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Fell out with a "friend"

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I have just ended an online friendship with this girl I thought was a really close friend. I think I have done the right thing but I'm still hurting about it and shall really miss her. We are both Christians but of late we have not been getting on well at all. What is the best way to get over the hurt?
 
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Forgiveness. However you need to continue to be like a castle gate , close yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events.

Remember being a christian is just a hollow title for those people who are like wolves who are dressed in sheepsclothes, that Jesus warned us about.

Everyone can say they are a Christian but truelly living like one and not hurting but loving your fellow human being is what it is about.
 
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Grieving over a loss of a friendship is normal. I have a few suggestions.

1. Pray for your former friend. This is not only good because prayer is really powerful for the one you say it for, but it is very very powerful for us as we say it even if the prayer is for someone else.

I would pray something like this: "Dear Lord, give all that is good for the soul of my friend (name)."

(even though you have ended the friendship as far as contact is concerned, on some level you miss her so in that way she is still a friend.)

2. Focus on other interests and other friends a bit more. Put the energy you were putting into that other friendship into something else.

3. Take care of yourself emotionally while you are grieving. This is a time when you need some TLC. Be kind to yourself!

4. Take three hugs and write us tomorrow!!!! (one can not overdose on hugs!)

 
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I've made up with my friend but I still feel I can't trust her fully. We used to be really close but all that has changed. For instance I was really upset over something yesterday that had happened to me and she more or less told me not to be so stupid (not in so many words but that was the distinct impression I got). I just wanted someone to comfort me and provide a shoulder like a friend should. I would have done if the situation had been reversed. I honestly wonder why we're friends sometimes.
 
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We're all different personalities, though. What some find to be hurtful, others do not notice at all. What I mean is that she might not have understood how hurt you were. What I've learned is that it can be surprisingly difficult to convey feelings over the internet. I suppose it can be difficult in real life too!

I'm not saying this is why she treated you like she did. You know her and how she thinks, and she should, hopefully, know you and how you think. Just remember that we all have our faults.
 
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I can only see one way out of your problem.
Now this may seem a little irrational to start with, but have a good think about it before you make your decision.

You should join me in my quest towards heaven, where Allah will look after us.
Allah will provide us with our place in heaven and you will recieve many virgins who will cater to your every sexual requirement.

Please P.M me so i cann tell you more of the truth.
 
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