Dating or Marrying someone of a different race

Run to Jesus · Dec 21, 2012

I guess a little more meat to what you just started after meeting on the train.
Like what your family thought and how it all came together.

I come from a family or rather two families that marry from different nations so the whole thing of meeting and marrying someone who was from a different continent would not really be anything new.

motherprayer · Dec 21, 2012

Run to Jesus said:
I guess a little more meat to what you just started after meeting on the train.
Like what your family thought and how it all came together.

I come from a family or rather two families that marry from different nations so the whole thing of meeting and marrying someone who was from a different continent would not really be anything new.

Same here. The color of each of our skin was never an issue. I mean, to me that's a testimony in and of itself, because it was a blessing that we didn't have to wrestle with anything like that.

I don't believe in "race", as I said above. We are ALL members of the HUMAN race, period. My family has never even talked about who's white and who's black. It was always that man or that woman, not that black man.

Funny how mine is the craziest family on the planet, but in this sense I feel others should be more like us.

Run to Jesus · Dec 21, 2012

motherprayer said:
Same here. The color of each of our skin was never an issue. I mean, to me that's a testimony in and of itself, because it was a blessing that we didn't have to wrestle with anything like that.

I don't believe in "race", as I said above. We are ALL members of the HUMAN race, period. My family has never even talked about who's white and who's black. It was always that man or that woman, not that black man.

Funny how mine is the craziest family on the planet, but in this sense I feel others should be more like us.

It would be an interesting thing wouldn't. Any how God would love for us to learn and not every one of us on the planet is there yet! I thank God for you and your family.

Ghazkhull · Dec 21, 2012

I would date and marry someone of another ethnicity if it was the right person
I hope that answer helps.
Cheers!

morethanenough06 · Dec 21, 2012

I am white, my husband is black. Yes, my parents had an issue with it. My mom has always had a problem with people of different colors marrying (somehow it's the color difference, not the culture difference that bothers her). But once they got to know him, their attitude changed. It's been good for them, opened their opinions up a little. When I started dating my husband, I asked my kids if they had a problem with his color. They thought I was crazy for asking (yes!! they're my kids, color-blind like me!!). As a matter of fact, they brag that their step-dad is black, and their little bro is half-black, lol! I love different cultures and different colors, I find it wildly interesting how God made each of us so different and unique.

mandyangel · Dec 21, 2012

motherprayer said:
I don't believe in "race", as I said above. We are ALL members of the HUMAN race, period. My family has never even talked about who's white and who's black. It was always that man or that woman, not that black man.
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Nice post! I agree with you, I think that my family is a lot like yours in that way. However, I don't think that I'd be comfortable dating outside my race, not because I am racist, but because I think it would just change too much in life.

motherprayer · Dec 21, 2012

mandyangel said:
Nice post! I agree with you, I think that my family is a lot like yours in that way. However, I don't think that I'd be comfortable dating outside my race, not because I am racist, but because I think it would just change too much in life.

What exactly do you think would change?

Mikeb85 · Feb 3, 2013

angelT17 said:
In a recent thread on this forum persons said that them dating someone from another race would be an issue.
Some said only their parents would have an issue?
Some said their immediate family only would have an issue?
Some said their extended family would have an issue?

What about you guys? Are you dating or married to someone from another race? Would you date or marry someone from another race? Would your family approve? or Is it that you wouldn't care if they approved or not?

I'm white (although not a part of the dominant culture here), and I married a Caribbean girl who's half black-half indian herself (and her country is quite divided between races), and race isn't a problem for us. I will admit we occasionally clash, possibly due to being raised in different cultures with different expectations, but we're both open-minded.

Both of our families have been accepting (mostly anyway), although a few of my relatives did raise the possibility that she married me to become a citizen of our country, as she's an immigrant (of course, that theory would be false, she already was a permanent resident and eligible to apply for citizenship before we met).

The most difficult part is that our families can't easily meet, being quite far away. So while there are difficulties in marrying someone from a different country and culture, it doesn't have to do particularly with race, just other more practical concerns. In the end though, we do have a great marriage.

Lilly Owl · Feb 3, 2013

I would wonder if people who say they'd date much less marry someone of a different race would say the same about being unequally yoked?

If a person wouldn't marry someone who is not of their faith, how can they marry someone who is not of their race? Especially when in the Bible such unions are forbidden?

motherprayer · Feb 3, 2013

Lilly Owl said:
I would wonder if people who say they'd date much less marry someone of a different race would say the same about being unequally yoked?

If a person wouldn't marry someone who is not of their faith, how can they marry someone who is not of their race? Especially when in the Bible such unions are forbidden?

Where in the Bible does it forbid people to marry outside of their race?

jminnesota · Feb 3, 2013

i think its ok if someone dates someone from another race or etc. dont bother me at all. we are all made from god of course

Lilly Owl · Feb 3, 2013

motherprayer said:
Where in the Bible does it forbid people to marry outside of their race?

Seriously?

One of many verses. (Waits for retort:"But that's the old testament and it doesn't count anymore!" )
Deuteronomy 7:3-4

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.

Mikeb85 · Feb 3, 2013

Lilly Owl said:
I would wonder if people who say they'd date much less marry someone of a different race would say the same about being unequally yoked?

If a person wouldn't marry someone who is not of their faith, how can they marry someone who is not of their race? Especially when in the Bible such unions are forbidden?

This is ridiculous. I can understand not wanting to marry someone of a different faith, belief system, even philosophy.

But race doesn't affect any of this. The last church I went to (Orthodox Church) had about 20 different nationalities, from Indian to Ethiopian, Russian, Greek, South American, etc...

This is either ignorance, or latent racism... And no, the Bible doesn't forbid mixed race marriages.

Mikeb85 · Feb 3, 2013

Lilly Owl said:
Seriously?

One of many verses. (Waits for retort:"But that's the old testament and it doesn't count anymore!" )
Deuteronomy 7:3-4

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.

Assuming both parties are of the same religion, I don't believe the part about serving other gods ever comes into play... And this thread is about inter-racial marriages, not inter-religious which are admittedly more difficult.

motherprayer · Feb 3, 2013

Lilly Owl said:
Seriously?

One of many verses. (Waits for retort:"But that's the old testament and it doesn't count anymore!" )
Deuteronomy 7:3-4

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.

And yet Moses was married to an Ethiopian woman, and when Aaron and Miriam spoke against him about it, the Lord rebuked them and not him (Numbers 12). There was also the marriage of Boaz to Ruth, the Moabitess.

Run to Jesus · Feb 4, 2013

motherprayer said:
And yet Moses was married to an Ethiopian woman, and when Aaron and Miriam spoke against him about it, the Lord rebuked them and not him (Numbers 12). There was also the marriage of Boaz to Ruth, the Moabitess.

Shall I also add that Ruth is also an ancestor of Jesus! Hmm and we are talking about the same God that wrote the Bible. He even orchestrates for Esther a Jewess to marry King Xerxes in order to save the Jews. Allows Joseph to get sold and when he is promoted by Pharaoh Joseph even accepts an Egyptian wife. Yet I am sure Joseph was not blind to the family history that got his Dad to marry his mother and her sister Leah. His Grandma Rebecca did not want his Dad to marry any of the Canaanite women. No, there is a great difference between inter-religion and inter-racial marriage. I am certain that God was more concerned about the belief system than he was about where the person was coming from.

jess9450 · Feb 13, 2013

Lilly Owl said:
Seriously?

One of many verses. (Waits for retort:"But that's the old testament and it doesn't count anymore!" )
Deuteronomy 7:3-4

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.

If Not For Grace · Feb 13, 2013

It would not be a problem for me, but to THIS day My dad would disown me, we have arugued about this issue my entire life-caused a tremendous divide in my family.

jminnesota · Feb 13, 2013

well besides the color of our skins and where we grew up we are all the same. so i dont see what is wrong if a black gets married to a white. or if an asian woman marries a american man or if a mexican get married to a jewish person to be we are all gods children and we are all related. the Human race started with adam and eve so we are all in the world together and god wants us to love everyone the same.

Hetta · Feb 13, 2013

angelT17 said:
In a recent thread on this forum persons said that them dating someone from another race would be an issue.
Some said only their parents would have an issue?
Some said their immediate family only would have an issue?
Some said their extended family would have an issue?

What about you guys? Are you dating or married to someone from another race? Would you date or marry someone from another race? Would your family approve? or Is it that you wouldn't care if they approved or not?

When I was growing up (in France), I was raised to understand that all were equal - regardless of skin color, race, culture .. and that was a good upbringing. At the same time, however, my mother discouraged me from marrying anyone other than a white skinned person, because she said that there was so much prejudice against a black/white couple, and that their children "were confused" about which race they were. I believe that she honestly believed this, because it seemed to contradict her open and often expressed other opinion of equality.

I married an American, and it interested me that when I met him and reported to my family and friends that I had met this man, their first question was "is he black?" I think that they get that from the movies, you know? I don't know otherwise. Anyway .. he was/is not. I don't know whether it would have actually been a problem to any of them, but it would not have made any difference to me if it had. Many of them had a problem with the fact that he was American anyway. LOL. (Many French do not like Americans, and I think vice versa.)

It is a shame that all these years have passed and people still worry about skin color.

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