Empty town?

Keri · May 25, 2007

Does anyone else suffer with the same problem I do?

I live in a smaller town on the Central Coast of California and there isn't many Christian guys my age around. No one at church. We don't even have a college ministry any more. I'm thinking about church shopping to see if there are any college age or singles groups, but it just seems sooooo hard to meet people here.

Anyone else plagued by this too?

BoazB · May 25, 2007

I don't think that is unusual. What is also not unusual, is to think we are the only ones going through this.

Gimpy · May 25, 2007

I belong to a small church in a large area. But if I were looking for single people I would definitely go to a large church with all the ameneties.

OhhJim · May 25, 2007

Some large churches have Singles Ministries that are intended to minister to people from various churches. For example, here in Walnut Creek, there is a Singles Group that meets mainly on the last Friday of every month. It draws people from many different churches, and some who don't go to church.

mina · May 25, 2007

I go to a larger church, but the singles ministry isn't that great. There is no one- guy or girl- around my age. There are people in their late 30's and up and there are those that are under 23 and that's it. And then there's me. I can get along with those people but I'd like to have someone to relate to and who can relate to me. I don't often do many things with the singles.

joanna1 · May 25, 2007

Lol at least your problem is your town, rather than your continent I think we all suffer from knowing few singles out age, hense our need to congregate on the internet to chat.

LadyOfMystery · May 25, 2007

*Keri* said:
Does anyone else suffer with the same problem I do?

I live in a smaller town on the Central Coast of California and there isn't many Christian guys my age around. No one at church. We don't even have a college ministry any more. I'm thinking about church shopping to see if there are any college age or singles groups, but it just seems sooooo hard to meet people here.

Anyone else plagued by this too?

I totally know what you mean. lol More than half of the people that live around my town are 65 or over. lol
I have yet to even meet a guy around my age that's Christian.

Keri · May 26, 2007

LadyofMystery said:
I totally know what you mean. lol More than half of the people that live around my town are 65 or over. lol
I have yet to even meet a guy around my age that's Christian.

The only guy my age is the youth pastor. He's 23 and we even went to the same bible college but he's more like my older brother than anything.

Spicy McHaggis · May 26, 2007

*Keri* said:
Anyone else plagued by this too?

Problem I have is that there's only ONE good looking girl in my town, and I haven't even seen her yet.

Not for nothing but were you on like, a CF hiatus?

PrincessFromOz · May 26, 2007

I'm in a similar situation. I go to the 2nd largest church in my town, and there are practically no guys around my age who are still single and Christian.

I know it's hard, but I wouldn't church-shop to find a guy. I believe God will bring a guy to me at the right time - our God is a miracle-working God!

Can I tell you a story to illustrate my point? It's quite romantic...

I have a friend who never had a boyfriend until she was like 23. The rest of us went through a few boyfriends, but she said she was waiting for God to bring her the right one. She goes to a small church where there were literally NO guys around her age, AT ALL! So we were all thinking when is she ever going to meet this 'one'? And how, since there are no guys in her church? Still, she waited...

And then one day, this guy visited her church. He was handsome, really really nice, and a Christian! After he met her, he kept 'visiting' the church, and eventually love blossomed.

They got married last month, and I have to tell you, it was the most beautiful wedding I've ever been to.

That girl's patience still inspires me... she waited, and God gave her the desire of her heart.

*sniff*

silentpoet · May 26, 2007

My church is more families. And in my classes I am one of maybe 2-3 singles. There is maybe 1 single female. She is within my age bracket. I like her, but don't really feel attracted to her all that much. I think what attraction I do feel is based on the fact she is about the only available one I meet at church.

Keri · May 26, 2007

iklepac13 said:
Problem I have is that there's only ONE good looking girl in my town, and I haven't even seen her yet.

Not for nothing but were you on like, a CF hiatus?

I've been really busy. Read this post. http://www.christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=35125369&postcount=14 it'll explain my day-to-day.

And I got assaulted at work. The guy was sent back to prison so I'm back to work now. AND I didn't have the internet for a while. I wasn't even on myspace for like 5 months.

I wanted to be here, but things we crazy.

How are you Ian? What have you been up to?

BoazB · May 26, 2007

Just reading these posts relates to my story.

I was a teacher in a farming town. People left town at the age of 18/19 and returned only after "married with kids" to take over the farm.

Braticus · May 26, 2007

Oh, do I! I live in a town of about 3500 people. There aren't any guys that are my age that aare Christians. In fact there realyl aren't any guys my age period. If I choose to got oa different church I would have to drive for over an hour every Sunday, and with the price of gas, I'm not willing to. I'll try to be patient and wait, and if God doesnt' want me waiting, He knows what to do!

BoazB · May 26, 2007

Braticus said:
Oh, do I! I live in a town of about 3500 people. There aren't any guys that are my age that aare Christians. In fact there realyl aren't any guys my age period. If I choose to got oa different church I would have to drive for over an hour every Sunday, and with the price of gas, I'm not willing to. I'll try to be patient and wait, and if God doesnt' want me waiting, He knows what to do!

Sounds like a familiar place LOL. Where I was, if you stopped longer than it took to buy a can of Coke, they wouldn't ask your name - they would tell you your own name and why you were in town.

Braticus · May 26, 2007

BoazB said:
Just reading these posts relates to my story.

I was a teacher in a farming town. People left town at the age of 18/19 and returned only after "married with kids" to take over the farm.

This is EXACTLY where I live! In the middle of a flat prairie with only the wheat for company! Everyone leaves after grad and comes only for holidays, most people never move back.

PeculiarTreasure · May 26, 2007

Spatch said:
I'm in a similar situation. I go to the 2nd largest church in my town, and there are practically no guys around my age who are still single and Christian.

I know it's hard, but I wouldn't church-shop to find a guy. I believe God will bring a guy to me at the right time - our God is a miracle-working God!

Can I tell you a story to illustrate my point? It's quite romantic...

I have a friend who never had a boyfriend until she was like 23. The rest of us went through a few boyfriends, but she said she was waiting for God to bring her the right one. She goes to a small church where there were literally NO guys around her age, AT ALL! So we were all thinking when is she ever going to meet this 'one'? And how, since there are no guys in her church? Still, she waited...

And then one day, this guy visited her church. He was handsome, really really nice, and a Christian! After he met her, he kept 'visiting' the church, and eventually love blossomed.

They got married last month, and I have to tell you, it was the most beautiful wedding I've ever been to.

That girl's patience still inspires me... she waited, and God gave her the desire of her heart.

*sniff*

Wow that's one amazing story. I'm hoping I'll have a wonderful story to tell one day.

But yeah back to the OP. I know what you mean. I go to a large church also but it's still hard to find someone because one there's no singles ministry and two the bible study groups are not coed. Which is NOT by no means all bad but still how are we supposed to meet someone?

Keri · May 26, 2007

I have no idea how I'm supposed to meet someone. I guess I should do like Spatch's friend and just wait...

Idahofroggie · May 26, 2007

I so understand... the only single "adults" at my church are the pastor's 18 year old son (ew) and a 58 year old man (even more ew).

Braticus · May 26, 2007

*Keri* said:
I have no idea how I'm supposed to meet someone. I guess I should do like Spatch's friend and just wait...

Patients is a virtue. Sometimes I get impatient with life too. But God can provide the most amazing person if we just follow His guidance. God led me here, and I've made some wonderful friends. One more special than the rest!

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