Don't get me wrong, becfause I *do* agree, YouthPastor.
The problem is, she has about a hundred threads (I'm not sure this is even an exageration on my part) out there outlining all the many problems that her and her boyfriend have, and it sticks out to me as one of those times when a woman really needs to decide *if* she can submit to this man for the rest of their lives.
"Feeling" you are right for each other is deceptive. The heart is deceptive. We'd like to believe that "love is all we need", but its simply not true. Actually, God is all we need
Starling has a lot of things to reconcile with God first before we can be in a healthy *relationship* let alone a healthy marriage.
You cannot submit to a man until you are able to submit to God's Will and God's Word, thats for sure. Our feelings are deceptive. I "felt" that a lot of people were "right" for me over the years, but it doesn't always make it true because our emotions lie to us. They cover things up that we do not see until we push those emotions aside and uncover the truth.
As a result, its not a surprise to me that she's asking this question, you know? Because two people who are truly compatible can make the compromises on the little things, and do NOT have to compromise on the truly huge things because they already share those thigns (like faith, for instance, and morals)
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