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Covenant Marriages?

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Marriage is not a FEELING, it is a Commitment that CANNOT and Should Not be broken because you are not HAPPY (also a FEELING). Feelings are constantly changing. Commitment is choosing to stay no matter how bad or good you FEEL. Jesus made a covenant by shedding HIS Blood for us. This is the Covenant of Marriage, that WE, husband and wife, have also made.This is the choice we made when we took the oath in marriage. "...til DEATH do we part". We became ONE Flesh, no longer two. We must search our hearts through the eyes of the Lord when one decides that they no longer "FEEL HAPPY" with the marriage.

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I take the Covenant of Marriage very seriously. I promised my husband and my God to be as one. I love the awesome man who chose me to be his wife. I am committed to that earth angel I call my husband til death us do part. When I say til death us do part, I mean when we both die...not just one of us. We both know we could never be in another relationship or marry anyone else if one of us were to die and leave the other behind. We made our commitment as an eternal one. I love him dearly for giving me his unconditional love.

Thank you Father for giving me my wonderful husband Amen.
 
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Since I keep seeing the quotes around "happy" I can only assume that this thread is directed towards those that posted on my "happy marriage" thread.

Look, my point had nothing to do with the importance of covenants, vows, etc. I was only trying to find out if there were anyone who felt content in their marriage, as it seems like everyone who posts in this forum is not.

I take my vows very seriously, I will be married to my husband until the day one of us dies, but I'm also happy. Even if we have a bad day, don't see eye to eye, etc., I'm still thrilled to be married to him. That seems to be an oxymoron around here, to be committed and happy - like I'm not allowed to feel that way, there's something wrong with me, or that it is just a passing phase.

No, happiness isn't everything in a marriage - I wasn't pretending like it was. However, it is a very important concept that should not be ignoredl.
 
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I'm happy. Verry happy in my marriage.


I know what you mean about so many bad marriage posts. I was shocked when I started reading in the marriage section of this forum to find so many people are unhappy.

I can only assume that this thread is directed towards those that posted on my "happy marriage" thread.
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I did not post in this thread beacause of the thread you made.
I posted here because I was stating that I feel the same way about the vow that I took. And YES I am happy! Couldnt be happier.
 
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I feel that we face a hard truth that we no one will ALWAYS be happy in a marriage and we as Christians have the responsibility to our spouse but we also have to realize that sometimes God takes us into another direction...what if that man or wife is a horrible person...do you tolerate the intolerable or push away the abuse???? I am married and very happy in it and know that I will be married for the rest of my life to this woman but even we as christians have to realize that sometimes things dont work out.

We are part of the covenant of marriage but how long does that go when your husband is beating your kids and you or if the mother is cheating on the husband...Like the song goes...sometimes love just aint enough

Of course there are times that we are normally unhappy and couples have to work thru them but there is no way a person should stay in a marriage just because they are obligated to...
 
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I agree, except in the case abuse. "Till death do us part" should not be because one spouse kills the other. Those being abused should be able to escape their commitment to save their life or that of their children.
 
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I am not saying that a spouse should "physically stay" in a marriage. They should "SEPARATE" and PRAY for their spouse. Not move on to another marriage. God can change circumstances if we give it to HIM. "NOTHING is impossible for God"(Luke 1:37, Mark 10:27, Matthew 19:26). In the mean time, allow God to work in both spouses hearts. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God". God can and will change the hearts of the "abuser" and the "abused". If we humble and give ourselves to HIM first. He can restore the marriage and make it better than it was. I just don't believe that jumping from one marriage to the another is a better choice. "And we know that ALL things work together for good to them that love God"(Rom.8:28).

In the covenant marriage, it is our God given "calling" to be in constant prayer for our spouse. Our responsibility to God and our marriage.
 
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I'm young and unmarried, but it seems to me that the basic marriage vows are not just promises but acknowledgements of God's law relating to marriage. This is perhaps rather hypothetical, but if someone were to vow "till bad times come" instead of "till death do us part", I don't think he's free to move when bad times do come.

I read somewhere that not only adultery but also physical abuse, desertion, and the withholding of financial support are good biblical grounds for divorce, so that in these cases a Christian is free to divorce (& remarry) or remain in the marriage. The argument had to do with the context of Jesus' pronouncement on divorce. It's slightly intricate, but I thought quite convincing. I'll find it and post it if anyone's interested.
 
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