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Can not find a church to call home...

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I began my walk with the Lord almost two years ago and in that time I have spent time at three different churches. I go back and forth from one to another and still do not feel like I've found my place...what is wrong with me? I know the relationship that my heart yearns to have with the Lord, but I'm still so lost and do not feel I am truly receiving everything I could if I could find a home. Any suggestions?
 
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Are there other churches in your area you can try out? When we were looking for a church, we found a hundred (literally!) in our smallish little town. If the ones you have tried out are not feeling like home to you, try someplace else.

Talk to the pastor so you know how he teaches and what his beliefs are. If the church you want to try out has a website (more and more do these days) check them out as well. Get involved in whatever church you try out - go to their Bible studies and Sunday School classes, visit their small fellowship groups, find ways to get to know the people. The more involved you get, the more help you will have in deciding if a church is right for you, and the greater the chance that you will feel at home there.
 
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You know what am having the exact same problem but Ive only been a christian for four or more months now. At first I went to a Pencostal church for a couple of months just to give it a chance. Now tomorrow am going to go to a First Christian church and see what that is like. I think am just going to experince each church until I find the right one. Cheer up there is a church out there for me and you. Just pray about it and keep on lookin!
 
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You'll find there are many people who have the same problem. I'm what I would call an 'out of church' christian (I mean the organisation called the church!) If you have a look in the congregational forums you'll find a forum called 'Home Churched and Unchurched', just for people like ourselves.
 
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Just continue to search and eventually you will find the right one. Why are you still going to the ones that don't feel like home to you? Try out new places. I JUST moved (literally, I got in today) and so now have to find a new Church. I'm not looking forward to it as my last one was amazing and I'm not sure how I will find one that feels as right to me. Good luck!
 
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Hi,

I suppose you have been praying about the Lord placing you in a church where there will be room for you to use your gifts?

For the last 4 years i have been in the same place as you since returning home. Only in the last month have i found a church where my prayers have been answered (I hope!!). Go to the Lord and tell him about your situation in your own words. Yes, it may take some time still, but He will come through for you. Also, do you have any Christians to pray together about this?

God Bless
 
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Being housebound because of illness, my church is my bedroom and my congregation is CF and a christian dating site.

The most important thing of all is your relationship with God.

I've never had the chance to attend proper church, but as far as the Lord feels, isn't one altar the same as another?
 
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Why is it that you cannont settle? Is it because the poeple won't comfort you? Or is it because they don't welcome you with open arms?

We shouldn't expect our walk with God to be an easy one. And we shouldn't search from church to church just to find somehwere where we feel welcomed and at home. We should be wanting to find a place where we can worship God and learn more about him. In time, God will help you to make friends with fellow Christians, and will help you settle, I myself have experienced this, and am glad I have experienced it now, as it will help me later in life.
 
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I am so glad you posted this. There is nothing wrong with YOU. I have been a Christian for over 20 years and having been recently married I am having the same problem in my husbands small-southern-town home.

I had found a Wonderful Church through my neighbor in my previous town and Visit w/them every time I can. (It feels like Home). However different is well Different. I feel I owe it to myself to explore all my options before settling. I must admit, I went to one Church (the Largest Baptist) and had one of the worst experiences from the people in my life. The minister was excellent, I pray he can move those stone-carved people, but his work is cut out for him (he was fairly new too).

People who grow up in one Church (where they know everybody) do not understand the differences that can be felt at different places. Visitors are often not well received in new towns or can be overwhelmed by different practices in enviornments that are not familiar. Paul had a time with the different Churches. Find One that is right for you. God will go with you. He has not been in some of these places in a long time either.
 
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The best experince I have had in my walk with Christ was in my last job. Two of the peers in my shop where Christians. I became a Christian and bonded with them. I then found out what a brother realy is. The bond we had could only be through the love of Christ. Something I had never experinced before.
That was then.
I recently am strugling with finding a good church in a new place. It is tough. I will keep going untill I find my knitch.
I am looking forward not only to having a great Church but a couple of true brothers and sisters to share it with.
 
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