Fed Up

Hi,
It sounds like you have a reason to be upset.
Being a guy, let me say that boobs don't make a difference.
If a guy can't accept you for being a whole person, then he's not good enough for you.
Believe me, they'll be someone.
I just had someone that wanted me for one thing, I told her no.
Now she won't even talk to me.
I figure so what. I'm worth more than that.
You're worth something too, and one day someone will see that.
When they love you for you and not for some superficial reason,
you'll see it was worth the wait.
Bless you, and i hope things turn around for you soon.
Chuck.

Hi ruby
This is one area I can help some. I too have sufferd through more than my fair share of situations like this, I dont have APD but I am overly aware of faults. People tell me all the time I talk way too much and that drives posable friends away, I never had more than 5 friends at any given time none that I could REALLY, HONESTLY call a best friend but I knew A LOT of people(you know the ones that will say hi only if they see you seeing them) Friends come and go its a fact of life...... it seems for people like me anyway.

As for your looks, my girlfriend is nothing like the girl of my dreams on the outside... I didnt even want to really get to know her at first. She was heavyset and I like my girls thin, but she kept hanging around and God was speaking to my heart. I found out how shallow I was being, I thank God everyday for her and now I will marry her in 2 weeks. I find her cute in her own way and I dont even look at her outword beauty(Which is there trust me, I was just looking at her small belly and not seeing it) But her real beauty is whats on the inside, she is a Christain, kind, caring, honest person. Trust me I was once like you but God provided her in his time not mine, there is nothing you can do to hurry God but just make shore your following his laws and talk to him not just pray at him, really talk to him like in bruce almighty "Pray about what really matters to you" if you dont like something tell him argue with him really let him know how you feel, He knows you and loves you and created you this way. I praise, yell, cry, and talk to my maker all the time. He is the only one that truely knows what you are going through because he created and is molding your life..... Hang in there your mate isnt ready for you yet but is on his way.
Hugs
Brian

perhalps you are the dominant one, thats ok, just let her go, if you are unhappy or it will drive you mad,you are never alone with the spirit. pray and talk to him and be positive, thank him for things you already have and see your confidence grow.it may be your friend who is the loner not you, you have tryed to help, thats all you can do really.

There are a number of self-help groups that deal with codependency issues and recovery from it through spiritual means. Well worth looking into.

I have bad teeth but instead of blaming girls for being shallow, I figure maybe I'll save up the money to do something about it.

Sounds like you must have a pretty good idea of how Jesus feels about His family....i'm guilty of pushing Him away or avoiding Him because i feel guilty about something that i did...even though i know that He forgave me!!! Do what Jesus did "...whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him/her also." Matthew 5:39 Show her love...love covers a multitude of sins!!! Thank God for not squashing us when we ignore him for hours on end!!! He still reaches out gently to pull us toward Him!!!
It is my opinion that boobs don't make a girl a girl...thank God you aren't tempted to do things that could ruin your family's life and your own! I believe that God must have an amazing, incredible man waiting just for you. Someone with some real substance...that can look beyond outward appearance and see something in you that will blow his mind!!! If i know God...the guy that HE has waiting for you will think that you're beautiful in every way...just the way God made you!!! Because God made you two just for each other!!!
May The LORD JESUS bless you!!!

If you want different results then you have to change what you are doing. Now I'm not going to preach to you but I will say this I was so controlling I tried to control people things in my life but it never worked out. I just ended up tired and frustrated. Until one day, I said Lord just take this and do what you will, it is yours. My life has changed for the positive from then on.

Ruby Moon said:

• I'm kinds of fed up with alot of things, first is my friend, I have tried to help her and be her friend but she keeps pushing me away. She uses her life as an excuse, but I see her around all the time. She don't talk to me at all, unless I effect her ego. By calling her out because she didn't write me for a few days. I just feel she don't care about me.
• I feel so lonely I have Avoidant personality disorder and I'm bi-polar and its hard for me to make friends, I never even had that many. I even have an anime crush because I can't get a real boyfriend, no guys want me anyway I have no boobs.
• I'm scared of christians they mostly seem to judge and condem people, I don't even like asking them for advice because i get a bunch of religion, i am a christian myself but sometimes I need more then the bible and pray about it, God put us on this earth to help eachother and not give them empty advice.

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It's alright. I know that at times, Christians can go a little overboard with Biblical lectures and simply overload you with a bunch of religous ideals. Anyways, let's talk about the matter at hand.

Friendship is a difficult thing. It sounds like your friend is a bit too self-involved. Despite how hard you try to keep things growing between the two of you, she keeps pushing you away, right? I don't know how long you've been friends with this person, but it's not a real friendship. Real friendship shouldn't be dependant on making the other content all the time. I mean, everyone needs a compliment and pick-me-up every now and then, but you shouldn't be striving to meet the other's expectations 24/7. Look for a friend that you can about anything with. You can share experiences and stories back and forth without having anything awkward. And if you can't find that person where you are right now, I'll be him. I'm no anime boyfriend, but I'm not going to judge you for how you look like.

Besides, I'm a pretty big anime fan myself. Atually more into manga, but I'll watch the occasional anime episode every now and then. What's your favorite?

As for feelings of loneliness, I've gone through those before. You just need someone you can lean on. And it'd be nice if that person wasn't throwing the word Amen after every sentence, right? Now I'm grounded in my faith and live my life to the best of Biblical standards and ideals, but it's just not in me to shove my religion down other people's throats. I've been called a friendly, very down-to-earth Christian before, and I'm guessing that's the kind of companionship you've been longing for. But even if I'm not the best friend you've been looking for, at least you'll get some decent conversation out of it. And I don't think that's all that horrible.

Hoping for the best.