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I'm Ally.
I'm constantly changing my mind about everything.
I go through normal teenage changes like music and clothing and interests.
But I also change my beliefs a lot.
I know Jesus is always watching me, it's just that I choose to ignore him.
I indulge in whatever I feel like, whenever I feel like it.
The only thing that hasn't yet changed in my life is my addiction to cigarettes..
Yay! I'm a basket case!!
 
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No, you're exactly what you desire to be.
 
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How have your beliefs changed?
In what way do you ignore Jesus?

And btw, throw away any ciggarette you come in contact with. Rip them up and put them in the trash where they belong.
 
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I don't think it is Jesus that you are ignoring, probably more likely to be your own conscience nagging away at you. My philosophy is, as long as I do my best, or as best as possible to avoid hurting others then there's no problem, although I don't recommend doing anything that could be harmful to yourself either.
 
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See that part I put in bold? Once you change your mind about that it will all be good. Then you can do what YOU know to be right because you are intelligent and want to make wise decisions for yourself and your life. Not because someone is watching you!

The downside is you will have to take responsibility. Hopefully you are capable of that. If not, it doesn't really matter does it?
 
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jesusismydawgg said:
Wait.. What?
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You're not a basket case, Allie. You're very much in control. You're following your desires, and your desires will lead you in all kinds of directions, some better than others. At some point in your life, you will be unhappy enough to desire to start to take charge of your desires, to direct them towards the Lord. Once you decide to direct your desires and thoughts toward the Lord, and soften your heart to his Word, you'll feel joy rather than like a basket case.

But no, you are not a basket case; you're just doing a basketful of different, conflicting things right now, because that's what you desire to do.
 
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I think that you are a normal teen.
I agree with flicka: Jesus isn't looking down and marking demerits for everything you do wrong. Jesus commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself, and in so, love God.

Do you sit with the kid that everyone makes fun of? Do you defend a friend being mocked, even if it means the mocking is turned on you? Do you offer a shoulder or ear to someone who needs to talk?

That's all that you are expected to do and be. Give yourself to others. Rejoice with people when something good happens to them. Mourn with them when something bad happens. Give to those who need. Be kind to everyone you see. Lend a helping hand.

If you focus on the good you do, rather than the bad, you will stop thinking that Jesus is looking down on you, and rather, feel God living through you. God offers endless possibility. He doesn't tell you to do the right thing, sending you out to a mind field with no map, where you will bite the dust with one false move. Rather, he offers you endless possibilities, and you Choose Your Own Adventure.

Check out the DVD What the Bleep Do We Know?
It will give you a totally different outlook.
 
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I reckon you're pretty much normal. Not just a normal teenager, but a normal human being. And I don't mean that in the sense that you're boringly 'normal' or mainstream or whatever (I have no idea not knowing you), just that at a basic level there's nothing 'wrong' with who you are and how you feel. I'm always changing my mind depending on the situation and how I'm feeling--I think everyone does.

My addiction to cigarettes never changes either...although sometimes I fancy a straight and sometimes I fancy a rollie so I guess even that changes!

Don't be too hard on yourself. I know that's easier said than done but if you find a part of your attitude to life & yourself that makes you feel bad or stunts you somehow then get rid of it or suspend it for a while if you can.

Committing is a bloody scary thing to do sometimes, and I don't think most people ever find one single area of themselves or their lives that totally fulfils them, so it's about having all of your life and being all of yourself.
 
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