Cookie Question

mle · Jan 8, 2004

Help, I need advise on how to respond to a situation that happened on Wednesday night. We hold a bible study here and serve some refreshments at some point. My husband and I made some cookies.
One of the guests who is also my friend and sister in Jesus, brought some cookies too. I always welcome it when others contribute. At the end of the evening she was gathering her things she left some of her cookies on the plate with the ones we made but she removed some of ours to take home with her.
I fell so silly for being upset about this because it is so petty for me to be upset over just a few cookies but she didn't ask and it looked like she was trying to hide what she was doing. It is a compliment that she likes my cookies and I know I am so silly.
I don't know what to do. I feel so uncomfortable on the inside. I know that it will come in the way of taking communion if it is offerd. I am apprehensive to say anything because she is at a vulnerable, sensitive place in her life. I would rather talk to her than miss out on my relationship with the Lord.
Please help me, pray and seek the Lord with me.
Should I discuss this isuue or just let it go?
Or perhaps you have another suggestion.
Emily

looksgood · Jan 8, 2004

LOL, LOL...cookies?! LOL

Well, I think I know why it bothers you. It hurts to see a sister do something that you know she will take the wrath of God for (and yes He has wrath for something so small, thats why we need Jesus).

You said she was at a bad point in her life. I know I have been there. A direct confrontation may not be the best thing to do. If she is tender and vulnerable the sword may hit more than the sickness.

Be a friend to her. Chances are she knows (if she was really tring to steal and not just playing) that she did wrong. It may be eating her up on the inside. I know when I was in that state I was being ate up by my sins. But try to be as soft as you can with her. Let her know you love her. If you can do that you may be able to bring up the cookies lol. But it may be best to keep quiet for a while and see where she is. Spend some time with her like the profit who was going to curse the city until he sat in it and watched and got to know it.

LightHearted · Jan 9, 2004

I suggest that you let it go. I think it would irk me too, if someone didn't ask, but I don't think it's big enough to mention.

Next time, maybe you could offer leftovers to her before she has a chance to take them without asking.

rwl · Jan 9, 2004

I'd like to comment but can't at this time. Please bake some more of those cookies in question and send them to me A.S.A.P. so I can sample what your refering to!

If it happened to me I'd let it go and take it as a compliment.

Heinrich · Jan 9, 2004

If you don't think this is a big deal in her life.. And like you said she is at a "vulnerable" stage in here life..
It is possible she have already eaten the cookies and forgot about it.

I'll advise that you forgive her. You don't have to go to her ect. Just forgive her in your heart. Go to God and say sorry that you where holding something against her and that He will heal what was broken.
Then go on with life.
You will be lots more worth to her if you'll be a friend to her and maybe help her in her difficult times.. than to fuss about something which is not that important at the moment and loose the friendship.

faith177 · Jan 9, 2004

let it go they are cookies for goodness sakes that you brought to share, I would also suggest praying to help what is in your heart that you would bring something to share then be upset that someone was sharing seems very silly to me.

water_ripple · Jan 9, 2004

Perhaps she thought the cookies were there for everyone to share? Or to take a few home? IMO this could be just a misunderstanding. I doubt she meant any ill will by taking some of yours and leaving some of hers..?

IKTCA · Jan 9, 2004

distancerunner · Jan 11, 2004

I'm not trying to make light of it, but you're right, it is kind of a silly thing to be upset about Maybe try bringing it up to her in a joking manner. Say something like "so...when are you going to bake me cookies to replace the ones you took?"

I would just say forgive and forget, but if you are going to talk to her about it, remember that it was only a couple of cookies which I'm sure you wouldn't have though twice about if she ate them there in front of you.

mle · Jan 11, 2004

I spoke to her today.
I asked if she did take some cookies home. She said yes. I told her that I had been upset that she didn't ask before taking them. I explained that I had a hard time this week deciding wether or not to talk to her and I would not want something to come between our friendship. I told her how I felt that my concern is not over the cookies but over trying to hide something from a friend. She was easy to talk to and very open and not defensive at all. I thank the Lord for this and for the courage to say what was on my heart and restoring the frienship without hard feelings. The conversation ended with apologies and hugs.
Thank you all for your advise. It was much appreciated and helped me through this situation. I also thank you for speaking your heart to me.
Emily

mle · Jan 14, 2004

I am so excited to share with you. I wanted to let you all know how God has used this situation to His good. We had bibe study(home group) last night. I took your advise and made sure I made extra goodies to send home with people. At coffee break time, I was told, by the person I had the issue with, how much she appreciates us having people into our home and what a good baker I was and how much she loves to share in fellowship with us. I responded by telling her that hearing things like she told me makes it all worth it and makes me feel really good that she has been blessed.
As we finnished and were saying our goodbyes she told me that she loved me as she gave me a big hug. I felt it was from her heart. I thank God that He has used this uncomfortable situation to strengthen and buid a wonderful Christ-filled friendship.

Isaiah 42:3
A bruised reed shall he not break, and the smoking flax shall he not quench: he shall bring forth judgment unto truth.

looksgood · Jan 14, 2004

AMEN! LOL So good how God works things out if we just seek Him first.

LightHearted · Jan 15, 2004

That is so awesome!

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