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Dealing with Infidelity

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Tuffguy

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revrobor said:
Then we need to strive to be more Christ-like. The Bible clearly teaches that we are to forgive (seventy times seven) and to forgive others as God forgives us.
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I couldn't agree more. I'm very imperfect when i think i have been betrayed. Its just a touchy topic for me. I would not be able to work past something like that.
 
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Tuffguy said:
I'm not married and i'm not single,,, so i'm inbetween most forums. Infidelity spans all relationships. Just marriage topics i usually don't post on.
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What do you think about how the Bible says that husbands are supposed to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her? (Eph. 5:23) I think that pertains to infidelity since Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her despite the fact that the Church cheated on Him(with other religions and loves), beat him and then when she got really annoyed killed him off. Still he loved. That's quite a high calling for husbands, don't you think?
 
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Tuffguy said:
Not sure how this pertains to my post but her goes.

High calling, sure. Divorce is also scriptural if the spouse cheats. God doesn't require or even suggest that a person stay with a cheating spouse.
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Sadly some people like to use this as "Biblical" grounds for divorce but it just doesn't wash. In Matthew when Jesus is talking about men giving their wives a bill of divorce He is talking to men we call "engaged" today. Couples who were preparing for marriage were considered husband and wife before the actual wedding in Biblical days (sometimes even from childhood in arranged marriages). If the man learned his fiancee' had been unfaithful he was allowed to give her a bill of divorcement and did not have to marry her. In God ordained marriages there is no excuse for divorce. Mine is a God ordained marriage and I have no choice to honor my commitment to God, my wife and our marriage. We need to understand who is in control and choose to obey or disobey him.
 
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31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
 
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BigSky, You are quite an honorable man based on your words here. I admire your resolution, strength, and unconditional love. Being a Christian is summed up with loving everyone. What a beautiful example you're showing. The forgiveness you've allowed in your heart will help you and assist you in becoming a man of strong character. What a blessing that you are stopping the seed of bitterness before it starts. You are already ahead in this situation! And the love you're demonstrating to all involved will make the road ahead more bearable and smoother. Keep trusting that God has a plan for ALL things. And be assured you have people here that care and are praying for you. God is a wealth of wisdom and I trust that as you continuously seek Him, you will be able to make it through this road ahead.
Lisa
 
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I know this is very hard on you. This is what I would suggest.
1) God hates divorce [.]
2} if she is willing to work this out? Then by all means hang in there and work it out. This is going to take a long time for the healing & trust to work out. But if you both are willing and work through this then you “both” will be stronger and deeper in love with each other years down the road.
3) Communication is your key. You must talk to each other and be willing to be wrong in something’s in your life & hers. I would strongly suggest you both go to concealing.
“Concealing” is not to embarrass, point fingers at, or say who is right or wrong. But! to help each other Communicate and work through hard times.
4) I would no longer see, or talk to your “SO CALL FRIND” cut all ties to this couple.
Hang in there. Peace
 
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