I have this friend who has a really weird view of God, over the years I have tried to bring some balance but she continues to live like just any old person, I wouldn't probably say she is a Christian but she prays and thinks God leads her. I don't understand her mindset at all as it seems she wants things her way all the time, and justifies her lifestyle in quite a strange way. I sound hard on her but it is really because I don't know what to do with her.
For a while I ended up doubting my own walk with God and getting confused after talking with her. I feel a bit used by her too at times and that bugs me.
I'm not the sort of person to confront a lot although I have in the past when she moved in with her boyfriend.
She grew up in the church but had bad experiences so me confronting her threw her into a spin, I didn't actually confront her very well sadly but hey we are still friends.
My question is should I put some distance into our friendship as she doesn't seem to change and in a lot of ways is not supportive of me going to church or even of my relationship with God - for example we ended up having coffee instead of church this week. Probably my fault for not caring more about church.
It scars me a bit that I'm not strong enough at the moment to just go to church anyway (I hate going to church by myself - I've joined this church only recently so don't know many people). I have prayed to God for someone to go to church with as I feel it is important to my walk with God to be around other Christians etc.
We've been friends for several years and in the beginning I was her friend to help her as she was going through a really tough time, I was her stability silly me, still am in a lot of ways but I'm not comfortable with that anymore - I don't think I'm helping her get closer to God at all really and I wonder if she's having a negative effect on my faith now. Shes not dragging me off to pubs etc but the coffee instead of church thing on Sunday got me thinking how weak I've gotten.
Any advice would be appreciated
For a while I ended up doubting my own walk with God and getting confused after talking with her. I feel a bit used by her too at times and that bugs me.
I'm not the sort of person to confront a lot although I have in the past when she moved in with her boyfriend.
She grew up in the church but had bad experiences so me confronting her threw her into a spin, I didn't actually confront her very well sadly but hey we are still friends.
My question is should I put some distance into our friendship as she doesn't seem to change and in a lot of ways is not supportive of me going to church or even of my relationship with God - for example we ended up having coffee instead of church this week. Probably my fault for not caring more about church.
It scars me a bit that I'm not strong enough at the moment to just go to church anyway (I hate going to church by myself - I've joined this church only recently so don't know many people). I have prayed to God for someone to go to church with as I feel it is important to my walk with God to be around other Christians etc.
We've been friends for several years and in the beginning I was her friend to help her as she was going through a really tough time, I was her stability silly me, still am in a lot of ways but I'm not comfortable with that anymore - I don't think I'm helping her get closer to God at all really and I wonder if she's having a negative effect on my faith now. Shes not dragging me off to pubs etc but the coffee instead of church thing on Sunday got me thinking how weak I've gotten.
Any advice would be appreciated