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Wow! OK, well yes, God gave you free will. You can choose whatever you want to. If you don't want children, then you are free to not have them. That is the point in free will.

As far as not having children being a sin. Personally, I don't believe that.


Would your mother be mad if you didn't have children? I doubt mad would be the word. Probably disappointed, but not mad. God knows your heart, your fears, and your desires. He knows that you don't want children, and maybe he didn't give you a desire for a reason. Who knows? It is not for me to decide.

Why do you announce that you are not wanting children? Why struggle with those who you don't need to struggle with? Why not just NOT discuss it with people. I don't discuss quiverfull with people. If they ask how many kids I am going to have, I always say, "at least one more. Pass the bean dip please." Perhaps you should try to just give as little info as possible so that you don't have to defend your decision all the time.


Now, personally, here are my thoughts.....


Children are a BLESSING from God. They are given as a blessing. THAT IS WHY WE (my husband and I) ARE QUIVERFULL!! NOT because we believe it is a sin to stop pregnancy (though the methods concern us greatly). We believe that EVERY child is a gift and we believe that those who refuse God's blessings are missing out on more than they can imagine. We believe that to push away one of God's blessings is to push away God's love.


But, that is how my husband and I believe. I do NOT believe it is a salvation issue. The only issue in securing salvation is believing that Jesus died for our sins so that we can join him someday.

I do believe that using birth control is wrong, not as in a sin so to speak, but as in God really does not want you doing this. I do feel very strongly about this. I don't believe any issue or sin is a salvation issue, Jesus already dealt with that. But I do feel it is wrong for women to use birth control, and feel very badly that most women don't know that God may have an opinon on thier use of birth control.

I've actually started writing a book, or what I hope becomes a book. I would be more than willing to email or PM you some of the material, especially the information on how God feels about birth control.

Let me know, thanks!

Well, I'm sorry I didn't mean to bring up something you didn't ask about directly. But, saying that you don't want kids at all, I assumed they're would need to be some kind of prevention used. If you are not married, and never ended up getting married, then I guess there is no issue. And then it would only be right to not have children, as premarital sex is a sin and should not be practiced. So it's up to you if you want the info, if so you can PM me and we can talk more. Didn't mean to offend, you just asked for opinions and I was giving mine.

Nikki07 said:

Hm, I'm kinda confused
I wasn't saying anything about birth control as far as I know...
I don't mind you emailing me and sending me those materials if you want, I'm open minded
Though I don't think that using some birth conrol is wrong, for example; I don't see nothing wrong about using condoms...
But about other stuff we could discuss a lot.
Greetings!

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I'll PM you later and you'll either get a box that pops up when you first sign on here (if you have been signed out), or you'll see a red message flashing up in the top right corner. All you have to do is click on it.

I think it's fine to not want children. God created you and therefore created this decision in you to not have them NOt everyone is cut out to have children. Just like I'm not cut out for certain things that other people are. My husband for example is a wonderful sales person and a great communicator. I'm not. My occupation is mom.
Not that I'm an expert, but this is part of my calling.
I think the world already has many unwanted children and there is no point in creating more.
If you don't want a child or can love a child. I say, don't have one.

Hey, I couldn't see myself with children "when I grew up"... but G-d has a way of giving you what you Need and desire in your heart of hearts, even though you have no idea you desire it.

Maybe part of your not wanting any children right now is that you're not married... and I'm assuming haven't met the man you're to marry (if there is one)? It's amazing how your feelings change once you Do meet "him" and get married...

That being said, I agree with the others~ No, not having kids is not a sin. There are many Quiverfull families out there who have no children (the pastor & his wife in a church we used to attend pops into my mind) or only 1 or 2. My cousin & her DH were Quiverfull from the time they married and only ever had 3 children (and she's gone through menopause now, so they definately won't be having more. ) G-d gives you how ever many or as few as He wills.