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Hey guys, I'm back with the same issue. I'm still stressed about a job offer I received because I feel like I didn't earn it honestly. Basically, onw of the interview questions was where they asked me about a time where I had to get creative at work and how it helped my coworkers. My answer was about the process of getting insurance authorizations for appointments (how I had to do some research to get them) and it helped my coworkers because no one else had to do it, it looked good on a report, and that I got us caught up on that project from us being behind (which happened before I started working there).

My problem is that in describing all this, I said *I* got us caught up (which isn't true, I had help, except I forgot) and said/implied that I keep us caught up on it (I have not had time to work on this in a LONG time, and another gal has basically taken it over. We worked it out that she would work ahead and i would check to see if we got what the auths needed after she requested them. I occasionally have time to go back and check and see if we were sent what we need, but I'm only able to do a small check of a percentage of what actually needs to be checked).

I got offered the job. In fact, in the span of 4 days I got a phone call, interview, reference check, and job offer. That fast. This means that I can finally move out of state, finally, at age 26, move out from my parents house.

But I just feel awful. On the one hand, I feel like interviewers really don't care about the kind of thing I described, and if I had been more truthful and been like "when I USED to work on authorizations more," I still would have gotten the job.

But feel like if I DO take this job, then I'm ignoring God and committing the unpardonable sin, and that my life will be based on a lie from here on out. I've been turning this over and over in my brain, going back and forth. I think it would be foolish to turn this down, but at the same time, I'm scared because it feels like I'm turning my back on God. I don't have a clear head about this, so I'm hesitant to do ANYTHING. And its been over a week now and I'm still not sure. There's a lot of paperwork for them to process so it'll be a few weeks before I hear about a final "for sure" offer, so it's not like I'm sitting on this.

I just don't know what to do.
 

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Do you have a psychiatrist and medicine?
If so, let them know this is happening so they can make appropriate adjustments.

Fight the OCD; don't answer to it.
 
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Why look at it all so negatively? You got the job, Jesus wanted you to have it, that is why you got it. Repent of any wrong doing and try to be truthful from now on. Praise Jesus instead of fear Him. Serve Him with your job. Do it as if you work for God.

Deny your O.C.D to call the shots. Simply love Jesus for grace in your life and for caring better for you than you deserve.

Peace.
 
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This is what the unpardonable sin really is:

~Mark 3:20-30 (NKJV)

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~Matthew 12:22-32 (NKJV)

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If you truly fear you have blasphemed the Holy Spirit, I recommend reciting this personal declaration to Him:

"The Holy Spirit, I love You, I respect You, and I appreciate everything You have done for me."

(Deuteronomy 6:5, Ephesians 4:25-32, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 2 Peter 3:9)

I have struggled with this fear. Thanks to this declaration, I do not struggle with it anywhere near as much as I once did. My gift to you.

Take care, stay safe, and God bless!
 
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Maddcat,
The interviewer asked you,,,,about a time where you had to get creative at work and how it helped your coworkers.
You answered because it helped your coworkers. I dont understand why you are having trouble with what u said. You were involved in the process and it did help. Does not matter if you were working with another person. You took the initiative and u were involved in making it happen. Even if another coworker was more involved in it, you WERE a part of it! Why are you beating yourself up?
 
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Because I made it sound like I'm the only one responsible, making me look better than I am (for example when I said in the interview that it helps my team because no one else has to do it).
 
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Because I made it sound like I'm the only one responsible, making me look better than I am (for example when I said in the interview that it helps my team because no one else has to do it).
Okay then, when you talk to the interviewer again, and you feel convicted about it, then i would simply clarify thats the first thing that came to your mind. And you want to let him or her know other people were involved too,,,,that you werent the only one. Just clarify it to get it off ur heart. I doubt they will say,,,,oh no, you are out! And if the job is meant for you, you will get it.
Look, God knows exactly what door he wants you to go through. Even if a door slams, he opens another. He is faithful! I wouldnt sweat it. If it helps you to get it off ur chest, just clarify it!
 
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Your answer is very helpful; I did send a clarification email about another thing when I was sending them my references, and while I felt my mind buzzing about the interview, at the time I didn't really start over thinking it until later. So basically, the time to clarify anything has past; unless it comes up when I'm talking to them on the job site. But thank you for chiming in; I do feel a bit better about the whole thing.
 
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Good for you! Sounds like they really like you if they made you an offer quickly. Yayyy!
 
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I’m not sure if this thread is still active; however, I’ll post anyways. I’m having a really difficult time and I need to talk it out. I’ve been struggling with intense fear of the Unpardonable Sin. Let me say, by no means do I want to have ANY though against the Lord in any way, shape, or form. I would genuinely rather have the Lord take me before I committed such an evil sin…..that being said, my mind is weak. It’s like recently, the evil and vile thoughts have been ramped up to 11. I mean any blasphemy you can think of has probably gone through my head. I suffer from OCD, and I’d like to believe that it’s to blame. Simply put, my Obsession is the unpardonable sin and I have compulsions I do whenever I get a bad thought to try and “counteract it”. Recently, I’ve been trying to stop the cycle and just ignore the thoughts, thus stripping them of any power over me. For a few days, that worked. Now, I feel like I’m being accused of being careless. I’m not trying to be. I’m trying to just ignore any evil though that arises, so they don’t have any power over me. I’m just afraid because I feel like my mind is saying “you aren’t fighting them, so you agree with them” and “because you are ignoring them, that shows you don’t care and you probably wanted at least one of them”. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I’m fact, I’m trying to fight them by ignoring them. But what if? I’m just so afraid. I’m also afraid because the other day I was mad at the girl I’m with, and as per usual, I started getting hit with these evil thoughts. I tried to ignore them, but then it’s like I started hearing “You’re angry, and in your anger you blasphemed the Lord”. At this point, I’m just terrified in general. What if, in ignoring these thoughts, I thought one of them. I didn’t want to, but what if? I’m afraid because I can’t remember any of the thoughts because I was so busy trying to ignore them…..I’m scared out of my mind. Someone please help me.
 
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Anxiety is always asking "what if"

We know that the devil and his demons can put thoughts in our heads. They seem to be giving you a lot of trouble. But God knows your heart. He knows you don't mean to be offensive to him. Yet, without Christ, that is what we are. However, with Christ, God no longer looks at us as rebellious sinners. Ignoring those thoughts and not engaging with them is not a bad thing. I don't think it's sin anyway. You are trying to drain them of power by ignoring them. That's one way to fight them. I don't think we can always counteract every little evil thought that pops into our minds. I think the demons would want us to try, which would shift our focus away from Christ and into a continual warfare. Not to say the Christian life is not a warfare, for it is, but not every evil thought is worth our time and contemplation.

I don't think the unpardonable sin is something one can "think themselves into". If your mind is being filled with blasphemous thoughts, you must recognize that these thoughts do not come from your new heart, which is connected to Christ. They come from the flesh and from demons. God knows your heart. I would suggest you focus more on the person of Christ than on the evil thoughts. Praying for you
 
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You are right, this is typical OCD. Even your thinking processes, over-analyzing your thoughts and feelings to try to figure out if you "want" the intrusive thoughts, is typical. OCD is all about doubting ourselves and hyper-analyzing a situation to a point where we can't even hear our common sense anymore. And you are right, ignoring is an effective strategy, although of course OCD throws doubt even on that, making you think that ignoring is the same as wanting the thoughts. It's not. It feels like it, because you are over-analyzing your feelings so much, but it's not.

Do you know much about treating OCD? Are you working with a professional, or have you in the past? It sounds like you are familiar with how compulsions work, at least.
 
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I have the same mental issues as you. I will do something wrong that, by all objective standards, is a minor offense, but in no time I will be sending myself off the cliff by churning it over in my mind. Don't do that to yourself. I have a wondeful wife. When I'm churning an issue, I'll tell her and she'll say something like, "That's totally stupid to think that way. Nobody can live like that." And it snaps me back to reality. As for your job interview, did you materially lie and distort your involvement? Probably not. Was your assessment mostly true? Probably so. Interviewers aren't looking for absolutely, specific recitations of what you did at your job. But what if you sinned? Guess what? Jesus forgives ALL sins. But won't you be benefitting from your sin? Isn't that true of everyone? Every day we all sin and enjoy this world WHILE we are sinning. How is that possible? Jesus forgives sins unconditionally. We won't stop sinning until we are with him. Stop trying to earn the favor of Jesus by trying to be good. You aren't good. None of us is good. And you aren't committing the unpardonable sin. Jesus saved that description for the guys who hated Jesus and suggested that he got his power from Beelzabub.
 
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