Do you ever want to break the rules?

I think it should tell you something that there were no good Christian girls at this Haunted house thing, that isn't exactly where you should expect to find one, is it?

Lotar said:

I know what you mean. Isn't the whole point of dating to find the person you are going to marry?

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Or you might just want to go out and have a good time with a member of the opposite sex. I guess it all depends what you consider a "date".

I know this girl that will gladly go out with my buddy, they go out all the time, just the two of them, diner and a movie (stuff like that) but she says she won't "date" him because she's only going to date the guy she wants to marry.

It is possible that maybe, just maybe, life is a little less complicated than we're trying to make it.

SonWorshipper said:

I think it should tell you something that there were no good Christian girls at this Haunted house thing, that isn't exactly where you should expect to find one, is it?

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I don't get it. Christian girls won't go to haunted houses?

I disagree with this logic. This sounds almost as bad as those silly, warped Amway folks who tell you to only assocoate with people in Amway. If he/she is attractive and responsive then go for it. Christianity should come later.

mrslinky said:

I disagree with this logic. This sounds almost as bad as those silly, warped Amway folks who tell you to only assocoate with people in Amway. If he/she is attractive and responsive then go for it. Christianity should come later.

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I so disagree with that. You see God is #1 with me and not 'someone who comes somewhere down along the line later'. So whoever God brings on my path in life has to deal with the fact he can not be #1......... just as I need to accept the fact i wont be #1 for him. I want someone with a passion for God

and yeah its hard waiting, specially when all ur friends are settling down.....but then I just keep clinging on to God, He knows what he is doing....

it annoys me when people say that only "weird" people are attracted to them. that's so selfish, how do you think those people feel? and i think everyone is weird in some way. you will never find someone who is perfect with nothing you don't like about them however hard you look.
I'm sorry if that sounds really harsh to some people, but I know how it feels to have a girl you like think you're weird, and it really hurts your self respect

Lotar said:

Some people really are wierd. Like this girl that used to just follow me around and stare at me.

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Ok, this was funny! It made me giggle. Sorry to interrupt. Carry on....

Lotar said:

Some people really are wierd. Like this girl that used to just follow me around and stare at me.

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Sorry dude, that was just me with a mop on my head, I was just messin with you. I'll stop now though...

mrslinky said:

I disagree with this logic. This sounds almost as bad as those silly, warped Amway folks who tell you to only assocoate with people in Amway. If he/she is attractive and responsive then go for it. Christianity should come later.

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God should always be #1 in your life.. then your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend

Have lots of patience. It pays off.
Those girls who you were with at the haunted place, they're probably thankful that you just had a good time with them and didn't ask them out.
It works out in God's time. Settle for nothing less than what is more than you deserve. My wife...I couldn't have designed a better wife from scratch. God hooked me up with way more than I ever would have though of.

First, to respond to Lotar's original question - I've had similar thoughts along similar lines and for more recently poignant reasons (ie - a particular girl). But, I have dismissed them. I don't mean to be tacky, but God does come first. However, there is still the matter of time...

With regard to further discussion, I have to say that the point regarding identifying Christian ladies "in the wild", if you will, is perplexing to me. As another analytical type, I find I have an extremely difficult time recognizing analytical ladies from accross a room, bar, desk, coffee table, etc. I often want to just "break the rules" of small talk and ask people straight up "What's your Worldview?"

Am I crazy to think that it is NOT improper/sociall-unacceptable to ask people blunt questions about their beliefs about Life, God, and the universe at large? It seems to me that even if this seems incredibly odd and perhaps even offensive to some people, I can simply apologize and move onto the people who do care. Yet, I have not been able to really do this because of a few things.

1. It is still difficult in any capacity for me to approach people without any social prompting or reason to do so.

2. It is often difficult to "change the subject" or interject a conversation at party environments which are generally extrovert-driven. (ie - though the social prompting is there, I am usually cut off before I can get an effective response)

3. It is excruciatingly daunting to have to deal with success rates of 1 in 10 let alone 1 in 50 for someone who really can talk to me without any difficulty on either end. (I am theoretical by nature, so I make even "normal" things sound theoretical, yet I am also Romantic because of it)

4. I don't "bar hop" and hence have no major access to the requisite amount of "new" people to ask such questions in order to make such a tactic feasible. (based on odds)

Am I missing something here, or do we "theoretical types" or "analytical types" (or iNtuitive types for MBTI fans) get left out of society a lot?

-Apollonian
20/M INTJ

PS: Is it also just me or do there seem to be more of the rare, elusive female theoretical types outside the faith than inside of it? Hence the reason why some of us see a whole lot more 'candidates' who are not likely christians. Or is it rather that in "christian society" the role of a thoeretical woman is not as supported? Do young women feel obligated to be the 'nice' biblical figures who provide for their husbands earthly needs, or are there some who feel free enough to pursue their abilities to think and debate on important issues?

Lotar said:

I must admitt that I didn't ask. I just assumed because of some of the things I heard them say. Perhaps I'm being to judgemental.

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how do you know that if you became friends or what ever with them that you wouldn't be able to show them the love Christ has for them...don't ditch em just cause they might not believe like you...you should take a chance on them...just don't go marrying a nonchristian

Man I can totally relate to this thread. When I wasn't saved I used to go to bars girls used ask me to dance, (even though I can't dance) When I first was saved I was working at a resteraunt and several girls over the course of a few years descreetly asked me to have sex with them. I did turn them all down. But I learned not to be a flirt because you will eventully be called on it. I'm very comfortable talking and hanging out with non Christian girls. But I have no idea how to relate to the Christian ones. ( don't get the idea that I am trying to pick them up, cause I'm not)
Actully its funny, in the church I go to now all the guys sit together and all the girls sit together. Its like being in grade 2 again. And there is no rule about it. I really worry that I'll have to settle for a non Christian woman or stay single. Man, some days I just feel like Charlie Brown. Good Grief!!!