Enjoy being Single?

I've just realised that I can't wait for anything when I set my mind to it. God's timing is something I struggle with.

Right now I am happy in the single situation. However the second I decide I've had enough of that I'll swing into action. I'll go to places to maximise the chance of meeting the most people - and talk to everyone and maybe join some Christian dating sites. All to increase my exposure to the most single ladies I can.

In a way I wish I could just sit tight and let God work for me. It's just not in my DNA - I'm just too task orientated.

Al T said:

I've just realised that I can't wait for anything when I set my mind to it. God's timing is something I struggle with.

Right now I am happy in the single situation. However the second I decide I've had enough of that I'll swing into action. I'll go to places to maximise the chance of meeting the most people - and talk to everyone and maybe join some Christian dating sites. All to increase my exposure to the most single ladies I can.

In a way I wish I could just sit tight and let God work for me. It's just not in my DNA - I'm just too task orientated.

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Haha! That's the way to do it! I am also the same way. I don't like waiting. As of right now, in person, I only know a few single guys. But one of them is underage, the other has never had an interest in me, and the other is not following after the Lord as much as I would like.

I've been single eight days shy of 8 months, and I haven't exactly been the most patient during that time. I've had an almost relationship until I noticed huge character flaws, and I've drifted interests between a couple different guys only to find things out about them that I really couldn't tolerate in the long run.

If there was one thing I'd have to say I'm most happy about in regards to being single is not having to be in the midst of a relationship before I start seeing the character flaws.

I can be single but I cannot be alone. If I will be single I will try my best to make as many female friends as possible. =)

2 years of being single and I'm pretty happy with letting life take its course. There are opportunities everywhere, no need for me to hunt them out when I can just investigate them as they occur. Though I guess I am much more laid back about letting things flow, clocking single people around me isn't something I really do.

But it's still 2 years of discovering that being single is not the horrible experience my younger self thought it was.

re-worded, kind of.

I would love to have a traveling partner. I'm getting weary of making all these plans to travel alone. I have a strong desire to travel all over Europe with he love of my life by my side, to share in the little moments, helping each other through the big moments, and making memories that will last us a life time.

I don't enjoy being single but I wouldn't want to settle for less than God's best

Yep I enjoy my singleness and the freedom that comes with it. I can truly say that God keeps making Himself known to me and He just keeps blowing my mind!

I don't like being single. I'd give it up and all its "freedoms" in a heart beat for the right person. However, I am not willing to "settle" just to avoid being alone. I know what I want and as I get older, it seems harder to find. My life isn't really that bad and is on the upswing. Honestly, I was happier when I was married even with all its personal crisises. However, I see too many friends with marriages that are depressing and I wouldn't want. So I am working on learning how to be content alone but praying that God sends someone my direction in the meantime.

I'm enjoying it.

I can not trust anybody so I am destine to be single forever.

Lately I have been wanting to try and start dating again but like I said, I can not trust anybody.

Tom Mix said:

I can not trust anybody so I am destine to be single forever.

Lately I have been wanting to try and start dating again but like I said, I can not trust anybody.

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I'm with you there. there's a very small list of people that i trust, two to be exact.

sometimes to trust Christ means that you trust Him enough to open your hearts to others...we can't follow Him and love like Him if we don't open our hearts... be careful who you marry but not whom you love....

MehGuy said:

Not sure if I'd ever want to get married. I don't see why the hassle is worth it.

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exactly 100% me. It's not worth too me spending thousands on getting married, then maybe even more on a divorce lawyer. So silly.

snoopy500 said:

exactly 100% me. It's not worth too me spending thousands on getting married, then maybe even more on a divorce lawyer. So silly.

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Yep, MGTOW baby.

EazyMack said:

I recently got promoted at work,

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Congratulations. Are you in Management now?

I am going to get married soon. I do not know to whom and I do not know where but she will be smoking hot and as nice as Mother Teresa.

I will provide for her and she will complement me with her service and great beauty.

I will also soon win the lottery and have 300 million dollars to do nothing but travel the world and buy her beautiful cloths to wear and all the men will desire her but I will have her.

She will also be able to spin golden yarn.....yes, that's right, golden yarn and anytime one of my King friends ask for some gold I will just ask her to please spin some gold for our King friends.

And I will build an Island for us to live on and I will build the worlds largest Navy and every ship will have her picture on the side for good luck, yes, a giant Navy and we will fight China's Navy and they will loose because my wife's picture is so beautiful that they will not want to shoot at my ships so my Island Nation will win and I will take over China and make my wife the Queen of China and I will give Hong Kong back to Great Britain and Great Britain will make my wife Honorary Queen and have a special government holiday in her name.

And then me and her will build us the worlds largest river, yes, that's it, the worlds largest river. And we will take over half of Russia and dig it out using giant shovels and we will start at the Northern border of Russia and make it zigzag back and forth all over the place and it will end on the southern border of China where she is Queen at.

And then every night I will come home to her and she will tell me how much she missed me and I will tell her how beautiful she is and that I love her and we will have dinner together and then set on the couch and cuddle while we talk about or day and the great things we were able to do and then we will look each other in the eyes for a long time without talking and then make love for a very long time.

But then I would find out that she was only using me because I am good looking and hansom and she only dated me because she wanted to be Queen of China and then I would have to go live in a secrete cave because I will be so shamed.

But then she would come find me and tell me that even though it started out as a scam that she really did fall in love with me for who I was and that she no longer wants to be Queen of China if it means loosing me. So she gives away all that she has and tells me that she just wants to be with me only and she does not want anything else to get in between us.

And for giving me so much love I decide to turn my Navy against Europe and I conquer them and make my beautiful wife the Queen of Europe also.

And we live happily ever after.

TBH, I don't really enjoy being single, but I make the best out of it that I can. In fact, even when I started college I thought I'd be married or at least dating/engaged to my future wife. It's really not something I constantly worry about or lose sleep over, but I'd be lying to say that I liked or enjoyed it. Sure, it has its advantages, very little in life doesn't have advantages over the its alternative, but the alternative of being married/in a relationship is more suitable for me. In fact, there was a time in college where I contemplated not getting married and found my reasons for staying celibate to be much more selfish than marrying.

Elizabeth8393 said:

I'm with you there. there's a very small list of people that i trust, two to be exact.

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Trust in many ways seems to be like walking a tightrope. It's scary and very easy think you'll fall - that the person you are trusting will shake the tightrope and that will be that.

However trust isn't really like that. It's more of a bank account. You pay in a bit at a time. You see that the bank doesn't run off with your money so you pay in a bit more and a bit more. It's only if the bank runs off that you stop.

People are exactly the same. You trust someone with a fragment. You start to give bigger and bigger bits. Eventually you realise - you trust them.
This is an on-going process with every person you meet.

I have had trust issues in the past and I found this might help. Especially when trying to build trust going into a new relationship.