Feet

Truly bizarre attraction to say the least...

graciesings said:

Part A:
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Sooo how would you feel about that? Would it be fine with you or a red flag? Girls, would you be comfortable sending foot pictures to a guy who is seriously attracted to your feet?

Part B: How do you feel about feet? Are you attracted to them or not? Do you enjoy getting a foot massage or are you way too ticklish? Do you enjoy sitting across from someone, with both of you barefoot, and just rubbing your feet together for long periods of time? Or is that too weird?

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Part A:
Does he like ALL kinds of feet, or does he like a particular feature of your feet? If for example, he likes your feet because of its baby soft skin, it can't remain soft forever.
And would he still like you if you wear closed shoes?

Clean feet is a must, it speaks volumes about a person's hygeine.
But a fetish? Hmmm...
And no, I won't be comfortable sending pics of my feet.

Part B:
Feet is a unit of length.
Yes, a foot massage is great. But a foot spa is even better. Ticklish but relaxing.

Never tried sitting across someone and just rubbing feet together. Seems kinda....weird. For my part.
But hey, if that's how some people connect, I'd respect that.

graciesings said:

Girls, would you be comfortable sending foot pictures to a guy who is seriously attracted to your feet?

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I'd send him one good picture and he'd be healed.
The first time I went out with my ex I put on health sandals. Because of my knuckles

would you be comfortable sending foot pictures to a guy who is seriously attracted to your feet?

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That's also really bizarre. I don't know why he'd want them or why anyone would send them.

It's certainly a bizarre attraction and almost certainly an attraction of dubious nature, so should you? No.

graciesings said:

Part A: There is a guy (yes... really) who I recently met, that I kinda like. He and I have both expressed interest in each other. Thing is: He has this obsession with my feet. He's never asked me to send revealing pictures, but it seems like he can't get enough foot pictures.... We spent this afternoon together in the campus library, and I swear we spent over half the time "studying" and playing footsie under the table. Intensely...

I enjoy flirting with my feet. It feels good. However, I find this a little weird. I've mentioned a few times that he seems obsessed with my feet, and he denies it.

Sooo how would you feel about that? Would it be fine with you or a red flag? Girls, would you be comfortable sending foot pictures to a guy who is seriously attracted to your feet?

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So he has asked for pictures of your feet? And keeps wanting more? In part this seems harmless, but if you're uncomfortable don't send him pictures. Even if he was a boyfriend, he's not entitled to receiving pics or any other requests he makes. After all, you have no idea what he's doing with those photos. He could be selling them at a foot fetish convention But seriously, if you feel weird about something -- listen to your gut and decline what bugs you. You always have the right to say, "no".

I haven't read anything to suggest a foot fetish is a red flag. I'd be more concerned that he's in denial of it, because denial isn't healthy behavior. But it could be he thinks feet are really, really "cute", but not in a really risqué way and that's why it's hard to acknowledge it as a "fetish". Fetish has a pretty negative connotation after all.

A red flag for sure: if he's pushy about his likes/obsession because it shows a lack of respect, boundaries, and balance. If a guy thought my feet were cute/attractive, it wouldn't bother me. But if he asked for pictures, I'd probably either say "no" or be snarky and ask for a commission... then tell him "no". To me, it feels like I'm not being treated as a person but an object to admire. If someone likes my feet, they get the whole person too. Every aspect that makes me human. He doesn't get to crop out the rest of me.

Bare in mind, most people have something they like about the human body. I don't think that's wrong, I think that's how we are wired. There are certain aspects of anatomy I think are more beautiful or more attractive than the rest, but at the same time I wouldn't ask anything of a man that would disrespect him or treat him as an object/prostitute. And if I found I made him uncomfortable, even if innocent enough, I would reproach myself. I think that respect makes the difference. Not what someone likes or dislikes, but how they treat you as a whole person. Is the relationships about two people or his desires?

graciesings said:

Part B: How do you feel about feet? Are you attracted to them or not? Do you enjoy getting a foot massage or are you way too ticklish? Do you enjoy sitting across from someone, with both of you barefoot, and just rubbing your feet together for long periods of time? Or is that too weird?

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I'm indifferent or repulsed depending on hygiene/personal care. I don't find them attractive. Don't think I'd be apposed to receiving a foot massage. Never done that, so I have no idea. I don't think it's too weird, more like... I'd hit my limit for tolerating physical contact sooner rather than later.

Sounds like he gets a kick out of it, but you should put your foot down if it bothers you.

Years of therapy later and I'm still not the same..

Good thing I won that 10 million dollar suit. Makes me feel a smidge better.

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Heh. If I may direct attention from Gracie's questions for just a moment to say this, Meh, I must say I do enjoy the somewhat dry-humored quips you throw into a thread every now and then.

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So he has asked for pictures of your feet? And keeps wanting more? In part this seems harmless, but if you're uncomfortable don't send him pictures. Even if he was a boyfriend, he's not entitled to receiving pics or any other requests he makes. After all, you have no idea what he's doing with those photos. He could be selling them at a foot fetish convention But seriously, if you feel weird about something -- listen to your gut and decline what bugs you. You always have the right to say, "no".

I haven't read anything to suggest a foot fetish is a red flag. I'd be more concerned that he's in denial of it, because denial isn't healthy behavior. But it could be he thinks feet are really, really "cute", but not in a really risqué way and that's why it's hard to acknowledge it as a "fetish". Fetish has a pretty negative connotation after all.

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And if it helps, Madam Gracie, I agree with Miss Shattered's advice here.

A: The part that would bother me is the denial. I have fetishes, and if I were getting close to someone I would make a point to mention them (of course, not straight on when we first meet, because that's weird) because they are definitely a part of me and the other person needs to be comfortable with that.

For someone to act like they have a fetish and refuse to acknowledge it would bother me. It's like they're hiding stuff or not paying attention to what's going on with themselves. It's hard to explain- either way, I don't like that.

B: Feet are alright to look at. I'm interested in drawing them, because they are so difficult! They're a challenge. I hate being touched though, especially on my feet, and I wouldn't want to touch anyone else's feet.

graciesings said:

That's a really good analysis. He's told Mr that my feet are cute, and he's also fascinated by them because they're big feet. He and I both have very large feet.... He says he's that a why he's So fascinated with them.

At first, He hadn't seen my feet, So I could see why he might want a picture of them. But then after seeing me barefoot yesterday, and massaging my feet, and playing footsie under the table, he asked me to send him pictures of the top and bottom of my feet. And... That's the pointy where I felt kinda awkward about it, lol.

I'm pretty sure he likes me for more than just my feet. We have a lot in common... And we both find each other enjoyable to be around. Also,he is respectful. But the feet are a kinda unusual thing... I'm not sure how to react to that lol.

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I'd suggest you think about his other qualities and use that to put his fascination with your feet into the proper context.

This post I'm responding to has broadened the possibilities. He could be anything from a full blown foot fetishist to someone specifically interested in only your feet.

DOH! It just came to me. There are people who eroticise feet, feet just like breasts, bottoms or legs. So why not find out about him? I think a trip to the beach with all those bare feet is in order. You may get the good news that it is really only your feet that he is interested in. Or the not so good news that whenever a nice foot goes by his head turns.

Or lots of shades in in between.

And no matter what remember that you will get the bonus of all the foot rubs you want. You may find that important if parking at the beach is bad.

graciesings said:

That's a really good analysis. He's told me that my feet are cute, and he's also fascinated by them because they're big feet. He and I both have very large feet.... He says he's that a why he's So fascinated with them.

At first, He hadn't seen my feet, So I could see why he might want a picture of them. But then after seeing me barefoot yesterday, and massaging my feet, and playing footsie under the table, he asked me to send him pictures of the top and bottom of my feet. And... That's the pointy where I felt kinda awkward about it, lol.

I'm pretty sure he likes me for more than just my feet. We have a lot in common... And we both find each other enjoyable to be around. Also,he is respectful. But the feet are a kinda unusual thing... I'm not sure how to react to that lol.

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I think I agree with you that he's crossed the line of personal boundaries by asking for specific views of your feet. Like, if a boyfriend asked for pics from our trip or a picture of me, sure there's nothing wrong with that. But then if he's like "can I get this angle" and "another on the beach" or "in that dress" it becomes excessive, even ridiculous. So just be clear and honest to him. Example: "I'm flattered you think my feet are so cute and interesting, but asking for more pictures is a bit excessive and makes me feel uncomfortable. I hope you'll understand." If he's obstinate, rude, pouty, cold, acts passive aggressive, or accepts the issue only to bring it up again and again than you know he's not really respecting you over his wants (not to mention immature). It's about how he can manipulate you to get what he wants. Even IF he likes you or thinks he loves you, he's not seeking what's best for you but for him. But if you can have a conversation and he continues to respect you and make an effort, than you may be on your way of having a healthy and happy relationship.

I'll give you this warning. See the situation for what it is, not what you'd hope it to be. Even if you're objective now, you may not be later especially if you're invested in him. The people who sexually assaulted me were nice, treated me well, seemed interested in me as a person, and had meaningful conversation with me. They were patient in getting my guard down and slowly increased contact before they showed their true colors. I'm not saying he will assault you, I can't know that, but perverts do know how to be socially adjusted, kind, charismatic, and act loving.

I don't know what kind of man he is, I cannot make that judgment at this point. Often only time can tell who people really are. He could be a man of great quality and character, he just really like feets. No biggie, I do not know that to be evil or a sign of a toxic person. Just guard yourself, because you never know what people will turn into when they realize they can or cannot get what they were actually after.

And never, ever do something you're not comfortable with. Always listen to your gut if you feel uncomfortable, awkward, threatened -- because your gut instinct is your first line of defense. Take advantage of that.

That's too weird for me personally.

graciesings said:

Part A: There is a guy (yes... really) who I recently met, that I kinda like. He and I have both expressed interest in each other. Thing is: He has this obsession with my feet. He's never asked me to send revealing pictures, but it seems like he can't get enough foot pictures.... We spent this afternoon together in the campus library, and I swear we spent over half the time "studying" and playing footsie under the table. Intensely...

I enjoy flirting with my feet. It feels good. However, I find this a little weird. I've mentioned a few times that he seems obsessed with my feet, and he denies it.

Sooo how would you feel about that? Would it be fine with you or a red flag? Girls, would you be comfortable sending foot pictures to a guy who is seriously attracted to your feet?

Part B: How do you feel about feet? Are you attracted to them or not? Do you enjoy getting a foot massage or are you way too ticklish? Do you enjoy sitting across from someone, with both of you barefoot, and just rubbing your feet together for long periods of time? Or is that too weird?

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I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this. I mean, it's not common for someone to express an interest in feet so I think that's why it may come across weird. I think it depends on what YOU think about it. If you think it is weird or something you can't handle then probably best to not form a relationship.

Sell Your camera and You won't need to send any pictures. Personally, I've almost never had a camera and when I had I usually borrowed (for rather specific purposes and only one Week at a time) and even that I've done very rarely.

I can't find anything peculiar about liking feet. I like feet myself too (women's of course), realized that a couple of years into my first relationship but I got more out of my fondness for feet in my second relationship. I can't say it's been a fetish/excess though since I've been able to abstain for a few years now. Denial is where it goes wrong. I don't deny. And it's not the only part of the body I like about a woman. I've got a pretty good taste for women but women don't need to look stereotypical or have much above average bodies. As I enjoy just looking at womens faces keeping the focal point on their nose I enjoy friendship very much indeed. In fact friendship is so important that I do anything to get female friendship and don't dream of becoming a couple with anyone.
Still I may at some point live in a couple relationship, perhaps even marry a single parent, but other than that I can discuss and have beatiful emotions I can't do much to advance a relationship, for example I can't provide well (at least not in person, perhaps indirectly if my parents accept the woman) and I'm no fun to live together with since I snore have lot of things and can't get a new contract for an apartment for a foreseeable future. I have a great apartment but it's actually TOO great - luxurious and about twenty square feet too small for living together as a couple. Can't boast with nearby train/metro station - those are at a distance of more than 2-5 miles. I'm reluctant to pay for an internet connection and I don't have a smartphone so unless she likes using a calendar or planning in her head when to see me a potential girlfriend/wife may get annoyed at me. For me it's just normal to agree on when to meet - I can't think of another way. Opposite sex is too exiting - I need a good night's sleep.

Women's feet - in general, are a very sensual part of the body, and they cap off my absolute favourite body part (the legs) very nicely.

They tend to be very well looked after, soft, visually appealing, and are a key erogenous zone - hence why tickling them provides so many giggles, as well as a lot of fun for both parties.

Fetishists tend to look at the arch of the foot, the proportion of the tops of the feet to to toes, and how a foot looks, in, say, a pair of ballet pumps.

Skin tone is also an absolute key.

Is he weird? No. But I tend to favour other parts of the body first, but that's completely subjective. I've known of guys to obsesses over love handles, and cellulite. We're all wired differently. For me, it's legs, then lips, cheek dimples, and the shape of the jawline. And to an extent I like a bit of excess girth or 'curves'.

If you become an item, be prepared for A LOT of foot rubs. And also an increase in leg definition - but to comply with forum rules, I won't say why, but you'll find out.

I imagine that for many foot fetishists.. their dream girl would be someone who had their feet cut off and attached to their hands and vice versa.

I love to have my barefeet tickled, and keep them dry, nails trimmed, painted black. Well, I use a nail supplement, makes my nails the colour they should be.