calling all housewives

InTheFlame · Oct 25, 2005

agkitty said:
Oh please, don't give up. I know it's hard, but you are leaving behind a legacy for those kids. Do you want someone else raising them?

Please keep in mind that 'mum getting a job' and 'someone else raising the kids' are not same thing. Hubby and I hope to share care when we have children (God willing)... so that we both work part-time, both look after the kid(s) part-time, and maybe work out an arrangement with family or church members so that they have them occasionally too.

Now Athene might be planning to put her kids in daycare 9hrs/day, 5 days/week... but I think it's a good idea to clarify before trying to convince her against it!

agkitty · Oct 25, 2005

InTheFlame said:
Please keep in mind that 'mum getting a job' and 'someone else raising the kids' are not same thing. Hubby and I hope to share care when we have children (God willing)... so that we both work part-time, both look after the kid(s) part-time, and maybe work out an arrangement with family or church members so that they have them occasionally too.

Now Athene might be planning to put her kids in daycare 9hrs/day, 5 days/week... but I think it's a good idea to clarify before trying to convince her against it!

Gee, feelin the love.

InTheFlame · Oct 25, 2005

agkitty said:
Gee, feelin the love.

I wasn't trying to be nasty! I'm not saying you're a nasty person or anything I WAS trying to point out that maybe what you were visualising, and what Athene had in mind, were completely different.

Do you understand the point I was making? If I was Athene, I'd be quite upset at the assumption you made that I'd be letting someone else raise my kids... and the implication (accidental, I'm sure) that I was simply after something more fun, gratifying and glamorous... ie, that I was being selfish and shallow.

Leanna · Oct 25, 2005

InTheFlame said:
Hubby and I hope to share care when we have children (God willing)... so that we both work part-time, both look after the kid(s) part-time, and

We discussed an arrangement such as this. Our major problems were as follows: to get promoted in the kind of work we want to do, we will have to be full time or be doomed to never ending bottom rung payment/income(at my job, I would have had to be demoted because my position was full time only), we would have had to pay a lot higher premiums on insurance, we would have had more trouble saving for retirement because no retirement benefits, very little or no paid vacation, and I think there were a couple others.... like the fact that since we want 4 children, I would have to take a lot of maternity leave..... so those are some thoughts for you We do shared parenting, we just do it differently

Ilovemyhusband · Oct 25, 2005

SweetBella said:
[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]hello. i am just curious how many other housewives there are on this site who don't have children yet. [/font]

[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]just curious what you do with yourself throughout the week and do you clean daily or only certain days out of the week? also, are there certian things your husband expects of you? things you do special for him? [/font]

[font=verdana, arial, helvetica]i'm curious to what other houewives schedules are like. please share. thank you! :o)[/font]

Hey, sweetheart, what a great question! I am a housewife and I am going to school. *laugh*

Before I started school, I was taking care of our 8 kitties, 1 dog, 1 parakeet, and aquarium. I did laundry, cleaned house, mended, and decorated. I did all the shopping, the budget, the glue to the household as I like to think. I did the most important job of all: there for every one of my husband's needs. Sometimes with all the projects I am taking on as a student, I feel guilty about not being his help mate as much as I was. *sigh*

For my husband, I used to cook dinner and lay out his boxers on the couch. I would rub his shoulders and then serve dinner. I miss that. My schedule is so hectic. *sigh* And I fear once I get my BSN degree it will be more intense than it is now.

InTheFlame · Oct 25, 2005

Leanna said:
We discussed an arrangement such as this. Our major problems were as follows: to get promoted in the kind of work we want to do, we will have to be full time or be doomed to never ending bottom rung payment/income(at my job, I would have had to be demoted because my position was full time only), we would have had to pay a lot higher premiums on insurance, we would have had more trouble saving for retirement because no retirement benefits, very little or no paid vacation, and I think there were a couple others.... like the fact that since we want 4 children, I would have to take a lot of maternity leave..... so those are some thoughts for you We do shared parenting, we just do it differently

Mmmm... we've thought through most of these -

- I have a skill set which, as long as I keep it up-to-date, can keep me in SOME sort of work part-time. Either in higher-level office admin, data entry or my current job, writing manuals. Plus, I'd like to write freelance eventually... which would mean hours of my choosing. Of course, a sound-proofed study might be needed

- Hubby's in a better career area for part-time work. Generally only award wage, but that's better in Aus than in the US.

- Maternity leave... from experience, 2 months _should_ do me, unless there are complications.
- Insurance... why would you have to pay higher premiums?

Leanna · Oct 26, 2005

InTheFlame said:
- Insurance... why would you have to pay higher premiums?

We've always had a group plan insurance, first through my jobs and now through his job. We tried to get one on our own, not through his job, and it would have cost a lot more. It is always cheaper to get on a plan through an employer than to buy health insurance on your own. At least here that's true

InTheFlame · Oct 26, 2005

Leanna said:
We've always had a group plan insurance, first through my jobs and now through his job. We tried to get one on our own, not through his job, and it would have cost a lot more. It is always cheaper to get on a plan through an employer than to buy health insurance on your own. At least here that's true

I was wondering if that was the case. No, here it CAN be cheaper, but most people buy health insurance on their own.

SweetBella · Oct 22, 2006

bump.

bella_song · Oct 22, 2006

I aspire to be a SAHW and then a SAHM, but I lack a husband...

NovemberFool · Oct 22, 2006

This is an old thread, but I'm a WAHW (work at home wife). I write from home and do the household stuff. I never, ever get bored. I'm not opposed to working outside the home, though. I have no plans to be part of the stroller club . A lot of people think I'm lazy because I stay at home without kids.

jessesgirl · Oct 23, 2006

I am a stay at home housewife and have been since we got married in February. I clean through the week as needed, make dinner, I sell Mary Kay, and I run the nursery at church. My schedule stays pretty busy, but I haven't always enjoyed it. It took a lot of adjusting at first but my DH always said that he wanted me to be home when he gets home, so I have adjusted and now I can't see it any other way. Especially with baby Justin making his appearance in January, then you won't be able to get me out of the house for ANYTHING! lol

Unharmonic_Echos · Oct 25, 2006

Does "housewife" mean wives who don't work outside the home? ....just wondering

calling all housewives

InTheFlame

Guest

Active Member

InTheFlame

Guest

Just me

Well-Known Member

InTheFlame

Guest

Just me

InTheFlame

Guest

Legend

Well-Known Member

Active Member

Aspire to inspire before you expire

Beloved of God

Similar threads

Privacy & Transparency

Privacy & Transparency