Embarrasing Question

nenners · Jul 12, 2004

I am new here. I have an embarrasing question. My spouse is not a Christian. Is anal sex wrong between husband and wife? Please let me know where is mentions it in the bible.
nenners

DaveKerwin · Jul 12, 2004

It's one of those things where you could decide either way. The bible forbids sodomy (but how that applies to married heterosexul christians is debated). Then there is a verse that says the marriage bed is undefiled. I would say to use your conscience on the matter.

Svt4Him · Jul 12, 2004

I think there's another thread that answers this question, or trys to anyway.

Jenna · Jul 12, 2004

I have to second Dave on this issue.

Given that the Bible doesn't come out and condemn anal sex in marriage, it should probably be something that you and your husband spend some time praying about. Untimately, if either of you feel uncomfortable with the prospect, then that should be the end to the discussion. All sex should be entered into comfortably and with love.

SarahAblaze06 · Jul 12, 2004

i THIird dave!!

Blue Flame · Jul 12, 2004

^ what they said. Also, i'd look into the health concerns beforehand as well. Check out www . themarriagebed . com, they have some good information.

edit: for the ridiculous "must have 15 posts to link to an external site" rule

desi · Jul 12, 2004

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herev · Jul 12, 2004

I guess I fourth Dave

herev · Jul 12, 2004

did you really have to go there with a newbie?

edited quote from op

Whitestone · Jul 12, 2004

Is it the wife or the husband that wishes to have such relations?

This I believe falls under, if a wife does not feel that this action is pleasing or ok with God, she has scripture to back her up on saying no.

Whitestone

nenners · Jul 13, 2004

I may be new, but don't worry about offending me !! Until a couple of days ago, I was dead set against it. The reason being, I didn't want to sin. If it is not going against God, then I don't think I would have a problem with it. By no means would my hubby force it upon me, so I want to clarify that! Thanks for your replies.
Nenners

stubbornkelly · Jul 14, 2004

The Bible forbids sodomy, and while our contemporary definition of sodomy includes anal and oral sex, Biblically, sodomy was sex practiced by Sodomites (people of Sodom). We often use the story of Sodom and Gomorrah to prove the sinfulness of homosexual sex, and as such, I find it difficult to then use that story (and the contemporary use of a word stemming from it) to condemn anal or oral sex within a heterosexual marriage.

If it's something you would both like to try, I suggest reading up on it first, and certainly taking it slow. If you want to talk more about specifics, feel free to PM me.

Archivist · Jul 20, 2004

The wife has to obey her husband on an issue such as anal sex?????

I'm sorry, I just have a real problem with that statement.

edited quote

charligirl · Jul 20, 2004

As others have said, it isn't addressed in the bible per se, however, I think we need to consider what God intended our specific body parts for, and what health implications there are, before making a decision.

Personally that thought process has led me to the conclusion that it is not what God intended when he created man/wife and sex. But this is very much up to the individual couple involved.

SirKenin · Jul 20, 2004

The Bible's only reference to sodomy is in reference to the practice of the Sodomites. It included homosexual sins including gang rape.

This is further expanded upon in Ezekiel 16:49-50 where the sins are defined as "arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy", and in the epistle of Jude, where Jude qualifies the sins of the Sodomites to be "sexually immoral and perverted". (Jude 7).

Nowhere does the Bible use sodomy in any other terms.

Therefore, one can only come to the conclusion that it is up to your own discretion, and it is something that BOTH must agree upon.

The only thing I can thing of is you may want to bring up the issue of natural use.

LiberatedChick · Jul 20, 2004

Archivist said:
The wife has to obey her husband on an issue such as anal sex?????

That's not at all right.

Archivist said:
I'm sorry, I just have a real problem with that statement.

Me to.

drfeelgood said:
it is something that BOTH must agree upon.

Very True.

I'ddie4him · Jul 21, 2004

MOD HAT ON.....

This is not going to turn ugly in here, This not a debating thread. Nenners came here asking ADVICE, Not for anything else. If members can't post kindly and caringly, I will close and trash the thread. IS THAT CLEAR ??

MOD HAT OFF.....

Svt4Him · Jul 21, 2004

http://www.passionatecommitment.com/analsex.html

Linked from www.themarriagebed.com

nenners · Jul 21, 2004

The wife has to obey her husband on an issue such as anal sex?????

I didn't see this posted anywhere, am I missing something?
Thanks to everyone for your replies, it has helped a lot.
Nenners

Archivist · Jul 21, 2004

nenners said:
The wife has to obey her husband on an issue such as anal sex?????

I didn't see this posted anywhere, am I missing something?
Thanks to everyone for your replies, it has helped a lot.
Nenners

I believe that the post that stated that a wife had to obey her husband on this matter was removed. You probably noticed a couple posts by those of us who strongly disagreed with this statement but the original post appears to have been deleted.

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