Dealing with heartbreak?

I am sorry for your pain and I felt that way more than once, sadly. But the good news is that when you press on past the heart ache, you will find hope and hapiness again. If your relationship is meant to be, it will be. When I am feeling out of control, I remind myself that life is only 10% what happens to you but 90% how you react to it. Don't let this kill your spirit or your joy in the present. This too shall pass, if you are willing to let it. I pray that God will renew your Spirit, hope and faith so that His will can be done in your life. Hang in there, one minute at a time. Think of something, anything, to be greatful for and soon they will add up. You never know if she will come back to you and if she does, let her find you happy, and confident. People are attracted to happy people. God bless you

Time heals all wounds. You will get through this, and if you learn from it, you will become a stronger and better person. I've been there (most people have), and it's not easy. Do you have any friends you can talk to during this time? Knowing that someone else out there cares for you is a great tonic in my experience. I'm guessing right now it's probably too painful for you to give any details regarding the nature of the break-up/ relationship, but knowing that, people can better know what help to offer you.

It seems to be that you're dwelling on the break-up/ relationship to your personal detriment (sleeping, eating). Try thinking about other things. Do something/s you never did with her. Do things you couldn't do with her. Go out with friends. Talk to people. Family. I personally find that extended family works better for talking to, cos they're (usually) not emotionally involved in any way, and can offer a fresher perspective on the situation.

One thing that I found worked was I kept thinking, "since this isn't meant to be, something better is going to come along." Then I would start channelling my energy towards growing as an individual person, so that when the "good thing" came along, I would be able to offer them something more than I what I could've offered if they'd arrived straight away.

I don't do this for everyone, but if you wanna talk to someone, PM me. I'll respond as soon as I can. It will get better.

PS - sorry it's so long... I'm a talkative little blighter. :o

I know that feeling. It just happened to me. All I can tell you is that I agree with you 100% and that the best way to move on is to fill up your schedule with other stuff to do so you can't just sit around and mope. I was just broken up with 3 days ago almost now, I have a lot of mixed feelings but the majority of them have to do with feeling as if i can't replace her. feeling like shes the only one who i made sense to and she understood me perfectly. I just posted my story right before you posted yours but i feel like we almost share one.

I promise, Get your friends, Plan out every day for the next 3 weeks. If you're at home then its only to be eatting or getting rest. You need your mind on other stuff and friends will do that best. Work as much as you can right now if you can. I'm currently scared to work. Everywhere i want to work, i'm scared i might see her or she might come by.

Another thing, If you have hope of getting back with her - Move on. the hardest thing for an ex to see is you moving on and getting on with you life. If she does see that and if there is a chance, then she will be the one to come to you. Best of luck to you. God bless!

Until I met my current husband, I felt exactly like you do. I honestly did not think I would find someone that I was more attracted to. Looking back the person who broke my heart, did me a favor because I would have never met my current husband had I hung on to something that was mostly one sided, of course at the time I did not see it. Just take it one day at a time. Breaking up with someone and trying to move on when you still care is just like trying to break a habbit that you know is not good for you. I agree with Wormie that you should find NEW things to do things that won't remind you of what you shared with your ex. Is there something you can think of that you always wanted to do, but she prevented it from happening by chance? Is there something you used to do, but you gave it up for her? God led us here for a reason, and I sincerely hope you are already feeling better, right now. If he led us here, he is already working on your behalf.

Its the worst feeling in the world that only time will help you get over, well my opinion, that and God.

At the time I was dating this mormon girl who made me feel on top of the world and I fell for her fast, and when it ended I was pretty broken up, but I eventually got over it.

Dealing with heartbreak is really hard for me. I've been doing plenty of activities too so I can try to relieve myself, but the pain I have has now lasted for about two years. Really, how long does it take for a heartbreak pain to heal?

When I had the chance to I did everything in my power to make everything right with her, but she made sure not to accept me. I'm getting myself out there to try again. I hope that I can meet someone great who will help me to forget about these pains that won't go away. If you can get over someone without having frequent headaches and sores in your body then consider yourself lucky.

I don't know if there is a cure for these types of pains. Other than that I don't know of any other symptoms I have of bad health. So good luck to you, even though I might need it the most!

Take all of that alone time and dedicate yourself to volunteering(at church or for a charity in town). The best thing to do is keep your time totally occupied and being around others doing good for a cause will keep your mind and heart flowing.