and as awesome an experience as that was, I did not come away from there knowing that the destination of soul will reside in heaven. I feel like I have asked the Lord into my heart about 20 – 30 times, but never knowing if I did it right, if it truly worked or if I meant it. I am so confused right now. I know I believe in Jesus and God, but I do not know if the life I am living is enough to get me into heaven. The fear of death has caused me to become a shut in. I don’t enjoy life nearly as much as I used to. Sports have become a thing of the past as I am afraid of dying while playing the game. My wife and I try to walk every night, but I am always afraid my heart won’t be able to take it. If I get a little headache I worry it is a tumor or cancer. I have asked God to help me to get over these fears etc… but I can’t. I know he works in mysterious ways, and if he had helped me previously, I would not be writing this email and whatever comes of this would not have happened. We are not members of Northview, but we are regular attendees. I just do not know where to turn or what to do. My doctor wants to put me on meds that I am afraid to take as they may cause me to die and the process continues. I am 28 years old and my life is passing me by because of all of this. I have an addiction to porn that I just cannot seem to kick and this causes battles internally all the time. I have read a lot of books and nothing seems to work. I read the bible, but I do not study it. I have asked God to help, but maybe I have done it incorrectly. I know God knows my heart, and maybe my heart is not good, even though I believe it is. I would really appreciate any advice you could give. It has been a joy listening to speak since you took over for Pastor Vern. If maybe someone else at the church is more suited to helping me you are free to forward my information onto them. Thank you in advance.



I just want to live a normal, healthy Christian life."

That is currently where I am in life. I have an excessive amount of worry in my life.... and for no real reason I think. I probably need professional help, but I am going to seek spiritual help first.
 

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Hello and welcome to CF

I was also raised in a christian home and chose to go my own way as a teen. I always believed but didn't want to love/obey God by following His commandments. I have some scriptures to back what I'm about to say biblically. I praise God that you are seeking Him.

James 2:20
But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead?

That was me, in my past. I believed but I continued to turn my face from God and sin. I did not heed Gods commands but followed my own direction and did what I wanted. People cannot just go and live thier lives as though there is no God(without fear of God) and call themselves christian and expect there will be no consquences for thier actions.

Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I think that we should thank our parents for the way they raised us.

Jesus died for all of our sins, even the sins of the whole world. There is no sin that He did no conquor. If you repent and ask for forgivness, the blood of Jesus will cleanse you from that sin. I still struggle with my past and thoughts of it but I have chosen not to come into condemnation because God has promised to forgive me.

Romans 8:1
[There is] therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

Once you have repented and given you life back to God, satan does not have any hold on you whatsoever. Jesus paid the price for you. You belong to God.

John 10:29
My Father, which gave [them] me, is greater than all; and no [man] is able to pluck [them] out of my Father's hand.

I want you to know that you need not fear. You are a child of the living God. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Look to Jesus who is the author and finnisher of your faith.

IITimothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

I often repeat this verse out loud when I have trouble. I strongly recomend you memorize it and do the same when you feel fear. The enemy(satan) knows he is defeated and cannot stand the word of God. The perfect truth.

If you have thoughts that you are not saved it is a lie from the enemy. The Lord shows us in His word that we can capture those thoughts by the name of Jesus.

II Corinthians 10:5
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

I encourage you to spend time with the Lord. Read the word. Continue on in the faith. There is always the wonderful gift that God offers. His grace through faith. Salvation through Jesus. We cannot do anything to earn it .

I have used this post before in a respose to another thread. The quest is simmilar and God's answers are the same. God is the same yesterday today and forever.
 
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Welcome to CF! I too once suffered from panic attacks. I had a fear of dying, I too thought a headache was a tumor, or a pain in my chest was a heartattack or a pain anywhere meant I was dying. I was afraid to get in a car, I was afraid to be left alone, and when I was alone I had the phone in my hand at all times in case I needed to dial 911.
I prayed and prayed and it seemed nothing happened, but one day, it all left, it was gone, I have felt freer than ever. God does hear your prayer, there is really no right way to pray, just talk to God. Don't give up. Also, if you have ask Jesus into your heart and accepted him as Lord and savior asking him to forgive you of your sins, then you are saved.

Feel free to PM me anytime if you would like to talk in private.
 
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Welcome to the forums, I hope you are able to find support and answers you may be seeking.
I am still overwhelmed by the sheer volume of this place, but there is so much here for me to absorb!! It is wonderful for a new Christian like myself!!

I am still going through these same type of panic attacks, though alot less frequently as of late. Since becoming a Christian, a very short time ago I've noticed alot less anxiety and worry in my life....not completely gone, but noticeably less.

God Bless.
 
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Welcome. I'm new here, too.

There is some modern confusion on this. We Christians have always believed that there is not necessarily any "feeling" or emotion you get when you are saved. That is a New Age doctrine.

Nor can we be sure we are saved while we are alive. An exception would be if one's theological opinion is that belief is all that is necessary for salvation.

If you love God, you will act in certain ways that God approves of. That is all there is to it. We Christians are to strive to follow God's law, and not to sin. Yet, through Jesus, our sins are cleansed. This New Covenant is not just news, but is the Good News, because all of us are sinners. Do not think God fails us, even though we fail him.

One of the sins is sloth. You can't allow yourself to fail of courage. In spite of a panic attack, do something small, even something meaningless. Then do other small things. That's all anyone can do anyway. Attend church.

May the Lord bless you.
 
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