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Christianbelle

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He has a past quite like mine. He's dealt with a lot of liars and cheaters as have I. His last gf lied about her age and made him believe that her ex made her have an abortion. He always wants to talk about stuff, but never wants to bring up the past.
 
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You really need to talk to him about this issue.

Relationships require communication and working together. If your having problems and your getting hurt, you need to tell him about it. You say you have and he says that's just the way he is, well, either he really doesn't understand what your going through because of that, or he doesn't care or doesn't know how to handle it.

Sit him down, look him in the eye and tell him exactly what you told us in your post. Tell him why it hurts you so much when he pushes you away. Tell him how you felt when you were trying to have a discussion with him and he was chatting away and having a good ole time with a friend. Tell him what you need and tell him that you want to work it out.

If he's not willing to work with you, then you have a problem that's not going to ever be resolved.
 
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K9 is correct. This can end up being a major issue that effects your relationship and the track it's taking. This is a major issue, especially if it's physically hurting you at times. He either needs to seek resolve through help, or you need to get out of this relationship because it will be on a one way track to nowhere.
 
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