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Did God create a specific Woman/Man for us?

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I know there are some people that are called to be single their whole lives and dedicate their lives to the work of ministry if they don't struggle with loneliness etc, good reference is here

What does the Bible say about a Christian staying single?

How Paul was single, didn't have to worry about the struggles of a relationship, dedicated his life to preach the word of God.

But back to my question, does God create a specific woman for every man? I'm not sure. I know Eve was created for Adam, but did God create someone for us specifically?


My theology on this was a little bit different, God made a bunch of woman, gives me as a man the choice to step up and find a woman worthy of marrying that loves Jesus, and ask her for marriage. As long as shes a Christian, and honors him,God is pleased

But did he have a SPECIFIC woman for me all along and that isn't true? Confusing a bit, maybe I'm over thinking
 

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No. The one theology is stolen from Hollywood and projected into Scripture. There may be special cases in which that did happen, but it would be the anomaly. The One is the person you choose to marry.

Follow biblical principles in choosing a spouse, but don't over think it by trying to figure out who the one is.
 
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I think, it's more like God gives us pathways we can choose, following them leads to the plans He has for us (Jeremiah 29:11), but we have free will to take them or not. If we lose track of following God, we choose bad pathways. But if we keep our eyes on Him, it will bring us to the best possible outcomes. So your philosophy of
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God made a bunch of woman, gives me as a man the choice to step up and find a woman worthy of marrying that loves Jesus, and ask her for marriage. As long as shes a Christian, and honors him,God is pleased
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could make sense if this was the case, because finding a good Christian spouse is really the most important thing and shows you are focused on God.

Although just finding a good Christian doesn't mean you're meant to be... some people just don't mesh well together XD I sometimes wonder if God made the guy I'm with just for me cause in so many ways he is everything I ever wanted, and also waaay more wonderful than I could've imagined; he really does feel made for me. But there is also the case of remarriage after a spouse dies. An older pastor I knew got remarried a few years after his first wife passed away. He and his new wife are happy together and follow God together. Certainly this pleases God. So if this one man was only meant to be with this one girl, wouldn't it not be right to remarry?

Also love is a choice, not just a feeling. "Love your neighbor as yourself", "love your enemies", "husbands love your wives", God commands us to love others. Clearly loving your neighbor or an enemy or even your wife when you are fighting is a choice, rather than a feeling. In many cultures throughout history, marriage was arranged, not done for love. Wouldn't that mean all those people weren't able to end up with "the one" because it was arranged? Unless God knew their families would end up arranging their kids to marry, so He made those kids to be each others' "the one" lol @_@

I think in the end this is one of the things God didn't give us black-and-white answers to in the bible lol. All we can do is pray He will lead us to the outcomes He desires
 
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See i do believe in soul mates, and they are made for you, but not for you or them to be the prefect person, it's just they are prefect for you to have a deep relationship for you, you might miss it though, and doesn't have to mean marriage either.

No it's not forever one as people are called to do many things with their life and we do know God has a plan for us, so yes i think that is part of the plan.
 
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I guess, for once, I'll go ahead and post my own theory.

We're all made of the same stuff, and there's only so much room for variation, not boundless possibilities. Regardless, each individual's story or history, etc, is different even if we can find similarities among them. Fundamentally, most of us are compatible, and some are more compatible than others, so the idea of "the one" kind of loses its luster in light of that.

But there is something that can be described as "romantic" about the idea of finding "the one," and while there are many theories and ideas behind the language, I believe there is a real and natural reason for it (and I will probably get in trouble with popular Christianity over this, but oh well). But if we're all fundamentally the same and there is no such thing as "the one", am I contradicting myself? No, not exactly. It's not necessarily something about "the one" that makes that person so special and unique that there could be no other, it's the involvement of a higher power in the situation that makes it appealing, because involvement of a higher power is closely connected to spirituality, and spirituality is closely connected to emotion, even romantic feelings. To put that in other words, I think we naturally have a longing for a higher power, be it "fate," "destiny," or God, to pre-destine a mate for us because that's the way it could, should or would have been in an untainted, unfallen state of existence where God lives in such close communion with humanity that that sort of thing would be common place. Of course, that does not mean that is the way it will happen in our lives, here and now, or that it is not the way it will happen, it's just my theory behind the desire for it. I think poets, authors, new-agers, pagans, philosophers, etc, have all attempted to describe these same natural longings in various ways, and as a Christian, I don't believe it's wrong to say that we have the truth (or the closest thing to it) that explains why.
 
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All responses have made me think so far. Too many people idolize relationships with people and make it their everything without seeking God first, and it ruins them, I've seen it happen to me.

I don't think God would create a specific woman for me, because i don't see it in scripture, but with the relationship I do have with my woman now, its hard not to say, God, was this person for me all along? But heck, all woman from the Lord are amazing, so I don't know
 
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Dari0 said:
All responses have made me think so far. Too many people idolize relationships with people and make it their everything without seeking God first, and it ruins them, I've seen it happen to me.
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I don't know your story, but there is no biblical support for the idea that people can be idols (which are frequently described as lifeless wood and stone that cannot do anything), and I'm not sure why this seems to be a recurrent theme that comes up so often here. Whatever the case, it's enough to give one the impression that people here think that God hates romance. The real support, on the other hand, is rather contrary, to the point that Paul admonished people to not separate from their spouses even if they were heretical pagans lol, and considering the content of the commands in the OT law, the instructions given by Christ, the emphasis placed on relationships, it does appear to me that God, for whatever reason, has been and probably still is very interested in and concerned about relationships between people.
 
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Yes, Dari . . . all God's women are beautifully wonderful in His love and I am constantly awestruck with how any lady of Jesus can help me to become more like Jesus or to do some practical thing that may seem simple and easy but it needs help.

Because our Father wants us to be family, no one able to do things on one's own

"without Me, you can do nothing," Jesus says, in John 15:5.

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I know there are some people that are called to be single their whole lives and dedicate their lives to the work of ministry
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1 Corinthians 7:7 to me means celibacy is a gift of the Holy Spirit and marriage in Jesus is a gift of the Holy Spirit.

And each gift is a love gift. Celibacy specializes someone to learn how to relate intimately in submission to our Father, while matrimony specializes someone for learning how to love in a close relationship. And ones with these gifts in turn minster to others > celibates help us all to relate with God, and married people can help us to learn how to relate with other people, and they can help other couples.

if they don't struggle with loneliness etc,
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Paul was single, but I would say he could not be lonely . . . considering all the people he adopted with his love. Look at how he related with the Thessalonians, for just one example > 1 Thessalonians 2:5-12.

How Paul was single, didn't have to worry about the struggles of a relationship, dedicated his life to preach the word of God.
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I consider that 1 Thessalonians 2:5-12, 2 Corinthians 12:15, and Philippians 1:8 show us that Paul had a number of close relationships.

And 2 Corinthians 12:7-15 can mean that Paul had major problems to deal with. There were troubles beyond human ability to handle. But grace alone made him able to succeed We would make a big mistake to think we can handle anything, on our own

But . . . also . . . our Father wants us involved with different really Christian people, not only with a spouse. We all need each other > we're "members of one another" (Romans 12:5, Ephesians 4:25). So, if we get with some one special someone and mainly share only with that person, this can get lonely because God's love has us in sharing with various other Christians who help us and share with us and teach and correct us so we can do well with our special someone. An isolated marriage can be at least as lonely as an isolated individual.

"For if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)

So - - - if you do not have someone now, it can be good to invest in more and more relating with other Christians who are mature and who help you learn how to relate with and submit to God and learn how to love any and all people . . . so you are ready to do this with the lady or man God has for you.

But back to my question, does God create a specific woman for every man? I'm not sure. I know Eve was created for Adam, but did God create someone for us specifically?
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I think each member of the body is connected with more than one other member, and all need each other. Like this, He has a lady plus other people, for you . . . ones you appreciate discovering; so keep growing and discovering


But how you are now can effect your ability to know who to "choose". Your own character can be the dictator behind your "free will's" choosing. So, first . . . Hebrews 12:6-11 ! ! !

But did he have a SPECIFIC woman for me all along and that isn't true? Confusing a bit, maybe I'm over thinking
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Enjoy discovering
 
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It's interesting how the roman catholic ideologies start to come out of the woodwork almost on cue


1 Cor 7:7 says none of that, and neither does the rest of revelation. Paul, actually, went out of his way to extol marriage, and in more words than he spent on celibacy. The most I can gather from his words on celibacy, is that as a matter of convenience, those who don't marry will not have to bother with the troubles associated with marriage. Of course, he also acknowledged, as a matter of common sense, that the unmarried can have their own troubles to deal with.

Where does this come from?



Ok, I'm going to get into some trouble for this lol. Judeo-Christianity teaches that God, being neither male nor female, wishes to dwell with humanity. It also teaches that humanity is the dwelling place of God. That includes marriage, and other things. In fact, to say that God created everything that was created (including marital relations) for His own sake, is more grounded in biblical Judeo-Christianity than any message that says that God prefers celibacy. Taking the whole of revelation into consideration, this appears to be scratching at the surface of a fundamental problem found in the human race, in revealing a major reason why so many end up separated from God: it's because they imagine evil of God, and related things.
 
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Idols can be anything, people, artists, stars, statues, all the same. Anything that replaces God is an idol.
 
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