Coping

Distraction is always a good one - I paint and make jewellery.
It also helps to find others who are struggling and try to support them - it's hard to concentrate on one's own problems when your listening to others.
And praying helps too!

Before, I used to just isolate myself from everything. Which is bad.

Now, I try and distract myself. Take my husky out for a walk. Play a video game. Read a book, or read Scripture. Pray. Sleep. Take a nice hot shower. Things like that.

First off I usually have a good cry which helps me feel better by getting my feelings out. I also tend to vent to people and talking to my counsellor helps me a lot I find. I also pray and like to read the psalms as they usually express what I am feeling very well.

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Yeah that's hard. Its important to try and talk with someone about it firstly and like try to take your mind off it. Try to do something fun
love u Joxxx

These days I'm finding the best thing for me is to take it right to Jesus, to tell Him all about it, ask Him to give me wisdom about it and to heal me. Then I can go on about keeping busy, and all the rest.

I learned a lot from this teaching from Charles Stanley:
Charles Stanley - Overcoming Discouragement - YouTube

I'm sorry that guy wasn't the one. I guess he just didn't measure up to what God has planned for you, sweet one!

I go to this site: KingdomTales.Net because I like to rpg. I sing or watch a movie. Both are good distractions.

I've been taking my 7 year old to see a psychologist for her anxiety issues, but the issue of disappointment also came up during her sessions. It's a different kind of disappointment - she is a little perfectionist and sets these impossibly high standards for herself and then when she doesn't reach them she has to deal with the disappointment and not feeling good enough...but I thought the points her therapist made were very good, no matter how old you are or why you're feeling disappointed.

She said it's important to let it out. Scream, punch your pillows, cry, just do something to let all of the frustration and anger and disappointment out. She said it's important that people give themselves the space to experience those feelings. Feelings are not wrong or right, they're just feelings.

The second thing she said we should help my daughter do, is learn to let go of her attachment to the outcome - her need to control what happens, and help her to just enjoy the journey. If we're so focused on the end result, we miss the joy in the journey, and when the end result isn't what we want it to be, the disappointment is even worse. When we learn to enjoy the journey, even when we're disappointed with the outcome, we can still take away the positive things.

When we set our hearts on peopleor on circumstances, we are usually disappointed. God wants us to set our hearts only on Him. He wants us to trust in His goodness, even in the midst of our deepest disappointments. I think it helps to hold on to the promises of God when you're dealing with disappointment, knowing that he is a good God who wants good things for you.